Njengomthetho, unxantathu onothando uqala ngokuhlangana ngokungaqhelekanga, owaziwayo, uthando olulula. Ngeli xesha, umntu ujongene nokukhetha: ngubani ongakhethayo, ozokwakha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kunye nomntu oqinisekisiweyo, okanye onomdla omtsha. Kodwa izixazululo ezinjalo aziqhelekanga ngokulula. Sithanda ukutsala kunye nesigqibo. Siqala ukungathandabuzi ubuhlobo obutsha, sesaba ukulahlekelwa kwaye senze ukhetho olungalunganga, kwaye, ekugqibeleni, sihlale singenanto.
Inxalenye eqhelekileyo inxantathu yothando: indoda enye kunye nabafazi ababini. Kukho izizathu ezininzi ezahlukeneyo. Indoda ikhula ibanda kubomfazi wayo, ubudlelwane buba bubuqili kwaye buqhele. Emva koko indoda ifumana inkosikazi. Kuthekani ukuba uhlala kule meko? Indlela yokusombulula unxantathu onothando? Okokuqala, zigqibelele ukuba ulungele yini ukuxolela umgwenxa, ulungele ukulwa nomyeni wakho uze ungathethi lo lwalamano nobuthixo. Okwesibini, ukuba uyazi ukuba ngubani lo mfazi, zama ukukhusela umyeni wakhe kunye naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo abahlobo abalungileyo baqala ukuphazamiseka, ngoko kuzama ukuyigcina ukuba ingabonakali endlwini yakho. Kukho amaqhinga amancinci amancinci ukuvuselela umdla kumntu kwakhona. Sebenzisa zonke. Dlala umdla umntu onyamekelayo kuwe, ubuyele ekhaya ngeentyatyambo eziliqela. Ukutyelela ubuhle be-salon, ubhalisele kwiklabhu yezempilo. Zifumana umsebenzi wakho othanda, apho amandla akho aya kuhanjiswa khona. Bonisa umbane wakho, vula yonke into enhlekazi yakho. Khumbula iintlanganiso zakho zokuqala, oko kumtsalane kuwe, kunokuba unomdla kumyeni wakho. Kuphela musa ukungena kwimpikiswano, iingxoxo ezivulekileyo, izihlazo, iintlungu kunye nokucacisa ubudlelwane. Ezi nyathelo ziza kuphazamisa kuphela umntu ovela kuwe.
Okungaqhelekanga phakathi kweentantathu zothando ngenye inhlanganisela: elinye ibhinqa namadoda amabini. Ubuhlobo obunjalo abuhlali ixesha elide. Abafazi isithembu ngokwemvelo, bazimisele ukudala intsapho kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana. Ngoko ke, umfazi onxantathu onothando uthatha indlela yokuyicombulula. Ukhetha elinye lamalingani abakhayo naye ubudlelwane obungunaphakade.
Kukuphi ukuhlanganisana ongafumananga, kuyimfuneko ukulungisa isigxina somthando. Zama ukuzimisela oko okufunayo kulobu buhlobo, nokuba uyayidinga le qabane, ukuba uyayinqoba le mpi yamaqela amathathu, yintoni amathuba akho kwaye ngokubanzi ukuba le mdlalo ifanelekile ikhandlela. Musa ukulibala malunga nesithathu kwicala lomncintiswano wothando. Akunakwenzeka ukuba lo mntu uya kulinda ngokukhawuleza, njani ukugqiba le meko. Naye uya kwenza.
Ukuba unesimo esifanayo, zama ukusombulula unxantathu wothando ngokukhawuleza, ngenxa yokuba inqanda injabulo yabantu abathathu kanye. Xa usombulula, phendula ngokunyanisekileyo imibuzo yakho kwaye ungadibanisi uthando nothando, ubudlelwane obunzulu kunye nesondo.