Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuba ngabafazi ababulalayo, kufuneka uqonde uhlobo luni lentsingiselo esiyibeke kule ngcamango? Kuthetha ukuthini ukubulala?
Inokwenzeka ukuba, umfazi obulalayo angabizwa ngokuba loo ntokazikazi eyazi kakuhle ukunyanzela abafana, iziphatha ngokuzithemba kwaye ingabonakali, ayikuvumeli ukuba ungathandabuzeki ubuhle bakho, amandla nobuhle bakho.
Kodwa, indlela yokufa, xa usetyenziselwa ukuba nomusa, ulula kwaye ulula, unceda wonke umntu kwaye akhathazeke ngabantu bonke. Ukuze ube ngumfazi, ngaphambi kokuba amadoda athathwe, kufuneka uguqulwe ngokupheleleyo umhlaba kunye neengcinga zakho. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukungakwazi ukubulala akuveli kuphela kubabubele bethu, kodwa nakubungakhuselekanga. Xa amabhinqa avumela amadoda amaninzi, isizathu esinokuba kukuba basoloko besaba ukulahlekelwa uthando lwabo nothando lwabo. La ma ntombazana ebuntwaneni awakuthandi abafana, ngamanye amaxesha bahlekisa baze bajonge. Xa sele bekhulile, bafumana indlela yokuba nobuhlobo nesini esahlukileyo. Ezi ntombi zikwazi ukuba ngabahlobo abalungileyo kunye nabo bafazi abangenako ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa. Kodwa, le meko yeendaba ayifanelanga nabani na. Intombazana nganye ifuna ukuba yinto ekhethekileyo kunye neyodwa, enye iya kuhlonishwa kwaye iyahlonishwa.
Konke oku kufumaneka kuphela ngokuziguqula. Ukuba ubulawe kukuba ufunde ukuzihlonela. Amantombazana amaninzi akholelwa ukuba sele esele azithandayo ngokwaneleyo, kodwa, enyanisweni, baxhomekeke ekukhohliseni. Ukuba uzijonga njengoluhlobo olunjalo, phendula ngokunyanisekileyo: uhlala uxolela abantu ukuba ungayithandi kwaye ulungele. Ukuba ngaba kunjalo, ngoko awunakunqobi iingxaki kwaye ungazithandi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ngumntu. Khumbula ukuba abantu sibafuna ngokwenene iminqweno yethu kunye nokunganeliseki. Abashiyi kwaye abanomsindo, kodwa bavuma iimpazamo zabo. Ukuba umntu uyazi ukuba intombazana iya kumxolela nayiphi na into, nokuba uyintanda okanye umhlobo, kumlinganiselo omkhulu okanye omncinci, uyayithanda. Owesifazane obulalayo, akukho mntu unokuyenza into engeyiyo okanye ebuhlungu, kwaye akayi kuhlwaywa.
Kwakungekho malunga neendawo okanye iindawo eziphambili zecala. Kuphela nje ukuba loo ntokazi ihlonipha yona kwaye imenza ukuba acinge ngoluvo lwakhe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akuthethi ukuba bonke abantu bafanele bahambisane nantoni na. Kodwa, banyanzelekile ukuphulaphula uluvo lwakho kwaye ubuncinane ungakuhoyi.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukubulala - ungesabi ukulahlekelwa ngumntu. Emva kwakho konke, akukho mntu unokunyanzela ukuba uyeke ukunceda nokuqonda. Awukwazi ukuxolela.
Ukongezelela, kufuneka ulahlekise izakhiwo ezinxulumene nokubonakala. Ukuba ibhinqa lingaziboni ukuba lihle, akayi kuze aziphathe njengendlovukazi. Ukwazi ngeziphoso zabo, oomama banokwesaba ukudlala ngothando, ukutsala ingqalelo, kuba bacinga ukuba amadoda angabahleka.
