Ukuxinezeleka kunye nendima yayo ebomini bomntu


Ingqiqo "yoxinzelelo" inkulu kakhulu. Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa sithi "uhlala exinezelekileyo," sichaza iimvakalelo ezimbi: ukuxhalaba, ingozi, ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukungathembeki ... Kodwa, ngokutsho kombhali weengcamango zokuxinzezeleka, u-Hans Selye, phantse zonke izenzo zethu zibangela uxinzelelo. Emva kwakho konke, ukusabela komzimba (kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo) kuzo zonke iindaba, isithintelo, ingozi yintliziyo ekhuthazayo. Ngokwale nkcazo, sihlala siphantsi kwefuthe loxinzelelo. Ngoko, uxinzelelo kunye nendima yalo ebomini bomntu yintloko yentetho yanamhlanje.

Sasiwela i sitrato esityebileyo, sihlangabezane nomhlobo ongenakubonana iminyaka emininzi, siyavuya ngoqikelelo oluhle lomntwana kwaye sikhathazeke ngenxa yokuba umyeni wam waphulukisa umsebenzi. Ukufa ngokukhawuleza komntu othandekayo kubangela uxinzelelo, kodwa uvuyo oluchanileyo malunga nokuzalwa komntwana lubangele uxinzelelo oluncinci. Ngenxa yokuba isiganeko, nangona siquka utshintsho oluhle ebomini, kukhokelela kwisidingo sokuphendula kuso, ukuphoqa umzimba ukuba uhlangane. Sifanele sisebenzise kule tshintsho, samkele kwaye sifunde indlela yokuhlala nabo.

Ukuphendula kokunyanzeliswa

Ukujongana neemeko ezixinzeleleyo kunye nendlela yokuphila phantsi koxinzelelo ngumcimbi oqinileyo. Yiyiphi ingxaki enkulu kunomntu omnye ayiyi kuqondwa ngomnye. Kumntu, ukutshatyalaliswa ngamandla kunokubangelwa ukunyuka ezintabeni okanye ukuxuma ngeparachute, nokuba loo, kwaye enye ayiyi kuba yanele. Ngenxa yokuba ngamnye wethu uvakalelwa uxhalaba kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwimeko ehlukile, imigaqo eyahlukileyo ibangela uxinzelelo kithi.

Abanye bethu basetyenziselwa ukuchitha ixesha ngokukhawuleza noxinzelelo, abanye bakhathele yinto yonke, badana ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye bafuna ubomi boxolo. Ukuxinezeleka kuyaba yingozi kumntu xa kuninzi kakhulu, kaninzi kwaye kudibaniswa nemizwa ephazamisayo. Emva koko ukutshatyalaliswa kwezizathu ezintle kunokubangela ezininzi izifo ezingokwenyama nangokwengqondo. Kodwa asimele sikhohlwe ukuba uxinzelelo oluthile lunokuba yingozi! Iimvakalelo ezintle zomeleleyo zingenakuzilimaza kunokuba zibi. Ngokukodwa xa umntu ephazamiseka yimisipha kunye nentliziyo ebuthathaka. Oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo, enenjongo yokwenza umntu "inkumbulo". Ngona iindawo ezintle kunazo zonke zingaba yintlekele yomntu onovakalelo kunye novayo.

