Yaye ukuba sele sele engaphezu kwama-40? Umfazi ovuthiweyo akayi kubukeka engowomzimba kwisigqoko somtshato omhlophe. Ngaphezu koko, umbala umbala wokuhlanzeka, ulungele ngakumbi kubantu abatsha. Kule meko, kufuneka ukhethe ezinye imibala esekelwe kwixabiso. Umzekelo, obomvu ngumbala wokuzithemba, nangona kubonakala kunzima kubabaninzi. Unokukhetha i-grey - umbala wokungaqondi, umnqweno wokufihla into ethile. Ixabiso lomtshato umfazi oqolileyo ulahlekelwa yintengo yengqondo yexabiso leeholide.
Inokwenzeka ukuba, iya kuba ngumkhosi ovaliweyo kunye nesibini yezihlobo. Kwaye ukuba akuyena umtshato wokuqala? Nantsi intsingiselo, inokwenzeka ukuba, ukuba ulungelelanise ubudlelwane, iholide apha kwaye ayivumba. Umfazi okhulileyo kufuneka anelisekile encinci, kuba uluntu alunamkeli kwaye aluqondi. Umfazi ovuthiweyo, oko kuthetha ukuba uyayilumko, ngenxa yokuba iminyaka ibeke iimfestile entloko yakhe, akayi kuphinda aphinde abe mfana, kwaye uyaziqonda kakuhle. Ngoko musa ukugxotha abancinci, ungazami ukubukeka njalo njalo. Nangona ixabiso lomtshato omncinci, umfazi osemncinci akafanelanga nexabiso lomtshato kumfazi okhulileyo.
Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, kukho iindibano zemitshato zomtshato eziza kwenza umtshato nawuphi na umfazi. Kodwa kufuneka uthathe ngokungqongqo kwaye uqonde oko, ufuna umtshato. Ibhinqa elivuthiweyo liya kukhetha ukubiza okungcono kakhulu, umgangatho omncinci kunye naphezulu, kunokuba ungabizi kwaye uninzi. Umfazi ovuthiweyo uyaziqonda kakuhle kwaye umele oko akufunayo umtshato, oko afuna ukugqoka kwaye uya kwenza konke njengoko ebona kufanelekile, ngokungafani nomfana omncinane. Intsingiselo yomtshato namhlanje ilahlekelwe yintsikelelo yayo, eyayibekelwe imali kweli gama. Ngaphambili umtshato wawuhamba kunye nemikhuba emininzi, imiboniso, idaniso. Izivumelwano zeenkozi zahlonishwa ngcwele, kuba "zathwesa ingqungquthela, kwaye zatshata-kuzo zonke iintlungu, kuzo zonke ulonwabo."
Ngoku ungakwazi ukudibana nale nto, kodwa sele sele ihamba ngekhulu leminyaka elidlulileyo, ivala ingcango yomnyango wensimbi emva kwayo. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, izithethe ezintsha ziyavela. Ngoko, umzekelo, kwakukho isithethe sokudanisa umdaniso wokuqala wabasanda kutshata. Esi sibini sichaza ingoma yomdaniso wabo wokuqala, okanye idansa kwingoma enikezwa ngumbonisi. Amabhangqwana amaninzi alungiselela ukudansa kwangaphambili. Mhlawumbi yeso isizathu sokuba kube lula ukuba umfazi oqolileyo atshade namhlanje, kunokuba asithi iminyaka engamashumi asixhenxe edlulileyo.
Emva kwakho konke, ngoku awuphulaphuli umtshato, kwaye uza kuwe. Ngaba ufuna i-gypsy? Nceda, ubuncinane ibhande lebhesi kwaye akukho namnye oza kuthetha nantoni na, gxuma nje. Unokulungiselela umtshato, kukho izibini eziye zahlala iminyaka emininzi yomtshato kwaye zanquma ukutshata. Ingakumbi ngoku ibuyele kwimfashini.
Ewe, kuthekani ngaphandle kohlobo lwe-honeymoon? Uphi umehluko oneminyaka engakanani? Unokuya kwiindawo ezikude kude, okanye ungaqeshisa indlu emadlelweni agqitha umlambo. Oku kukhethwa ngabantu bonke. Okufanayo kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kunye nokukhuseleko lwezinto ezisemtsha. Ayikho yonke ipakethi iya kuvumela ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwihlabathi. Into ephambili kwesi sihloko kukuba ezo zombini ziza kuba zilungileyo, kwaye akukho nto enokukhetha kuyo.