Le nkcazo inikezwa ngengqondo, kunye nomgaqo-mfundiso-ukuguquka, kuqondwa njengento echaseneyo yokuzingca. Ndifuna ukucacisa ukuba ukuzingca kwiingcamango zokuziphatha kukuziphatha, ngokubhekiselele kuyo into enomdla ithathwa njengento ephakamileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukunyaniseka kunye nokuzingca kunobungqina obuchaseneyo, njengoko kuboniswe ngcaciso echazwe ngasentla. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha phakathi kwezi ngcamango ezimbini kunokulandelwa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Luhlobo luni loqhagamshelo olu, olubonakala ludibanisa iimbono ezimbini ezihlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa ebomini kukho iimeko apho iinjongo ezithandabuzayo zibukeka ngathi zizingca. Into efana nayo ingabonwa kwintsimi yesithandwa esithandwayo-ukusuka ekuthandeni ukuzonda inyathelo elinye. Xa abantu abanomdla kubamelwane babo babonisa uthando olukhulu, luthando.
Ngaloo ndlela, kwezinye iimbambano zokungazi, ukuziphatha okungenakuzenzela kukusebenza ngokukhusela. Kwaye ngaphantsi kweendlela zokukhusela kwi-psychoanalysis kuqondwa izenzo ezingaziwayo ezikhusela ekuhlaselweni kwezinto ezikhoyo kunye noxolo lwangaphakathi lomntu. Kule nkcazo, umxholo wokuhlaselwa uthetha, umzekelo, umona, umona, inkolelo, iphupha, ukunganeliseki njalo njalo. Ngoko ziziphi iimeko eziza kuba zizingca? I-altruism iya kuba yinto yokuzingca kwiimeko apho ukulinganisa, imfundo echanekileyo, ukuxhomekeka kwezinto ezinqabileyo, ukutshatyalaliswa ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nothando olungathandabuzekiyo luya kwenzeka. Ndingathanda ukucacisa ngamnye ngalunye ngcaciso. Ingqiqo yokulinganisa inencazelo elandelayo: yinkcazo yomntu ngezenzo kunye neengcamango ezivumela ukuba acinge kwaye azifihle izizathu zabo. Okokuthi, umntu uyazikhethela iinkcazo ezithile ezithile ezifihla injongo ehluke ngokupheleleyo.
Ingcamango elandelayo yokwenza umsebenzi osebenzayo kuthetha ukufuduka kweengcamango ezingathandekiyo okanye ukutshintsha ezinye izinto ezilungele ubomi. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana abathi, kwiminyaka yabo yeshumi elivisayo, babonisa ubundlobongela kumama wabo, bathambekele ekubeni bathambekele kulo. Aba bantu babonakaliswa ngokugqithisa, ukuziphatha kwabo kufana nokubonisa. Ukungeniswa kwe-Altruistic kukuxhomekeka ekuthandeleni abanye kwizinto ezizenzekelayo.
Umzekelo wokuziphatha okunjalo ngabasetyhini abangakaze babe nabantwana babo, baphathwa nge-hyperopeak kubantwana beentsapho, abaqhelana nabo. Ukungeniswa kwe-Altruistic kukuchasene ngokupheleleyo nokulahla. Oku kuziphatha kuyingqayizivele kwisithathu esinqabileyo kunxantathu yothando, xa abaphikisanayo beba, bazinikela kakhulu. Kwaye umqondo wokugqibela uluthando oluthile, olubhekiselele ekuziphatheni komntu olungenammiselo kwaye ngokuhlala linika uthando kwabanye abantu, ekuphenduleni apho ufuna ukufumana isimo esifanayo. Abantu ababonakaliswa ngolu hlobo bafuna uthando, bavame ukuba nengqiqo ebomini babanye. Ngaloo ndlela, ndingathanda ukudweba umgca phantsi kwayo yonke into ekuthethwe ngayo kwaye wenze ezinye izigqibo. Ukwenza izigqibo ezivela ngasentla, ngokungazibandakanyi ngokungabandakanyeki ingcamango yokuba phakathi kokunyaniseka nokuzingca. Lo mzekelo wokuziphatha ungabonwa ngobomi bemihla ngemihla, kubandakanywa nezihlobo zethu. Ndiyathemba ukuba le ngcaciso iya kunceda ukuphepha ukungaqondani okungavela.