Ngokuqhelekileyo amantombazana, umzekelo, basebenzise kuphela iimpawu zabo zangaphandle ukutsala indoda. Ukongezelela kubuso obuhle, amabele amnandi, i-ass elastic, imilenze emilenze, amantombazana aya kuhlala efumana izimonyo zokuncedisa, izixhobo ezahlukeneyo, iimpahla ezikhethiweyo ezigxininisa iimpawu ezintle, kwaye zifihla impazamo. Amantombazana akaxhobi nje kuphela ngeempahla zokugqoka iimpahla, abahlobo abakhulu abaza kuhlala beza kuhlangula, kodwa kunye neengcinga ezikhethileyo zobuqili, bakha kalula iiplani ezikhohlakeleyo, indlela yokuguqula intloko kunye nokunyelisa umntu omhle.
Amadoda ayisebenzisi izicwangu, azigqoki izinto ezininzi kwiimpahla zabo, azincinci ekubukeka kwazo, abanako ukuziqhayisa ngamabele amnandi, iinyawo zabo ezivela ezindlebeni kwimeko yazo zivakala ngathi into ehamba kakuhle. Ziziphi iindlela zabo ezikhethekileyo kunye neendlela? Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu ukutsala ingqalelo yowesifazane?
Kwi-arsenal yamadoda, kukho iindlela eziliqela abasebenzisa ukutsala ingqalelo kwintombikazi enhle. Indlela ebonakalayo kunye nebalaseleyo yokutsala ingqalelo yabasetyhini kwindoda kuseyi-posture. Amadoda amaninzi abe njalo ukwenzela ukuba indawo yabo yesini isabelwe. Ngoko bazama ukubonakalisa isithunzi sabo besilisa kuphela, njengoko kubonakala ukuba bahlule, nangona kufihlwe phantsi kweengubo, kodwa babonisa ukuba banesibindi. Le nto ibonisa umdla womntu ngumfazi, ubonisa ukuba wavula ukuzingela iwesifazane ayithandayo. Oku kunjalo budenge ngenxa yombono wethu wesifazana, kodwa ke kunjalo sinendlela efana neyiyo ingabonwa ngamehlo ahlomekileyo, umzekelo, ukugqithisa phambili kwisifuba, ukuqinisa isisu, ukulungelelanisa isisu.
Kule ndlela, iindlela zokubamba iqela elivela kumntu azipheli. Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu ukutsala ingqalelo yowesifazane, ngaphezu kwendlela ethile yokunxibelelana? Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda athatha ezakhe izixhobo zethu, izihlazi kunye nokuhleka. Le ngenye yezona ndlela zisebenzayo zokutsala ingqalelo yomntu oyithandayo. Amahlaya afanelekileyo, mhlawumbi amancinci, kwaye mhlawumbi angenasiphelo, ahlala enomntu omtsha kumntu wabo, kulula kakhulu ukufezekisa oku xa umntu ehlala enhle kwaye uvulekele oonxibelelwano. Kwaye, njengabafazi bayazi, bayayithanda ngeendlebe zabo, kwaye yonke into iyonwabile kwaye inomdla. Ngenxa yoko, oku kucacile indlela efanelekileyo, kuba into ephambili kukuqonda iingongoma ezibuthathaka zexhoba.
Isifundo malunga nomfazi uthanda ukuva iindlebe kakuhle, eli binzana liyadluliselwa kwisizukulwana kwisizukulwana. Uhlala ekhona indlebe yomntu wonke. Ngoko yintoni umntu ayenzayo ukutsala ingqalelo yowesifazane omhle? Akukho nto ilungileyo kunokuba uyayiqonda into ekhethekileyo yowesifazane, ukubonisa ukuba uyingqayizivele kwaye uyingqayizivele, njengokuba, engekho kwakhona, okanye ubuncinane umntu onjalo akazange ahlangane ebomini bakhe. Ukubonisa ibhinqa ngokuncoma kuyindlela enhle yokungayikhathaleli kuphela, kodwa nethuba lokufumana inhlonipho yakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo kukho amathuba okuba umfazi akayi kukuxabisa iincoma kunye nemigudu yomntu ubuncinane ngenxa yesizathu sokuthi banqabileyo, kodwa amadoda akaphelelwa lithemba kwaye afike ngeendlela ezininzi kunye nokwenza ukuba intombi ibe yinto enhle, yitsho into engazange ixelelwe ngaphambili, kwaye bayifumana .
Xa uxoxisana nomntu, isitampu esinjalo sesibhakabhaka ayibonakali emva kwakhe, njengokuba kubangele ubuhlungu, amadoda akakhonanga ngokuphila kwabo, abaphathi babo kunye nezinye iingxaki. Bancinci ngamagama kunye nezihloko zokwenza intetho, kodwa oku yiloo nto abasebenzisa ukutsala ingqalelo kwintombikazi enhle. Amadoda abasebenzisi ububele bethu, ukuthambekela ukuqonda, uvelwano. Kodwa bayakuvuyela into yokuba abafazi bayathetha kwaye abayi kuhlala bodwa. Ngoko ke, indoda ehlakaniphile, ukuze ithande ingqwalasela, ibhinqa liza kulungiselela kwangaphambili kwintlanganiso, cinga ngezihloko zokuxubusha, kunye neenjongo ezifanayo eziza kuxoxwa ngazo.
Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu ukutsala ingqalelo yowesifazane engazange axhumane naye, kodwa umzekelo ngomnxeba? Ifowuni yefowuni yindlela efanelekileyo yokuxhaphaza umntu. Emva kwakho konke, xa sithetha ngefowuni, asikwazi ukujonga ukuziphatha komntu, ukunyakaza kwakhe, ukutshintshisa, ukubonakalisa ubuso, sinokuyicinga nje ngesiseko segama. Ukongeza, umnxibelelwano wefowuni udlalwa ngokukhawuleza ngexesha, akunakude nje ukudibana nomntu. Ngokungafani nabasetyhini kunye nabasetyhini, amadoda ekunxibelelana kwifowuni ahluke ngokukodwa kubasetyhini. Amadoda kwifowuni ayidla ngokubhaliweyo, emfutshane. Akunjalo kuba abananto yokuthetha, yinto enye yezindlela zabo zokubonisa ingqalelo kumntu wabo. Ngaphambi kokubiza intombazana, indoda iya kucinga ngamakhulu amahlanu malunga noko uya kuthetha naye. Kodwa kumdla kunye nokutsala ibhinqa, indoda ayiyi kuzalisa intetho yehora, nangona ininzi yexesha lokukhulula. Ukuba ubeka ingqalelo, uyabona ukuba ukubiza umfazi indoda ivame ukuyeka incoko yefowuni kuqala, akuyiyo yonke into ekhoyo. Emva kwakho konke, lo mzekelo uzisa ukungcola, ukungahambelani, kwaye umfazi unomdla kule nto, kuba uya kuchithachitha ingxoxo, njengoko apha uxelelwa ngoko nangoko. Oko ngokwayo kubangela umdla omkhulu kumntu, umnqweno wokunxibelelana naye, ukudibana kwakhona, ulinda ulowuni olulandelayo unomonde.
Musa ukuthobela amadoda, bahlakaniphile kwaye banengqiqo, nangona bahlala bezenza zizithambeka. Mhlawumbi kunjalo, kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba le ngenye yeengongoma zesicwangciso sabo sokugqilaza intliziyo yomntu ongeyena mzini onomdla kubo.