Iphutha lenzekile.
Wonke umntu ogwetywe ngokunyaniseka, ukufikelela ekugqibeleni, uxela ukuba ulwaphulo-mthetho lwakhe luyiphutha elibi, nangona ukuba inkosikazi ikhona ebomini bakhe ngaphezu konyaka. Ucinga, ndenze iphutha nomntu ongenakho!
Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngokwenene, umntu wenza isenzo, esizisola ngokunyanisekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ngxowananiso yangexesha elilodwa, ukungcatshiswa ngokukhawuleza, engazange acwangcise kwaye akafuni. Inyaniso yolo hlobo lokungcatsha yenza umntu ahlupheke ngesazela. Ubundlobongela nomntu ongaqhelekanga ngohambo lwezoshishino, ngexesha leqela lequmrhu, ukungazi kakuhle - akunandaba nokuba yintoni na okanye njani.
Ukuba ulwalamano luphela, ngaphambi kokuba luqale, lo mntu uvakalelwa kukuba unetyala, kwakuyiphutha nje.
Buyise.
Ngaphambi kokuba ugculele umntu ngenxa yokunyelisa, kufuneka ujonge ngokucophelela. Kwaye andiyi kuba isizathu sokuba intanda yam isandula "ishiye"?
Ukuhlambalaza okungaqondakaliyo, umona oqhubekayo ukhuthaza umntu ukuba enze isenzo esinjalo ukuze ahlawulwe.
Ngamanye amaxesha umfazi ngokwakhe akafani nantoni, uthanda ngokugqithiseleyo indoda, i-flirts, kwaye mhlawumbi iyitshintsha. Indoda ayikwazi ukuzenza ngathi uyazi ngokunyaniseka, kodwa khetha indlela enje yokuziphindezela, eqondakalayo.
Inkathazo.
Sonke kuthi ngomzuzwana othile siziva sidinwe kunoma luphi ubudlelwane. Ubomi be-Zaetat, uxinzelelo iingxaki, kukho ukuphazamiseka. Omnye kwiimeko ezinjalo uzama ukuthetha nokutshintsha into ethile, kodwa umntu utshintshana.
Ukukhathala kobudlelwane, indoda ikhangele iindiva ezintsha kwicala. Ukuqhagamshelana okungabikho komsebenzi kunika umonakalo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwinto eqhelekileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha lo mkhuba uba ngumkhuba.
Inkampani embi.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba le nto ingangenangqondo kangakanani, ezininzi izenzo zendoda zenziwa ngokubambisana. Umhlobo wakhe watshintshwa ngumfazi wakhe, awawuthetha ngalo "kwiqela elincinci" elilandelayo. Abahlobo banqwenela ukunceda uncedo, bamphazamise inkampani ebhinqa yamantombazana. Ukusuka kwindlela efanayo yokubambisana kwabafazi abanjalo banokutshintsha nakwabo abaqulunqwe ngokupheleleyo.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba kwezinye iindidi zinenkosikazi ekufutshane nomgaqo ogunyazisiweyo, ngaphandle kweyiphi indoda ayikwazi ukuziva ilingana. Isangqa soqhagamshelwano sisenza ukuba senze izinto ezininzi, nangona sibuhlungu, ukukhohliswa ngamanye amaxesha kubandakanywa kwingcamango yokuphumelela.
Uthando.
Kuye kwenzeka ukuba indoda yindoda yokwenza umfazi. Kunzima kuye ukuba ahlale engenamdla kubasetyhini abalungileyo, akanakuzigcina ezandleni kwaye ngoko utshintsho. Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mkhuba ubonakala ngokukhawuleza, lo mpawu ungabonakali ngaphandle kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba ungumfazi wakho oyintandokazi, mhlawumbi uyazi oku kwaye uyaziqhelana kunye naye. Ukulungisa loo ndoda kunzima kakhulu.
Umlinganiselo wexeshana.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uzifumanisa inkosikazi yesikhashana, ukunyanzela ezininzi kwiimfuno zakhe, kunokuthobela ukukhawuleza. Ngokomzekelo, wanquma ukuya kufundisisa ixesha elide, kwihambo loshishino okanye ukuba nomntwana. Ngexesha elithile, ukungabikho kwesondo kuya kwenza umsebenzi walo, kwaye umntu unokusombulula ingxaki ngale ndlela.
Kwakhona kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa linyamekela kakhulu intanda yakhe, liyamphatha ngakumbi njengomama. Yaye ngubani ofuna ukulala nonina? Amadoda afumana kwicala engafumanekanga ngezinye iindlela.
Ukungaqiniseki.
Ukususela kwiminyaka ethile, amadoda angakhuselekanga ngamandla abo. Xa bebudala, baqala ukungathandabuzeki ukuba banomdla kunye nokuba bangabangela umdla kubantu besetyhini. Bayesaba ukulahlekelwa ngamandla abo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubandisa emtshatweni kwenza umntu acinge ukuba akayifanelekanga nantoni na ukuba ubomi bakhe bubuhlungu.
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, akafunanga uthando olutsha, kodwa ngenxa yobungqina bokuba unokuthanda nokuwanelisa. Inokuhlala ixesha elide, kude kube nokuzithemba kunye nobudlelwane obufudumele nomfazi obuyelayo.
Uthando olukhulu.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu xa umntu engatshintshi nje oko, kungekhona ngephutha, kungekhona ngokubala, kodwa ngothando. Umfazi unako ukuwugcina ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, kuba aba baninzi abafazi banamathuba okwaneleyo, kodwa awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu akanakwenzeka ukuqhawula umtshato, kodwa utshintsho, kuba uyamthanda omnye.
Ukujamelana nale meko kuya kunceda ixesha kuphela. Uthando ohlangothini lunokudlula, kwaye lunokuhlala iminyaka. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwenzeka ukugcina umtshato kunye nothando, ngamanye amaxesha akukho nto.
Kukho umboniso - ngubani osilumkileyo, uxhobile. Ukwazi izizathu zokuba kutheni umntu wakho angene ekukhohliseni, kulula ukuyilawula nokuzilungisa nokuziphatha kwakhe. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba indoda yakho inezizathu ezaneleyo zokungqubuzana, kodwa ulwalamano lwakho luthetha kakhulu kuwe, ungayilungisa imeko kwaye ukhusele ukuphulwa kokugqibela. Ukuba uhlaselo lusele lwenzekile, usadingeka uhlaziye imeko kwaye unqume ukuba uxolele okanye ungayithandi, yintoni omele ukwenze nokuba wenzeni. Kwaye into ephambili yindlela yokukhusela oku kungenzeki kwakhona.
Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba bonke abantu abayitshintshi into eyenziwa ngumntu wonke. Akunabo bonke abafazi abashukumisa abantu ukuba bakrexe. Ulwalamano oluqinileyo nothando olunyanisekileyo luyakwazi ukuhlala lithembekile omnye komnye kwiminyaka emininzi nangenxa yokuphila.