Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwinkqubo yokuveliswa kwemvelo, ngamanye amaxesha ukungaphumeleli kunye neengxaki ezifuna ukungenelela unyango oluyimfuneko. Ngoko ke, abaninzi abanokwenza izidakamizwa-abanezifo zengqondo babecinga isimo sengqondo kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo zokubeletha, ukubeka ngokuthobeka, ukuthandana nomntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuwe, kwaye akukho mntu unelungelo lokumisela ukuqonda kwakho ngokuzalwa okufanelekileyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba oomama bakusasa bazi ukuba ezinye zeengxaki ezivela ekubelekeni zingalungiswa ngokuzimeleyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzilawula.
Ezi ndlela ziquka:
- utshintshe kwindawo yomzimba kunye nokunyakaza ngexesha lokubeletha;
lwamanzi inkqubo;
ubuchule bokusila;
ukuqeqeshwa ngokuzenzekelayo;
- Ukuphumla;
- uncedo lwengqondo;
- iindlela zokuphefumula.
Izindlela zokuzilawula zivumela umfazi ukuba abe nxaxheba ngokuzithandela ekuzalweni kwakhe kunye nokulawula okukhoyo. Kwaye ukuba ezi ndlela, kuquka iindlela zokuphefumla kakuhle ngexesha lokubeleka, ngezizathu ezithile azikwazi ukuhlangabezana neengxaki ezinokuvela, ngoko-ke umfazi ozalayo ngokwakhe unokuthatha isigqibo malunga nokungenelela kwezokwelapha ngexesha lokubeletha.
Isiseko sesiseko
I-Yogis ithi "ukuphefumla kubonakalisa isimo sethu sangaphakathi, ngoko ukulawula ukuphefumula kukulawula ukuqonda komntu. Ubomi obuqhelekileyo, zonke iintlobo zesimo sengqondo nezengqondo zisenza sitshintshe isigqi sokuphefumla. Xa sinovuyo okanye sixhalabile, sidiniwe okanye sisangelwe yinto ethile, ukuphefumla kwethu kuyahluka ukusuka ekujuleni kuya kwizinto ezingaphezulu, ukusuka kwisisombululo kuya kwi-discrete, ukusuka kwisigqi kuya ekuphefumuleni ngesiginci se-nervous stroke.
Xa bebeletha umfazi ufumana umthwalo oxininisekile, ngoko ke kwisigaba esithile sokukhula komsebenzi, ukuphefumula kuya kuguquka ngokukhawuleza.
Umzimba wowesifazane obeletha ngokwawo udinga ukutshintsha ubude, ubunzulu kunye nesigqi sokuphefumla. Ngelishwa, akusikho rhoqo utshintsho olwenziwa ngokukhawuleza ekuncedeni ukuphefumla. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungaxhatshazwa kwemiphunga engapheliyo, imiphefumulweni yokuphefumula, ukuphefumula ngokunyanzelekayo kunye nezinye iinguqu ezimbi ekuphefumlayo kunokunyusa amava angabonakaliyo kwaye kuholele ekulahlekelweni kokuzithiba, ukuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, isimo sengqondo esibi, nokungakwazi ukuphendula izicelo ezivela kubabelethisi.
Ukuphefumula kusiza umfazi ozalayo:
- phumula ngexesha lokulwa, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu-phakathi kwabo;
- ukuzola, ukunciphisa ingxabano;
- qhubeka ulawula intlungu;
- ukukhawuleza umsebenzi wezenzo ezilukhuni;
- ukugcina amandla;
- Qalisa izixhobo zakho ngexesha elifanelekileyo.
Ixesha lokuqala lokubeletha
Ukuba umlomo wesibeleko uvulwa ngokukhawuleza, unako "ukunyusa" inkqubo ngokunceda "ukuqinisa" okanye ukuphefumla. Ukuphefumula kufutshane nobude bexesha, ngaphandle kokunciphisa ukusebenza kwayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ukunyuka kwamandla kwesibeleko kungakwazi ukuhlangabezana nomsebenzi wokukhuthaza umntwana. Emva koko umfazi kufuneka asebenzise oko kuthiwa yindlela yokunyusa umzamo.
Ekuqaleni komzamo, umntu kufuneka aphefumle ngamandla ngokupheleleyo emiphakeni, athathe umoya oqaqambileyo, i-podvydokh encinci kwaye ubambe umoya wakho; cinezela isilwane sakho ngokuqinileyo malunga nesifuba sakho;
Zama ukuluhluza ubuso bakho kwaye uphumule imisipha yomgangatho weplavic, uxinzelele imisipha yesicindezelo esiswini kwaye ugxininise ngamandla kumgangatho weplavic, kwaye ekugqibeleni - ukuphumla okukhululekile.
Ukuba kuyimfuneko, ngale ndlela umntu unokuphefumula umzamo omnye ukususela kolunye ukuya kwesithathu.
Abasetyhini abangenako ukuphefumula ukuphefumula bayakwazi ukuzibhenca "ukukhala." Ukukhala okukhulu, okunamandla kuyafana nokulingana okulungileyo.
Kwezinye iimeko, ngokuchasene noko, umntu kufuneka avimbele umnqweno ongazibandakanyeki wokunyusa. Umbelethisi ngokuqhelekileyo unikela umyalelo othi: "Musa ukukhubeka!" Oku kwenzeka ukuba umntwana uye wahamba ngaphaya komlomo wesibeleko uye wakwazi ukuvula, okanye ukuba iinzame zinexesha elikhawulezayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kunzima ukuba ibhinqa liqonde ukuba kunokwenzeka njani ukuzibamba ukuba "u-tzhit." Enyanisweni, ngeli xesha umele uphephe ukuphefumula, ukukhala kunye nokuphefumula, oko kukunceda kakhulu ngokuphefumula "inja-njenga" okanye iindlela zokuphefumula ngexesha lokubeletha, elibonakaliswa ngumoya ongapheliyo kunye nokuphefumula okubukhali.
Ezi ndlela zendlela yokuzikhusela iinzame zisetyenzisiweyo ngexesha lokutshatyalaliswa kwentloko yomntwana, ukuze ungalimazi umntwana kwaye ungalimazi umkhonkco wam. Ngeemvavanyo ezibuthakathaka (ezibuthathaka), unokubambelela ngamandla abo ngenxa yokuphefumula okuthe rhoqo kunye nokusetyenziswa rhoqo phakathi kwemizamo.
Inkwenkwe yafunda ngale ndlela yokunxibelelana ngexesha leenyanga ezide zokuphuhliswa kwe-intrauterine. Olu lwimi lwamxelela ngezikhathi zokuzola kunye nolonwabo, wammisela ngamandla kwaye wamqinisekisa.
Yiyo le ndlela efikeleleke kakhulu kuwo wonke umama ukwenzela ukuzolalisa umntwana ekubelekeni, ukuzithemba kuye, ukuzithemba nokuxhaswa, nangona zonke iingxaki ezibangelwa ngumntwana kwinkqubo yokuzalwa.
Ukuphefumula, njengokuba kunjalo, ubeka onke amalungu omhlaba ukuba utshatshile omnye kwaye unceda ukudala ingoma ehambelanayo, ehambelana nesiganeko esibalulekileyo.