Ngoko khumbula ukuba uhle. Ukuba awuzicingeli njengaye, yenza ube mnandi. Enyanisweni, yonke into inokwenzeka. Kwaye akufuneki ukuya kubagqirha beeplastiki. Akukho mntu ukhansele imidlalo, izimonyo kunye nezinto ezigxininisa ubugqi kunye nokufihla izinto ezingenakwenzeka. Zikhethele isitayela esigxininisa kakhulu isibalo. Ukuba awukwazi ukupenda ngokufanelekileyo - bhalisela iikhosi zobuso. . Xa ungeyonto ekhululekile kunye nomfanekiso - yiya kwimidlalo. Ubuhle, ngaphezu kwakho konke, usebenza kuwe. Ngoko uzama ukuphumla kwaye wenze ukubonakala kwakho. Ngexesha elide, wena ngokwakho uza kuphawula umphumo, kwaye abanye baya kukuphawula. Uya kuziva ukuba amadoda akhangele kuwe. Ngenxa yoko - zonke izinto ezinzima kakhulu sele zenziwe. Kuhlala ukufunda indlela yokunxibelelana nabafana ngokuchanekileyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kwisiganeko esithile sabantu, unako ukuhlala ungumthonyama, umhlobo-ntombazana onokuqonda. Kodwa kungekhona kulabo ofuna ukuwadukisa nokuwunqoba. Ngoko ke, musa ukugijimela kuwo wonke umntu onengalo evulekile. Indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba kufuneka iphumelele ingqalelo yakho. Funda ukunyaniseka, ukudlala ngothando. Musa ukuphulaphula ngentshisekelo enkulu yonke into ayitshoyo umfana. Ngoko uvakalelwa kukuba uyindoda, kwaye uyisidenge. Kodwa musa ukuhlaziya isithunzi sakhe. Zama ukuzilawula. Kwakhona, unganditshiyo yonke into malunga nawe. I-fatale yomfazi ngumfazi ongaziwayo. Ngoko, musa ukuthetha ngazo zonke iinkcukacha. Kwaye, akukho mzekelo, awukwazi ukuxelela abantu malunga neengxube zabo kwaye bababonge. Abafazi abathandekayo akukho namnye onobubele. Abayidingi. La mabhinqa akakwazi ukukhubeka. Akukho mntu ufanelekile iinyembezi. Kakade, oku akukwenyani ngokupheleleyo, kodwa abafana bengazi malunga nalo. Kwaye, akufanele uziphatha. Kulula nje, nokuba ngaba buhlungu, funda ukucima iimvakalelo zakho kuluntu.
Nangona kunjalo-bukele amadoda. Musa ukuthethelela kwaye uchaze izenzo zabo.
Jonga nje. Ngoko unokufunda izinto ezininzi ezinomdla kwaye uqonde indlela yokuziphatha kwiimeko ezithile. Amadoda akhokelwa ngu-understatement, i-detachment elula. Akufanele baqiniseke ukuba unamandla abo. Kuphela ukuba umfana uvakalelwa kukuba intlanzi nganoma naliphi na ixesha inokungena kwi-hook, iya kwenza yonke imizamo yokuyigcina. Ngaphandle koko, abafana balahlekelwa ngumdla kunye nemihlali. Ngothando, ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, baphumule baze bayeke ukunikela ingqalelo kwintokazi.
Yiba nobuqili ngokwaneleyo ukuphawula indlela yokulawula le okanye loo ndoda. Enyanisweni, oku akunzima kakhulu. Bonke abafana banomdla kubonakala, ubulili kunye nemfihlelo. Kwaye wonke umfazi unakho konke, kungekhona wonke umntu onokulawula iitalente zakhe ngenxa yeengxaki. Ngoko ke, kholelwa ukuba uyindlovukazi, kwaye kufuneka bafune ingqalelo yakho, kodwa musa ukugxeka. Kwaye zonke izinto ziya kuvela.