Apha sithetha ngenkululeko yobudlelwane (umtshato), kodwa ininzi lethu la magama mabini ahambelani. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo kwakucatshangelwa ukuba ukuba umfazi kunye nendoda esatshatileyo emtshatweni womthetho, ngoko bahlala omnye komnye. Ewe, emtshatweni kubalulekile ukuba uzive ukuba ungumntu. Emva koko, umtshato wadalwa ngokuchanekileyo ukuze kulungiswe imiba yempahla. Khumbula, ininzi emininzi kwiminyaka edlulileyo kwaye umfazi wayebhekwa njengendoda yomntu. Ngoko ngoku, le nkolelo ihleli phantse ngamnye wethu. I-Patriarchate ihlala ingqondweni yethu.
Ulwalamano olonwabileyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, umtshato kunye nenkululeko yabantu kwihlabathi lanamhlanje banomlambo obusondeleyo. Umlinganiselo olwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yintando kunye nenkululeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo inkululeko!
Ukuba akukho luthando, inkululeko yomntu kunye nolwalamano phakathi kwowesifazane kunye nendoda ingakwazi ukuguqula izinto ezinjengobuqhetseba, ukutshabalalisa kunye nentando yeninzi. Kwaye ngaphandle kwenkululeko, uthando ngokuhamba kwexesha lukhula lube ngumsebenzi kunye nomsebenzi, ukuvakalelwa kunye nomoya wobunini. Kwaye, uThixo akavumelekanga, kukho ukuzingca nobudlova phakathi kobudlelwane! Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yentlekele ebubudlelwaneni bomtshato kukuba ukungabikho kwenkululeko kwintsapho.
Asikwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwenkululeko, inxalenye kaThixo yobuntu bethu. Ngaphandle kokuqonda okanye ukuqonda, sifuna inkululeko. Ngamanye amaxesha lo uphando luphela ngokuqhawula okanye olunye uhlobo lolwalamano.
Umntu ngamnye unomnqweno wokuzalwa wenkululeko. Abanye bathetha inkululeko yabo ngokuziphatha kwangaphambili kunye nezambatho. Abanye - ubudlelwane besondo obukhululekile. Kodwa ukubonakala kwangaphandle kwenkululeko kuba ngumphumo wokungapheli komzimba.
Ziziphi iimeko eziyimfuneko ekuphuhlisweni kwenkululeko kunye nokukhululwa kwangaphakathi? Emva koko, ukukhululwa kuya kusinika ithuba lokufumana inkululeko yangempela kwihlabathi lanamhlanje elisijikelezayo. Isilinganiselo sokucinga, umnqweno womntu wokuphuhliswa rhoqo, ukuqonda, ukubonakaliswa kothando kunye nokungabikho kwee-complexes - yindlela efanelekileyo yokufezekisa injongo.
Ukuba ekuqaleni ubeka lo mgaqo ekudalweni komtshato, kwanokuba kuvela ulwalamano, ngoko umnqweno wokwenza iqabane lawo liza kutshabalala. Emva koko inani leqhawulo lomtshato liya kuncipha, kwaye uthando luya kuqina ngakumbi (inkululeko iphakamisa iimvakalelo zothando). Isikhundla sothando siya kwanda kwaye abantwana bakho abonwabileyo baya kukhula kuyo.
Yaye ukuba wenza okuchaseneyo, gcina iqabane lakho liqine, ngoko umtshato uza kulwalamano. Kutheni umntu engasetyenzisanga ukusindisa othandekayo osondeleyo: bazivumelanisa, babekezele, bazenzele, bazihlazise, balahlekelwe yimbonakalo yabo. Kodwa ezi zixhobo zixinzelela izinto ngakumbi. Ihlabathi, njengoko liyaziwayo, alwamkeli i-secession. Kwaye lowo ozama ukuhlukanisa enye inxalenye yalo kwaye uyigcine ngasemva kwayo ngokuqinisekileyo uyalahlekelwa yiyo.
Ufumana kuphela umntu owaziyo ukunika!
Yiba njengabantwana bakho - bayayithanda ngokunyanisekileyo wonke umntu (ngaphandle kokuba abazali bekhohlakele umntwana wabo)! Khumbula, abantwana bavame ukuphinda bathi bayamthanda lo mntu okanye loo mntu. Abazali bexhala kwaye bacinge ukuba abantwana babo abathandi. Ukunyanzelisa umntwana ukuba athande yena ngokwakhe, ngoko bahlwayela "imbewu" yeengxaki zexesha elizayo zabantwana babo. Le mbewu izakubonakalisa kungekuphela kwintsapho, kodwa nakwimpilo yobomi bentsapho yomntwana. Ingxaki ezininzi zobuntu kwiintsebenziswano phakathi kwamadoda nabasetyhini zivela ebuntwaneni.
Inkululeko ivela entloko! Kusemqondweni womntu ukuba inani elikhulu lokungaqinisekanga lihlangene. Gcwalisa ihlabathi ngombono omtsha wehlabathi, ukukhulula ingqondo kwi-trash endala! Imigaqo ecetywayo yokwakha intsapho iya kukunceda ulahlekise ukukhohlisa kwaye uzalise amandla amatsha enkululeko. Jabule!