Kukho amanyathelo athile anceda ukuqinisa imizamo yabo kulabo bathathe isigqibo sokuba batshintshe ubomi babo, ukuze ezi tshintsho zihlale zide kuneentsuku okanye ezimbini.
Okokuqala, cinga ngezizathu zokuba ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi bakho. Yintoni engafanelekiyo kwiimeko zangoku? Yintoni eya kuphucula, yiziphi utshintsho eziya kwenzeka? Bhala phantsi iphepha. Cinga ngemiphumo engenakwenzekayo yenguqu. Ngaba baya kuba okanye akunjalo? Ukuba kunjalo, igalelo labo lingancishiswa njani? Cinga kwaye wenze isigqibo ngokuchanekileyo ngokusemgangathweni kanye nantoni na xa ufuna ukukwenza ukuze uqale ubomi obutsha. Kungaba yinto efanelekileyo ukuceba isicwangciso senzo kwaye ucinge ukuba ngaba kukho nawuphi na uqeqesho oluyimfuneko, nayiphi na imimiselo yokuphunyezwa kwesi sicwangciso.
Izenzo ziya kunceda ukufumana iimpendulo kule mibuzo elandelayo. Iyintoni injongo yobomi bam? Yintoni ebalulekileyo ebomini, yiyiphi eyona nto ibeka phambili? Ndifuna ukuba njani kwiminyaka embalwa, ndifuna ukufezekisa ntoni? Yintoni efunekayo ukufezekisa ezi njongo? Ziziphi izithintelo ezinokuthi zibe ngendleleni, ziphi na izithintelo ndiya kuhlangabezana nazo? Le miqobo ingayinqoba njani?
Uya kufumana uhlobo lwesicatshulwa esiza kukunceda ukuba ubone izinto eziphambili kwizinto zokuphila kunye nenani lexabiso, kunye nokwenza isicwangciso esincinane okanye esincinane. Kwaye umntu onesicwangciso, kunokuba abe neengcamango eziphazamisayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba afanele ukufezekisa oko akufunayo kwaye angalahlekelwa yindlela ejoliswe kuyo. Kwaye ukuba umntu uyaphula, isicwangciso senkqubo siya kumnceda ukuba abuyele ngokukhawuleza endleleni efanelekileyo. Cinga ngo kwenzeka ukuba ngolunye usuku kuya kuba nzima ukuba ulandele olu cwangciso olukhethiweyo. Uza kwenza ntoni ngoko? Cinga kwakhona, ngaba ufuna ukuguqula ubomi bakho, okanye kukulungele ukushiya yonke into kwindawo yayo? Cinga ngeenguqu ezintle ebomini obengaphambili. Ngenxa yoko, yiziphi izenzo owazifikelela kuzo? Amava adlulileyo aya kunika ithuba lokuqonda ukukhutshwa kwangoku. Ukuba usanda kuqalisa ukutshintsha ubomi bakho, cinga uze ubhale phantsi ukuba zenze ntoni ukuphucula?
Ukuba ngokukhawuleza kukho umnqweno wokuyeka yonke into, cinga ngezizathu zokuba uqalisile konke oku, funda okufakwayo kwakho. Cinga ngeenjongo eziza kuzaliseka, ukuba uyaqhubeka, cinga ukuba kuya kuba kuhle kangakanani kuwe. Ukuba ezinye iingxaki ezivela kwixesha elidlulileyo zigcina wena kwaye ubuyela emuva, zama ukuhlala endleleni yakho efanelekileyo, ufunde isicwangciso, uzikhuthaze, ucinge ngezinto ezilungileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo emva kobunzima bokuqala, abantu bayashiya izicwangciso zabo, beqonda ukuba yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi kunokuba ibonakale ekuqaleni. Oku kubi. Cinga malunga noko sele usufezile. Yeka ukulahleka kwiinjongo ezikhethiweyo uze ubuyele kwindlela yakho ecwangcisiweyo. Khumbula ukuba amandla akho, ukungafani nobulumko kukuwe! Funda ukusebenzisa le nto ukutshintsha ubomi bakho.
