Inkosikazi, ixhamle kwiinkathalo ezintsha malunga nosana, ngokusoloko libala ukuba umyeni ufuna ukunakwa. Umyeni naye uzama ukunceda malunga nomzi kunye nomntwana, kodwa iinzame zakhe ezinzima zihlala zingenakuxabiswa kwaye kaninzi kunokuba zenzeke ukuba wenza konke okungahambi kakuhle. Kanye - kungekhona, okwesibini - kungekhona njalo, okwesithathu - akunjalo, kodwa okwesine sele sele umnqweno wokuncedisa ungaphumi. "Kutheni ndifanele ndikuncede, ukuba yonke into efanayo ndiyenza yonke into engalunganga, njengoko kufanelekile?" - ucinga umyeni wakhe. Ekuqaleni, kumkhathaza. Kwaye kuba yinto evamile.
Asinakulibala ukuba ngaphambi kokubonakala komntwana, konke ukunyamekela komfazi kwakugxilwe kuye, kwaye ngoku uhlale ephelele ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokunyamekela nokuthanda. Musa ukucinga ukuba kulula kuye. Naye, ngoku unzima.
Umfazi uyazithukuthelela: "I-chump ayiyikukhathazeka, akukho ncedo kuye ayiyi kulinda. Ndizama yena kunye nomntwana, ndilibale mna, kodwa akayikuyixabisa! " Kwaye unayo inyaniso yakhe.
Ngoko kuya kufika isangqa esichukumisayo. Yaye ingakumbi ingqumbo iyaxhamla komnye nomnye, abafazi abaninzi bahamba kwakhona.
Masicinge ngeendlela zokuphepha ezi ngxaki okanye ubuncinane ukwenza ixesha elingenabuhlungu emva kokuzalwa komntwana kwintsapho.
Cinga ngako: into yokuba ufanele ulawule kunye nomntanakho kangcono kunomyeni wakho, i-genetically predisposed by nature. Kwinkwenkwekazi, umama uguqulwa, kwaye umntu kufuneka afunde ukuzala. Ngoko ke, nanini na xa ufuna ukuhlambalaza umlingane ngokwenza into embi ngaphezu kwakho, nyathela umqala wakho kulo mkhwa! Ke esikhundleni sokuhlambalaza ... udumo! Dumisani umyeni wakho rhoqo xa ethatha inyathelo lokukunceda ngomntwana okanye kwindlu. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba ufunde nantoni na, ufuna ixesha. Ixesha liya kudlula, kwaye indoda iya kufunda konke okuyimfuneko.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukhathazekile kangakanani, kwaye indoda iyahlala yindoda yakho, kwaye idinga ukufudumala kunye nothando lwakho. Yithobele, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani kuwe. Ingqungquthela yokuthandana - kwaye uya kuba namandla okugxininisa ngokupheleleyo kwiinkxalabo eziqhelekileyo.
Xa umntwana omncinci ekhula, kuya kuba luncedo ukushiya ixesha elifutshane xa kuvela oomkhulu kunye nogogo. Okokuqala, umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukuba ngamanye amaxesha umama wakhe kufuneka ahambe. Okwesibini, uya kuba nexesha lokuphumla kumntwana omncinci kwaye uye kwindawo ethile kunye neqabane lakho. Nangona ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo yokuhamba ngeeyure ngeengalo, kuya kuba luncedo kuwe.
Zithathele umgaqo wokuba kukho imeko ethile malunga nokunyamekelwa kwengane, isithethe esisoloko senziwa ngupapapa. Umzekelo, ukuhlwa okanye ukuhlwa ngokuhlwa ngamakhowe. Akunandaba nokuba kuya kuba yintoni. Kubalulekile ukuba kuya kuba, indoda yakho kunye nosana lwakho, umsebenzi oqhelekileyo. Kwaye ngelo xesha ungabambeli yonke imisebenzi yasekhaya kanye, kodwa vula nje. Ziyinyamekele, zintanda. Yenza imaski ebusweni, isisindo somzimba, ukuhamba nge-pedicure. Okanye bukela umboniso wakho weTV ozithandayo. Kwaye ke akufuneki ukuba utyhuke kwaye ucinge, ukuba kukho indoda yakho: ingaba wenze into engenjalo? Hlaziya. Ndikholelwe, uyamthanda umntwana wakho njengokuba wenzayo kwaye ubuncinci bonke ufuna ukumlimaza.
Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungumnandi kangakanani, wena, ngaphezu kwakho konke, umfazi. Musa ukuhla, uthande umdla, ufunde iincwadi, uxoxe nabantu. Musa ukuvala kuphela umntwana! Emva kwakho konke, umntwana wakho ubaluleke kakhulu kunyoko unyoko wakho.