Umntwana uphupha amaphupha amabi

Abantwana kaninzi banamaphupha amabi. Uninzi lwawo lulibalekile kwaye luye lugqitywe ngentsasa. Kodwa amanye amaphupha anempembelelo enamandla kakhulu kumntwana wengqondo. Umntwana ukhumbula iziganeko kunye nezinto eziyikrakrayo aze azikhumbule kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukwesaba kwakhe kwihlabathi lenene. Ingaba izinto ezahlukeneyo, izenzo, izidalwa. Ezi ziyi-dragons ezibuhlungu kunye neziqhwala ezikhohlakeleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana uloyiko lwakhe inkohlakalo: uyabulala umntu okanye awonakalise impilo yabathathi-nxaxheba ebuthongweni bakhe. Konke oku kuhlehlisiwe kwimemori yomntwana kwaye uyaqhubeka emthusa kungekhona kwiphupha kuphela, kodwa nangokwenene.

Umnqweno wendalo wabazali, abafunde ukuba umntwana wabo unamaphupha awonayo, unomnqweno wokunceda, unqande uluhlu lwezinto zokulala kunye nokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uxolo. Into eyona nto kukukwenza ngokuqonda - ngokuthe ngcembe kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo ukuphelisa izizathu zala maphupha, kunokuba uzame ukubathatha "ngomgibe", usebenzisa iincwadi ezilungiselelwe "zokomoya".

Iingqondo zanamhlanje zikholelwa ukuba loo maphupha abonakalisa iinkqubo ezinzulu zokuba ngumntwana. Le ngenye yezinto ezingathandekiyo, kodwa ezingenakupheka kwaye ngezinye iindlela zinezigaba ezifanelekileyo zokuphuhliswa. Iphupha ngalinye elo liphela nje ngamava omcimbi kwilizwe langaphandle, kodwa kunye nesiganeko esicacileyo, esinomzwelo ebomini kwindoda encinane. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphuhliswa komntwana kuyimfuneko yokwamkela amava obuhlungu, kunye nokuqatshelwa kwayo - kunye nokuphendula kwabo kubazali.

Kukho amanqanaba amaninzi okujonga ukulala. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ulwazi luye lwacutshulwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye iphupha lilibalekile ngexesha lokuvuswa kwaye ingashiyi mva. Inqanaba lesibini lizinga lokukhumbula ukulala. Ixesha elibi lidla ngokucatshungulwa, litshilwa, liphinde lenzeke ngokutsha. Oku kwenzeka xa ulwazi olufakwe ngefom ephupha lucacisiwe ngokwaneleyo. Abazali badinga uncedo-ingxoxo yokulala, ibali kwimifanekiso okanye umdlalo odlala indima.

Okubaluleke kunabo bonke, ukuba ubuthongo buloyikisayo umntwana wasukuma. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amaphupha amabi kakhulu umntwana uzama ukufihla. Ukuqonda ukuba into ephosakeleyo ngabazali kuphela ngenxa yokunganaki okungaqondakali komntwana, ukubonakala kokwesaba ubumnyama kunye noloyiko lokuzimelela kwintsana engenakuzelelwa. Kwimeko enje, umntwana uhlala evekile kwaye ecinezelekile ukuba abazali banomuzwa ongenakunceda. Ukuba awuzivumi ukuzithemba ngamakhono akho - unokunikela ngeeklasi zokulungiswa kwengqondo yengane kunye neengcali zeengqondo zezingane.

Kulula ukuba umntwana avulekele umfokazi, ingakumbi ukuba amabali amabizo adibeneyo ahambelana nobugwenxa bakhe okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukwesaba okungenangqiqo. Ingcali iza kumnceda umntwana aphile isiqhelo ekupheleni kwayo yonke inguqu yeemifanekiso, engayikukhetha "okuhle" ngaphambi kokuba "yingozi." Isazi sengqondo sisazi ukuba umntu kufuneka akholwe okwenzekayo kwiphupha kwaye axhaswe ukuphuhliswa kwesifundo sakhe, ngakumbi ukuba akunakuqondakala okanye ayesabisayo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuze ukhululo lwemvakalelo luqale, uloyiko lufanele lufumaneke. Kwaye umntu omdala makakhuthaze umntwana, amncede akwazi ukujamelana noloyiko, amnike ukuzithemba ukuba enze okuthile, uya kumelana nomngeni kunye nengozi. Yilokho eyenza ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo kukhangeke.

Ngexesha elifanayo, abazali bafanele baqonde ukuba akuyimfuneko ukuthabatha umntwana oogqirha ngenxa yobuthongo obunzima bomntu - kufuneka ufunde ukwenjenjalo ukuba amaphupha amabi angayikhumbuli umntwana. Kwaye ngenxa yoko ufuna nje ukwazi ukuba uyathandwa, uyaqonda kwaye uyamkeleka njengokuba.