Ixesha alikho ebantwini abaphucukileyo kakhulu - yindlela onokuyichaza ngayo loo mntwana ngomntwana ofunde ukufunda ezintlanu, kwaye kwayishumi ufunda izinto ezisiseko zeemathematika eziphezulu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, lo mzekelo unokwanda, kodwa ngoncedo lwawo kulula ukuqonda ukuba kutheni ngamanye amaxesha umntwana engathandanga kwontanga kunye nento yokwenza ngayo.
Ekubonweni kokuqala, into yonke imangalisayo - umntwana ngokuzithemba phambi kwamandla akhethekileyo obudala bakhe. Kodwa imidlalo yezemidlalo iyimfuneko, kwaye ukuba umntwana akanakucandelwa oontanga, kufuneka kwenziwe into malunga nale nto.
Yiyo indlela ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali kunye nootitshala be-kindergarten, ootitshala esikolweni baqala. Ngezihlobo zabo, unyana okanye intombi yinto ebalulekileyo kunazo zonke kwihlabathi, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile abadlala neontanga!
Yintoni eyenzekayo?
Oomama kunye nogogo bayachukumiswa ngumntwana okhulileyo, kodwa ngokwenene lixesha lokumgcina. Ukuqonda into enokuyenza xa umntwana engathandanga nontanga kunokwenzeka kuphela ukuba izalamane ziphulaphula uluvo lweengqondo zeengqondo. Yaye ingatsho ngokucacileyo ukuba ukususela kwiminyaka engama-5 umntwana udlula okubizwa ngokuba yi-socialization - ukulungelelaniswa nokuhlanganiswa.
Kwizalamane, nguye owona mhle, kunye neentlobo zengqondo abafuni ukudlala naye ... Ngoku ke umntwana uvalelwe kwilizwe lakhe, apho kungekho ndawo yabangontanga. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abe nabanye kwaye bakwazi ukudlala. Kwaye oku kuhambelana ngqo nekhono lokuthobela imithetho, kwaye ukhusela uluvo lwakho, ukuba imithetho emiselweyo iphulwa ngumnye umntu.
Ngabantu abadala, incoko ifutshane. Nokuba bafundisa, kwaye kufuneka uthobele, okanye unako "ukunyamezela isihe", ube mncinci, kuye konke okusemandleni. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantu abadala banxibe njani ngento enomdla malunga nencoko "ngokulinganayo", ngoko umntwana wabo uthetha kuphela nabanye abantwana.
Akufanele bathethe kuphela, bafunde ukuxoxisana kunye nokuqonda iindima zentlalo, ukuphikisa iingcinga zabo neenkolelo zabo. Kukho nkampani yoontanga apho umntwana efunda ngaye ngokwakhe nokuba abe njani phakathi kwamanye, alinganayo kwisimo, abantwana. Ufunda malunga nokungalingani, kwaye ekugqibeleni ufunda 'ukunikela utshintsho', ukuyeka ukuhlambalaza. Hlonipha okanye wenze ngokuchasene nezikhokelo zabantu "abadala nabasilumko." Oko kukuthi, ithola izakhono eziyimfuneko ngokupheleleyo ekubandakanyiweyo ngokupheleleyo kwizakhono zoluntu.
Ihlabathi labantu abadala akubona abantwana!
Xa umntwana engunaphakade nabazali, kungekudala okanye kamva uqala ukubheka kuphela kubo, kwaye athathe ezinye zeempendulo zabo. Umzekelo: "Umama uyayithanda xa ndiqokelela ngokucophelela iipuzzle" iguqulwa ibe "Ndiyathanda ukuqokelela iipuzzles". Umntwana akanakho indawo yokufumana ulwazi malunga noko yena, ngaphandle kwabo banomdla kwiimvavanyo eziphakamileyo zabantu-kubazali bakhe.
Ewe, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngemfundo eqhubekayo, umntwana ukhula ngengqondo. Uphucula isigama sakhe ngamazwi amatsha, kodwa olu phuhliso luhlangene. Utshintsho lwamaxesha kwiqela elikhulu libhekiselele kwizakhono zengqondo, kwaye, mhlawumbi, ngokwenyama. Kodwa ukukhula komzimba, ukuthanda ngamandla, ukuphuhliswa kwezakhono zonxibelelwano ngokuchasene kwaye kudla ngokukhawuleza emva kwe "smart chap".
Kodwa ngokuchanekileyo oku kuyimpembelelo ehambelanayo neengxabano zabantwana. Emotionally, umntwana uyaxhatshazwa kwiingxaki, ngokunyamekela imithetho, nangona ingaziqondi. Akakwazi ukufumana iimvakalelo zakhe kuphela, kodwa novelwano nabanye. Ukuze ujabule ngomhlobo, ukuba ube nobuhlungu naye - konke oku kusisiseko somntwana ovisisanayo. Kwaye kunzima ukwenza oku kunye nomntu okhulile, umntu ophethwe kakuhle. Ngoko, umbuzo othi "wenzeni ukuba umntwana akanakuthandana noontanga", iingcali zeengqondo zincoma ngokucacileyo ukuqonda izizathu ezikhuthaza umntu ukuba "angene kuye."
Ukuphepha ukunyaniseka okubalulekileyo: izizathu
Ubunzima bokuzama ukuzisa umntwana kwiqela elikhulu, ukumxelela "abangaziwayo" -abanye abantwana-abahlukileyo. Okokuqala, ezi zinto zithintekayo zengqondo - ngokomzekelo, unalo (okanye usungulwe "abantwana ababi"). Ngoko, intombazana epheleleyo inokukhatywa ngulube, njalo njalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uhambo olulandelayo ukuya enkulisa luya kutshabalalisa okanye ludibanise neentlanzi, iinyembezi. "Ukunyaniseka komntwana kukusola." Ngesangqa sakhe, ukhululekile ukuzibonakalisa yena, kwaye abanye, babalingana, banokuyiqonda.
Inketho yesibini ukuzingca, xa kunzima umntwana ukuba athelekise umnqweno kunye namathuba akhe afanayo-abantwana abanjalo. I-Egoism iyimpawu efunyenweyo, xa abantwana befumana ingqalelo ephezulu kwintsapho, baba yiziko elingabalulekanga. Kwaye abatsha, njengomthetho, abazithembi, baya kuba "nokuqinisekiswa" kwi-kindergarten. Ngako oko, kulo mzekelo kubalulekile ukukunceda ukuvumelanisa neengane zomntwana, iinkcazo, amabali anomdla. Ukumnceda ukuba alungiselele ukusingqongileyo, abazali badala "indawo yokugcina" efanelekileyo kwixesha elizayo.