Iindlela ezihlanu zokuqalisa ubomi obutsha


Awunelisekanga kuwe kwaye unqwenela ukutshintsha ubomi bakho, kodwa awazi ukuba ungaqala kuphi? Ngoko, nguwe osibhekiswe kwiingcebiso zethu. Ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi ngokuthatha ezi zintlanu iindlela zokuqala ubomi obutsha, uya kumangaliswa ukufumanisa ukuba ithemba elilindelekileyo livulekele kuwe. Into ephambili - khumbula: ukuze ubomi bakho bube bhetele, kufuneka uqale ukutshintsha ilizwe lakho langaphakathi, kwaye emva koko uthathe indawo.

1. Buyisela uvuyo lwakho

Uthetha ukuthini igama elithi "ukuzonwabisa"? Ukuba ucinga ngokuphendula umbuzo onjalo, kuthetha ukuba ebomini bakho le ntliziyo ayanele. Abantu bafaka kule ngcamango intsingiselo eyahlukileyo kakhulu, kodwa simanyene nento yokuba sonke sidinga ukunandipha ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ukunyanzelwa kwezinto ezincinci umntu uyazikhusela ngaphambi kokudandatheka.

Nangona unobungozi obukhulu kwimvelo kwaye awushiywanga ekhaya okanye emsebenzini ongenomthwalo wokunyamekela, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uzinqabise ukuzonwabisa kunye nokuzonwabisa. Emva kwakho konke, xa ujabule into ethile, iingcamango ezingenasiphelo ziya kwimvelaphi, kwaye ubomi bubukeka bulula kwaye bungabikho. Kufika uxolo kwengqondo. Kwaye ukuba uhleka ngexesha elifanayo, ngoko uhlala uphilile ngokwenyama, kuba umzimba uqala ukuvelisa amahomoni ancedo. Iingcali zenzululwazi ziye zafakazela ukuba kubantu abanobukrakra abantu, kwanokuphulukiswa kalisa kukukhawuleza! Ukongeza, umntu onomdla obonwabileyo ukhangela abanye abantu abonwabileyo.

Ukuze silandele le ndlela abaninzi bethu banqandwa ngumkhwa wokuphila phantsi kwesiqubulo esithi "Okokuqala kuzo zonke iindiza ...". Silwela ukwenza imisebenzi ebalulekileyo kuqala, kwaye thumela iimnandi ukuya ekupheleni kwoluhlu. Kodwa ekubeni zonke iimeko azize zitshintshe, kuvela ukuba asikho ixesha lokuqalisa ubomi obutsha.

Ngaba ucinga ukuba awukwazi okokukholisa wena? Ngaba ucinga ukuba ukuzonwabisa kuye kwaze kwaphela ngonobuntwaneni bakho? Musa ukukholwa ngokwakho, akunjalo. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokuqinisekisa oku:

♦ Bhala kwiphepha lakho yonke iminqweno yakho oyifunayo, kodwa engazange ifumaneke ngenxa yokungahambi kakuhle okanye umsebenzi wakho. Xa ubeka ingongoma, uza kubona phambi kwakho uludwe lweendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzikholisa. Ngoku nje into oyifunayo kukuba ukhethe ixesha.

♦ Khumbula oko kukunikezela uvuyo ebuntwaneni. Uninzi lwezi zihlandlo ongazinandiphayo namhlanje, ngokukodwa kuba zihlala zifumaneka kwaye azidingi iindleko eziphathekayo. Ngokomzekelo, ngosuku oluhle lobusika, thabatha uhambo ukusuka entabeni ephothiweyo "kwindawo yesihlanu", upende kwi style "graffiti" udonga lwe-dacha yakho.

♦ Ukhetho lokuphumelela luya kuma-movie kwi-comedy. Emva koko, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nesimo esihle sengqondo. Ngeentsuku ezilandelayo, xa kuvela iingxaki ezixinzelelekileyo, khumbula amahlaya avela kwifilimu eninzi inokukukholisa.

2. Phila namhlanje

Ngelishwa, ngamnye wethu unamava okwehluleka kunye nokudumala. Asikwazi ukusinda kubo, kuba liyinxalenye yobomi babantu. Kwaye kaninzi kangakanani iifrime ezidlulileyo zithwala umthwalo onzima, ukuthintela ukuhamba ubomi lula kwaye ngokukhululekile! Thina sihlala ixesha elide phantsi kwefuthe yento eyenzekayo kwaye ngoko ke siphuthelwa okulungileyo esi sinikezela ngoku. Ngokomzekelo, xa sididekile ebuhlotsheni, ngokusisigxina siyazikhupha ithuba lokuzifumana kwakhona. Kwaye emva kokungcatshiswa kwendoda yakhe, siyazigweba ngobomi obuthathaka ngaphandle kothando. Kodwa awukwazi ukuhlala njalo!

♦ Hlela kwaye uzenzele yonke into eyenzekayo emva kwakho yonke imihla. Yakha indlela oziphatha ngayo kunye nolwalamano nabanye abantu ngale ndlela, ngokuqwalasela okwenzekayo apha kwaye ngoku. Ngamanye amaxesha kunceda ukuthetha ngeengqondo iziganeko: "Ndiya ekhaya kwikhasi elifudumele kwaye elikhanyayo, ngaphandle kwefestile ekhanyayo, insizwa engumntu ongeyonto ingachukumisi amehlo ami ..."