Inxaxheba ebalulekileyo yoxinzelelo

Ewe, uxinzelelo lunokuba luncedo. Ukuqulunqwa koxinzelelo kunye nendima yayo ebomini bomntu inqatshelwe ngabaninzi, becinga ukuba ngoxinzelelo lwaluphi uhlobo luyimfuneko kuphela ukulwa. Oku akunjalo! Enyanisweni, uxinzelelo luhlobo oluthusayo lomzimba. Kodwa oku kukuhlanganiswa kwazo zonke izibonakaliso ezibalulekileyo, ukufunyanwa kwezinto ezifihlakeleyo, okungekho mntu wayengazange acinge ngaphambili. Ngokomzekelo, uxinzelelo luhambelana nomngcipheko othile, into efana ne "mvavanyo". Emva koko kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uqaphele izinto zakho ezintle nezimbi. Amanani athatywayo okukhuthaza ukusebenza ngendlela yoxinezelo ivuselela isenzo kwaye iyimandla. Ukuxinezeleka kusenza sibe namandla okuxazulula iingxaki ezinzima, kwaye ngenxa yoko sithatha ishishini elitsha kwaye siyigcwalise ngempumelelo. Sisebenza ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha senza izinto ezingenakwenziwa ngaphandle kokucinezeleka. Abanye abantu basebenza ngokugqibeleleyo kwiimeko zokuxinezeleka baze bafune into ebenokuphinde "bayigubungele", ibenze ukuba benze okungakumbi. Ngabantu abanjalo bathi "ukhangele iingxaki entloko". Ngoko kunjalo. Iingxaki kunye noxinzelelo kukukwenza ucinge, uqhubeke phambili, uphumelele ukuphumelela kwintsha. Kwaye iingcali zeengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukusebenza ngaphandle kwento yovuyo, ukhuphiswano kunye nomngcipheko awunakuchukumisa.

Ukulungiselela iimviwo kwiikholejini kukuxinzelelo olukhulu kubantu abatsha. Ukugqithisa ukwesaba ukungaphumeleli, kukho ukuququzelela imizamo emikhulu ngaphakathi. Ukuqwalaselwa kugxininiswe, ukucocwa kweengcamango kuphuculwe kunye nokusebenza kwengqondo. Xa kuthethwa uvavanyo, indawo yokuxhalabisa iyanelisekile, umthombo wokuxinzelela kunye nokuphazamiseka kwanyamalala, umntu uyavuya.

Ukuqhuba imoto. Endleleni, le nto ingumqobo. Ukuxininisa kwenza umntu asebenze okwesikhashana, akwenze usebenze ngokukhawuleza, ukhangele iimpawu kunye nezinye izimoto endleleni. Ukuba umntu ugxininiswe ngexesha lesondo - uyayilumkisa, uzama okusemandleni akhe ukuphepha izingozi kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo uyaphumelela. Ngubani ohlala efumana ingozi? "Abafana" abayikiyo nayiphi na into. Abanalo uxinzelelo, akukho nangozi yengozi, akukho ukuxhaswa kwengqalelo. Ukuxinezeleka kule meko kunceda ukuphepha ingozi.

Unenjongo yokutshintsha indawo yokusebenzela ibe yinto ekhangayo, ehlawulwa kakhulu, kunye nethuba elinomdla kwixesha elizayo. Ngaphambili incoko nentloko yenkampani entsha. Ngokuqinisekileyo uxinzelelo olunzima. Ngaba ufuna ukwazi ukuba uthini kwintetho yokuqala, indlela yokugqoka, indlela yokwenza iinwele kunye nokwenza? Ngaba ufuna ukuthetha ezininzi, okanye, ukuphucula ukuphulaphula, nje ngokuphendula imibuzo? Ukucinga malunga nale meko, ukukhenketha iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo entlokweni yakho, intliziyo yakho ibetha ngokukhawuleza. Unomuvo wokuthi ukunyuka kwenyuka kude kube ngumzuzwana xa udibana nomqeshi omtsha, welula isandla sakho ukubingelela uze uqale ukuthetha. Xa imeko ikhula, ukunyamezela kwakho kukushiya kancane. Nangona kunjalo, kukunika amandla kunye nokukhuthaza. Ugxininise kwaye unzulu, uyazi into oyifunayo nento abayifunayo kuwe. Ulibala ngokukhawuleza ixesha lokwentlanzi oluhamba kunye nemizuzu yokuqala yodliwano ndlebe.

