Mhlawumbi bonke abesifazana ababuza lo mbuzo: Abantu abasondeleyo bayashiya umkhosi-njani oku kuya kwenzeka? Amanye amantombazana angakwazi ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza nakwabantu abaninzi. Oku akuthethi ukuba abantu abathandekayo kubo. Kuphela nje ukuba abafazi abanjalo babonakala bengabonakaliyo kule nto, zama ukucinga malunga nokuba indoda esondeleyo ayikho. Kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onokuphila ngononophelo olunjalo. Abanye abafazi bacinga ukuba kulula ukuba bangene emkhosini ngokwabo kunokuba bayeke abantu babo bomthonyama. Bangakwazi njani ukuziqinisekisa bona ukuba umntu ungena emkhosini, oku akusiyo isiphelo sehlabathi.
Okokuqala, awunakuze ubonise umfana oya kukhonza, unobungozi bunjani. Ewe, ukuba uqulethe ngokupheleleyo iimvakalelo, nazo, aziyi kusebenza. Kodwa, into enye, xa uvumelekile ukuba ukhale ehlombe lakhe. Kwaye ngokunye, xa uhlala umxelela malunga nendlela oyibuhlungu ngayo, indlela ongazifuni ukuhlala ngaphandle kwakhe kwaye ngexesha elifanayo, ukhale njalo. Khumbula ukuba umhlobo wakho, umhlobo okanye umzalwana akakho konke. Uqonda nje ukuba akukho nto ingatshintshwa kwaye izama ukuzigcina. Yaye inyaniso yokuba uhlala uhlaziya ama-hysterics namava, uphazamisa imizwa yakhe kwaye uyamcasula. Ewe, uyaqonda ukuba awukho lula kwaye uya kukhangela. Uze undikholelwe, uya kuba nzima nakakhulu kunakho. Umkhosi wakho wamasasa angeke ube nexesha elininzi lokukhulula njengoko ukhala phezu kwezithombe uze ukhumbule yonke into encinane. Ngoko uzama ukugcina isandla sakho, okokuqala, ukuxhasa.
Kodwa ukuba ufumene amandla okubamba, xa umntu wakho osondeleyo, ungathini ukuba ungene ekudandathekeni emva kokuya kuhlawulela kwi-Motherland.
Ngoko, kwindawo yokuqala, musa ukuzivumela ukuba ungene kwi-nostalgia. Xa uphulaphula iingoma zakho ozithandayo, bukela iifilimu uze uhambe apho, apho udla ukuthanda ukuya khona, kuya kuba kubi nakakhulu. Qonda ukuba, ekugqibeleni, akukho mntu ufile kwaye kungunyaka owodwa kuphela. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunzima kwaye kungalunganga ngaphandle kokuxhaswa ngumntu wasemzini, kodwa oku akuyona into eyona nto enokwenzeka kakhulu kuwe. Zama ukucinga ngokuthe tye kwaye ucinge ukuba inkwenkwe yakho (umhlobo, umzalwana) akafuni ukuba uzenzele ukutshabalalisa, ukulangazelela. Khumbula ukuba kanye, emva kwekhulu leshumi elinesithoba, umkhosi uthathe iminyaka engamashumi amabini anesihlanu. Oku kwakwenkqisayo. Abafazi bezo zihlandlo basenokuqonda. Kwaye into eyona nto ayiyikuqhawula kwaye yenza into encedo.
Ewe, sonke sivile malunga nento eyenzekayo kumkhosi wanamhlanje kunye nefantasti isishukumisela imifanekiso embi kakhulu. Awusoze ufune ukuxhonywa kule nto. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba uhlala ucinga ngento embi, oko kwenzeka, kodwa ukuba ulungele ukulungelelanisa-konke kuphelile. Indoda yakho yasekuhlaleni, emva kwakho konke, asiyisidenge kwaye iza kukwazi ukuhamba ngaphantsi kweemeko ezikhoyo. Musa ukunyanzela ubuchule bakhe kwaye ucinge ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo uya kwenza into engalunganga, eya kubakho kwimiphumo emibi.
Unyaka ngamnye amakhulu amabini abantu abancinci badlula emkhosini, kwaye bambalwa kuphela abakhonkxela malunga noko kwenzekayo. Ngoko ke, akudingeki ukuba ulungelelanise, kwaye nangakumbi, ukulungelelanisa umqeshwa wexesha elizayo ukuba into ethile iya kwenzeka kuye.
Ngexesha leenkonzo, unako ukubiza rhoqo ngexesha, ngoko awuyi kuba nzima kakhudlwana ngaphandle komntu wasemzini. Into ephambili kukuphila kwiinyanga zokuqala, xa, mhlawumbi, ithuba lokuthetha ngokuqhelekileyo aliyi kuba. Emva koko, xa eqala ukukubiza, gcina uhamba ngesandla uze ungahambi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokutsho ukuba utyhukile, kwaye unayo, kodwa akudingeki ukuba uqhube kwakhona. Qonda ukuba ufuna ukuva amazwi asekuhlaleni, ukufumana isabelo sezinto ezintle kunye namandla, ukuze ube namandla okuqhuba inkonzo. Kwaye ukuba uyamlethela enye ingxakini kunye nombi, mhlawumbi kuya kwenzeka ukuba loo mntu akabibi nonke. Ngoko ke, soloko ulawula iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungazivumeli ukubeka iimvakalelo zakho ngaphezu kwamanye amazwe.
Xa umntu wakho osondeleyo ekhonza, akudingeki ukuba uvale kwihlabathi lonke kwaye ube yi-recluse. Ngoko uya kuba nzima kakhulu. Xoxa nabahlobo bakho, nwabisa, uhambe, uphumle. Akufanele uzibingelele, ukuphikisana ngale nto ngeengongoma ezilandelayo: ukuba akakwazi ukuchitha ixesha ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko ndiza kunika yonke into ngombono wobudlelwane. Umntu oqhelekileyo akayi kuwuxabisa loo mihlatshelo kwaye uya kucinga ukuba uyisiyatha. Ngoko ke, yenza ngokufanelekileyo kwaye ungadluli. Awudingi ukugcina iikhalenda kwaye uhlalutye iintsuku. Ngoko ke gxininisa into yokuba umntu wesizwe akakho. Kungcono ukuba ungacingi ngexesha kwaye uhlala nje. Yenza ishishini lakho, uhlanganyele kwinto entsha, uzazi abantu. Ukuba wenza oku, ke lo nyaka uza kuba lula kwaye kulula kunokuba ucinge. Enyanisweni, okokuqala akuyi kuba lula kuwe, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uza kufunda ukuphatha ifilosofi into eyenzekayo kwaye unqande ukugxininisa ekungabikho mntu osondeleyo kuye kwaye uyamxabisa.
Yaye xa ebuya-yilapho unokukhala ngokukhawuleza njengoko ufuna, kuba iinyembezi aziyi kubangela intlungu kunye nosizi, kodwa kubonisa ukuba uthanda kangakanani kwaye ulinde.