♦ "Bhala kwakhona" lakho elidlulileyo. Ukuba ukhangele uhlazekile okanye udidekile, cinga ngenye intuthuko yeemeko, apho unqoba khona iigzags zexesha elizayo kwaye uphume uphumelele. Akunandaba nokuba kwakungekho. Kodwa elidlulileyo liya kukuvumela ukuba uhambe.

♦ Ukuba uzibamba ukukhumbula izilonda ezindala, yeka, gcina umoya wakho malunga nemizuzwana emihlanu uze ucinge ngento evuyisayo. Gcina kwimemori yakho. Le nkqubo izokukunceda ukuba ubuye ukusuka kwixesha elidlulileyo kuze kube ngoku kwaye uhlale kulo.

3. xabisa oko unakho

Uninzi lwethu sakha zonke iintlobo zezicwangciso zobomi, ngokuqhelekileyo azifezekanga ngokukhawuleza, okanye zihlale ziphupha. Omnye akaphelelwa yithemba kwaye uyaqhubeka nokuphinda aqhube umgomo. Kwaye umntu ulungiswa oko angakufumaniyo, kwaye ngenxa yoko, kukho ukuvakalelwa. Kodwa esi sivakalelo sine-antidote.

♦ Njalo ubusuku ngaphambi kokuba ulale, khumbula into enokukunika yona - kokubili ngosuku oludlulileyo kunye nobomi bakho obudlulileyo. Ukuba uzama kanzima, i-akhawunti yakho, siyaqiniseka, iya kubaluleka. Funda ukuqonda oko usenayo. Khangela ngeenxa zonke: ngokuqinisekileyo ebomini bakho ubuninzi obuhle buqokelele, apho ungafuni ukuwenqaba. Kwaye xa usibona oku, zama ukuqonda ukuba ubomi buhle kwaye ukhalaza sisono.

♦ Xa uyavuya, ungesabi ukuzivuma. Ngokuqhelekileyo bathethe ngokuthe ngqo

uyayixabisa ebomini bakho. Cinga ukuba oku kuya kuqhubeka ubomi bakho bonke, kwaye ujabulele lo mva. Yaye mayeke abantu obathandayo nabathandekayo bazi ngesimo sakho sengqondo kubo. Musa ukuvila ukuzikhumbuza ngazo, amahlanu amahlanu ngosuku.

4. Musa ukuhamba malunga nabanye

Igama elifutshane nje "akukho", kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukulibiza! Kwiimeko ezifanayo ezinqabileyo, xa siphumelele, sihamba kunye nokwenqaba kweenkcazelo kunye nokuxolisa. "Andikwazi ukunyamekela inja yakho, kuba ndinomsebenzi wamagxathu amabini, inyana engumdlali wokuqala, umyeni onobuhlungu, iintaka ezintathu ..." Imifanekiso eqhelekileyo, akunjalo?

Kunzima ngathi ukuba cha, kuba abafazi basemgangathweni olusondeleyo ukuze bancede. Kodwa awukwazi ukuphulaphula izinto zakho, ngaphandle koko uya kuhlanjululwa yintlungu yokunganeliseki. Ukukhanyela umntu ngesicelo esingenakwenzeka okanye esingenangqiqo, uyamphoqa ukuba aqikelele kunye nawe, kwaye ekugqibeleni-zikhusele ekubeni uhlale phantsi kwaye uhambe.

♦ Ungaphenduli isicelo sesiphoso ngokukhawuleza. Cela ixesha lokucinga, ngokubhekiselele kwisidingo sokujonga ngemicimbi ejoliswe kuyo. Kwimeko yokuzola, cinga ukuba ufuna ukuphendula ngemvume okanye cha. Ukuba awufuni, xelela ukuba wenqabile ngokuzithoba, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo.

♦ Musa ukunyanzelwa ngokuxolisa. Ziyakucasula kuphela umchasi wakho, kwaye ukhangeleka ngathi uzama ukuguqula. Kulungile uchaze ithemba lokuba ingxaki iza kuxazululwa ngaphandle kwakho.

♦ Khumbula iimeko odla ngazo ngokuthi "ewe" ngokuchasene nokuthanda kwakho, kwaye uzilungiselele kwangaphambili.

5. Musa ukuthukuthela.

Iingcali zengqondo ziye zafumanisa ixesha lokuba ingqumbo yeso sizathu sokuba kukho konke ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo yomntu. Siyacaphuka ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuba sicinga-kuthi thina, kwabanye, njengaye. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kunye nezenzo ezintle, senza kuphela ngenxa yeemvakalelo zetyala, oko kukuthi, intlungu enkulu: "Ndiyingozi kakhulu! Ndifuna ukwenza into enhle ... ". Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukujamelana nawe. Kodwa kufuneka uzame. Njalo xa kukho into eqala ukukwenza ube nomsindo - musa ukukhawuleza ukwenza. Yeka, uthathe umoya ophelileyo, ulinde nje imizuzwana embalwa. Malice yinto yesikhashana. Iyadlula ngokukhawuleza - wena uya kumangaliswa ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye awuyi kuba nexesha lokwenza ngokusweleka kobuwula, oya kuzisola ngalo.

Siyabulela kule ndlela ezintlanu zokuqala ubomi obutsha, unokuzikhulula kulokho kukuvimbela ekufumaneni uxolo novuyo. Kusemandleni akho - ukuba ujabule apha kwaye ngoku, kwaye kungekhona kwenye indawo ngenye imini. Sifuna nje utshintsho - kwaye ujabule!