Kuzo zonke iimeko, uxinzelelo ludlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini babantu. Kwimeko yokubambisana, uxinzelelo lwamazi umzimba, kunceda ukugxininisa into ephambili, ukuqokelela yonke imikhosi ukuze ufumane oko ufuna. Ukuxinwa kweengxaki kumanani afanelekileyo kunqunywe ngumsebenzi, kubalulekile.

Inendima engeyiyo yoxinzelelo

Ukuba unengxaki enkulu kwaye uhlala ixesha elide - oku kungakhokelela ekuphazamiseni okukhulu ekusebenzeni kwamalungu ahlukeneyo, ngamanye amaxesha umzimba wonke. Ukuxinezeleka kunokuchaphazela imeko kwintsapho, umsebenzi wezakhono kunye nempilo. Ukuxinezeleka kunokuchaphazela ulwalamano lwethu nabathandekayo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubangelwe kuphela kwinto eyenzeka ngaphakathi kwethu kunye nathi. Uhlobo lweentsholongwane zokuzivikela ekuziphatheni kwe-immune oluxhomekeke kuxinzelelo olude oluxhomekeke kwixesha loxinzelelo. Abanye abantu bayacaphuka, abanye bayanandaba. Omnye ukhangele i-outlet, ebhekisela kubahlobo kunye nezihlobo zakhe, kwaye umntu uvale yena ngokwakhe kwaye ubandezeleke ngokuzenzekelayo, ekhokelela kwi-neurosis.

Ukuxinezeleka kuyingozi nakakhulu xa kungenangqiqo. Xa uvakalelwa kukuba yonke into iyicasulayo, kodwa ayiqondi into eyona nto ibangela ukuxhalabisa. Le meko inokuhlala iminyaka. Kudinga ukungenelela kweengcali. Iimbambano ezinamandla kunobomi bowesifazane kukufa kwabathandekayo, ukuqhawula, ukutshatyalaliswa komntu othandekayo. Uxinzelelo olunjalo luya kuba yintlekele ngokwenene, ukuba uyabafumana ngokungalunganga. Awunakuze ushiywe wodwa ngentlekele. Oku kubangela ukuba akukho ndawo. Yabelana ngesihlwili sakho okanye nje iingxaki kunye nabathandekayo bakho, kunye nabahlobo bakho, uchaze okokuzonwabisa. Ukuxinezeleka kunokutshabalalisa ubomi ngendlela efanayo njengoko kunokukuphucula.

Indlela umzimba uphatha ngayo xa uxinzelelo

Unokuba neengxaki zokulala. Ukuvuka phakathi kobusuku, ufumana ukukhwehlela kwemizwa. Uyacaphuka, ungapheli, ungazibekezelele ngokugqithiseleyo kwimvelo, awukwazi ukunqoba ngokukhawuleza ukuphazamiseka komsindo okanye ukudandatheka. Umnwe wakho iminwe, ubhema umsi wecuba emva kwesigarethi. Unesandla esabanda kunye nesinyameko, uziva uvutha kunye nentlungu esiswini, umlomo owomileyo, ubunzima bokuphefumla. Uziva ukuba ugula.

Ukuba unayo le mpawu, mhlawumbi uhlala uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo. Kule miqondiso ingenakongezwa nesifo sokunyamezela, ingcamango yokuba unalo ixesha elincinci lokwenza izinto eziliqela ngexesha elifanayo. Ngokukhawuleza uzive uvakalelwa kakubi, uvakalelwa ukwesaba nokwenza udani, ukudimazeka. Unokuva intlungu kwiimisipha, intamo elukhuni, uqala ukukhombisa izipikili zakho, ucindezele imisipha yakho, imisipha yobuso bakho ifuthe, uzive ukutshitshwa kwamazinyo akho. Kweminye, oku kwenzeka ngokuthe ngcembe, abanye bavele baziva zonke iimpawu ngokukhawuleza. Abanye banamazinyo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukukhala kubonakala kungekho sizathu esicacileyo.