Ukuba ufuna ukuguqulwa, zama ukuyeka ukuya phambili, ukuxolela izikhalazo ezindala, zitsho i-complex to the complex. Zama ukukhanya, ubeke ithemba, ucinge ngempumelelo, uqalise inkqubo yenguqu yakho kunye noshintsho. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, phinda uqinisekise. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uzive ungenakuzithemba ngawe, phinda uthi: "Ndiyathemba ngam!" Kwaye njalo ngokufana. Gxininisa ingqalelo kwimilinganiselo yakho, kholelwa kuwe, ngokuzicwangcisa ngokwakho ukuphumelela. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, akukwenzeka kwangoko, oku kufuneka kusebenze, ngakumbi xa siqala ukusebenza thina ngokwehlabathi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukususela ekuqaleni, oko kukuthi, phantse ngokupheleleyo.
Ukuba ukhangelelana neempawu zakho, ngoko umzekelo ungayenza ukulungiswa kwindlu. Okokuqala ulahla udoti kunye nodoti, uchithe iphepha lodonga kunye njalo. Ngoko kufuneka uzicocise udoti, udoti kunye nothuli, okwenza indawo ibe yinto efanelekileyo "yokulungiswa". Ngendlela, kwaye umyalelo kwihostlu ulungile kakhulu ukuzisa. Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha ubomi, unokwenza utshintsho kwizinto zangaphakathi: uphonsa izinto ezindala, ulungise ifenitshala, ubambe iifowuni, wenze ulungiso lwezonyanyiso okanye lukhulu, njengoko uthanda.
Kwakulungile ukutshintsha i-wardrobe, ngakumbi ukuba awuzange uyihlaziye ixesha elide. Zithenge izibuyekezo ezimbalwa, utshintshe i-perfume, makeup, ungatshintsha neenwele zakho. Ukuba unako ukuyifumana, qokelela zonke iingubo zakho zangaphambili kwaye uzinikele ekusizeni, kwaye uhlaziye ngokutsha i-wardrobe yakho. Unokwazi ukucinga ngesitayela esitsha kunye nomfanekiso, zama ukuhlanganiswa olutsha kunye nokudibanisa. Zithenge isihlangu esitsha, isikhwele, isikhwama, izixhobo okanye nayiphi na into. Into ephambili - tshintsha kwaye ungesabi ukuzama!
Zama ukutshintsha imikhwa yakho okanye ukuguqula. Ngaba usela ikofi kuphela ekuseni? Zama ukutshintshela kwijusi, itiye, i-cocoa, njl. Ukusetyenziswa ukuhamba nokukhwela kwindlela efanayo? Zama ukuyitshintsha. Zama ukungena kwimidlalo, uhambe rhoqo, uhambe nje kwisitalato.
Cinga ngezinto ophupha ukwenza ixesha elide, kodwa kwakungekho xesha, akukho mnqweno. Mhlawumbi sekude ufuna ukubhalisa kumdaniso, inkambo yezinwele okanye ufunde isiTaliyane? Thatha isenzo. Fumana i-hobby, udibanise ubomi bakho, ungeze kuso into yokuzimela. Funda iincwadi ezilungileyo, funda izinto ezintsha, uxoxe nabantu abalungileyo, wenze iziqhelana ezintsha. Unokuzama ukutshintsha imeko, uye kwindawo ethile kwithuba elithile, ukuba kunokwenzeka. Zama ukwenza utshintsho oluninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba lungcono, ngaphandle koko izinto eziqhelekileyo ziya kukukhupha, kwiimeko ezidala kunye neziko.
Indlela yokuqala ubomi ukususela ekuqaleni? Kholelwa kuwe kunye nemikhosi yakho, utshintshe kungekhona nje ngaphandle, kodwa kunye ngaphakathi, utshintshe umbono wakho wehlabathi, ukujonga izinto, uye kwiinjongo ezibekwe kwaye ujabule!