Akudingeki ukuba wazi zonke ezi zimpawu ukugqiba ukuba lo xinzelelo luyimbangela yeengxaki zakho. Iingcali zithi ubuncinane ezintathu zezi zibonakaliso ezenzeka ngaphakathi kweveki okanye ngaphezulu zaneleyo, ezibonisa umphumo wokuxhatshazwa ngokweqile. Kule meko, kufuneka uguqule indlela yokuphila, imeko esebenzayo okanye kwindalo ngokukhawuleza. Yakha umoya ongabikho kwiingxaki zempilo ezinzulu.

Indlela yoxinzelelo

I-stimulus, efunyenwe ngongqondo, idala iimpembelelo ezifanelekileyo kwi-pituitary gland. I-pituitary gland iqala ukukhulula i-hormone, kunye negazi, ukungena kwi-adrenal gland, ekhupha i-adrenaline ne-norepinephrine. Ngaphantsi kweempembelelo zabo, uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu luyabonakala, intliziyo iqalisa ukusebenza ngokukhawuleza, ukusuka esibindi ukuya kwigazi ngaphezu kwe-glucose, i-cholesterol kunye ne-fatty acid acids. Oku kunquma ukulungeleka okwenyuka komzimba. Impilo yengqondo kunye neengqondo zilungele ukulwa. Ukuba imeko ephakamileyo yokulumkela idlulela ixesha elide, uxinzelelo kunye nokuxhatshazwa komzimba kuyawa kwaye kukho ukugqithiswa kwamanzi, ukulungiswa komzimba. Ukukhulelwa komzimba kuyawa, umntu uqala ukugula kakhulu. Yingakho sisoloko sithi: "Zonke izifo zivela kwiiswini". Ngokwengxenye, kunjalo ngokwenene.

Imiphumo yoxinzelelo

Ukuxinezeleka kwexesha elide kubangela izifo ezininzi. Okokuqala, izitho ezisemngciphekweni zihluphekile. Kwezinye iimeko, oku kuhambelana nenkqubo yokutya, ngezinye izihlandlo ngokuphefumla, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha amaninzi amaninzi aya kuba nemiphumo emibi yoxinzelelo. Ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yobudala, isini, amava, imfundo, indlela yokuphila, ifilosofi kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi, abanye abantu banokuchaphazeleka kakhulu kwimiphumo emibi yoxinzelelo, abanye bangaphantsi. Ukuphendula kwengcinezelo kuxhomekeke kwindlela esizibona ngayo - nokuba yinto engenziwanga phantsi kwengcinezelo, okanye isifundo esisebenzayo esinoxanduva loxinzelelo.

Ukuqonda ukuba umzimba ugxininiswe

Isibonakaliso sokuqala sokuthi into engalunganga ngomzimba wakho yinkxalabo yokulala. Kancinci, ezinye izifo zibandakanya ukulala. Uqala ukukhala kungekho sizathu, usuke udiniwe kungakhathaliseki ukuba usebenza kangakanani kunye nendlela ophumla ngayo. Unengxaki yokugxininisa, ingqalelo, imemori. Kukho intloko, ukukhubeka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukungabi nomdla kwisini. Ezi zibonakaliso ezininzi zithathe ifa lakho, konke kwenzeka ngokuthe ngcembe, kwaye, mhlawumbi, kungenxa yoko ungaboni indlela yokwenza ingxaki. Kuphela xa ufikelele kwisigxina esibucayi, uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba into ehamba kakuhle. Abantu abasoloko beqonda ukuba basesigxina sokuxinezeleka. Balahlekelwa ukunyameka kwabo, inzondelelo yomsebenzi, ukungabi netembeko kubonakala kwisayithi sokungaqiniseki kwangoku. Kancinci, uxinzelelo luba nalo lonke ubomi. Yingakho kuyimfuneko ukujamelana nayo ngexesha kwaye ngokuchanekileyo. Unganqikazi ukucela uncedo kumcebisi.