I-Mesalians yindlela yokwalamano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, apho isikhundla sabo (intlalo okanye ipropati) ihluke kakhulu. Kodwa uthando, njengoko uqondayo, alukwazi ukuhlula phakathi kwabampofu kunye nabatyebi, abagulayo kunye nempilo, kwaye baninzi phakathi koomncinci kwaye abaselula kakhulu ...
Umtshato, apho indoda ikhulile, uluntu luvame ukuvunywa ngaphandle koko aluvumeliyo. Kwaye ukuba ngaba ngowona mdala kubudlelwane bhinqa, ngoko ke, ngokuchaseneyo, ayamkelekanga nakweyiphi na inkcubeko yanamhlanje. Ngoko ke, umbuzo uvela: ukuba umntu usemncinane - ngaba kukho ikamva lobudlelwane kunye nesibini?
Yintoni abavakalisi kunye neentombi ezithethayo
Okokuqala, siphulaphule "ubulumko babantu" - ngaba bantu abaqhelekileyo bathetha ntoni ngobudlelwane obunjalo.
Ngolwalamano olunjalo, xa umntu eselula kakhulu, kukho ikamva le sibini, baqiqa bonke abo bangabunobunzima. Abahlobo kunye nabahlobo, abamelwane kunye neentsapho - bonke banombono wabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo lo mbhangqwana unyanzelekile ukuba unqande yonke le "ngcobo ebhentshini," ukuvikela ilungelo lokuthanda.
Kodwa kukho ukungafani. Abo bangabandakanyekanga ubuncinane abathathi-nxaxheba kubudlelwane ababalulekanga kakhulu, indoda okanye ibhinqa elidala kunokuba lifuna ulonwabo ngokunyanisekileyo. Kwaye ngokwabo bavakalisa ukungathandabuzeki-bathi, "perebesitsya", "ugula" nayo, fumana encinane ...
Intetho engcolileyo
Ixesha elizayo le sibini lihlala lizandleni zalabo abenza ubudlelwane-amadoda nabesifazane abathile. Kodwa abo banomdla wokuhleba kunye nokucatshulwa, ngokukhawuleza baxela ukufa kobudlelwane "uncinci, usemdala." Ngoko ke, abafazi (kunye namadoda) bayazibuza ukuba le ndoda ingumncinci - ngaba kukho ikamva lolwalamano?
"Awukwazi ukubeka i-kerchief kwi-roller nganye"
Ukuqala, ukwenzela ukuba ikamva lolwalamano lusabonakala, kukhululekile ukuthabatha le nkohliso. Musa ukusabela xa ushukunyiswa ngabahlobo, abahlobo kunye nabamelwane abaqaphelayo: indoda incinci kakhulu - ngaba ikhefu elizayo?
Ziziphi iingqondo zengqondo
Ukuba ngaba isithuba esithile esiphumeleleyo esingathandabuzekiyo sasiyicatshangelwa apho umntu oneminyaka engama-3-5 ubudala (kwaye unokuba ngaphezulu - ukuya kwiminyaka engama-7-10 eyahlukileyo), ngoku akanayo inani elingenakuthenjwa.
Iingcali zengqondo zigxininisa ukuba ummahluko ochaphazela ukuba umntu uncinci kangako, nokuba ikamva le sibini lixhomekeke kulo, okokuqala, kulokhu. I-optimal isasahluko kwiminyaka engama-3-5, ngaphezulu (ngokuqhelekileyo ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi-10) - lo myalelo omkhulu.
Inyaniso yeHarsh
Nantoni na izithandwa zithi, ukuba ubuhlobo obuqinileyo buboshwe phakathi komfazi osekhulile kunye nomncinci, oku akukho ulwalamano lwabazali bomntwana ngokupheleleyo. Umfazi - "unina", nangaphandle kokuqonda. Kwaye umyeni "ungumntwana" omele uyakunakekela. Ngako oko, kwiimeko ezininzi, i-diners kunye noogogo boogogo banelungelo, kodwa kuphela kwinxalenye. Olu dlelwane luya kuba luhluke kancinci kunezo zibini eziqhelekileyo.
Enyanisweni, izazi zengqondo zisikhumbuza ukuba ukuzinza kwesibini ngokuyinhloko kuxhomekeke ekuzimeni kwamalingani ukugcina uhlobo olukhethekileyo lwalamano. Kwaye ukuba zombini zikulungele, ngoko zibini zikhona lula iminyaka engama-20.
Yintoni endiyenzayo?
Okokuqala, ukuba indoda kunye nomfazi bahlala bekhululekile kwezobudlelwane, indawo enhle neyaneleyo yokukhula (ubuqu, ubuchwepheshe), ke ungabeki ukuhlala kwesibini esichengeni kuphela ngenxa yeengcamango zabanye. Kwaye kwiimpawu zokuqala zengxaki-ukujongana neengqondo zentsapho.
Njengomthetho, ubunzima buvela ngokukodwa apho "umntwana" okanye "umama" adinga indawo, indawo, ithuba lokuzibonela. I-hyperope ye "mama" okanye isinamathiselo sayo "kumntwana" inokucaphukisa. Kwiimeko ezingaqhelekanga (ukuphakanyiswa, ukudluliselwa, ukusweleka kwesihlobo esiseduze), ezi ngxaki ziya kubonakala ngendlela ekulindeleke kakhulu - ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane bosapho.
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into ayinakwenzeka - kubandakanya ukunyanzelana ukuba uhlale exhasa i-hearth, soloko unomnye nomnye ngovuyo kunye noncedo, kwaye kungekhona ngokulandelelana. Kodwa ukususela ekufanayo akuqinisekisiwe kunye nezinye, ukuchuma ngakumbi, ekuqalekeni, izibini.
Ubani onenzuzo?
Ukuba umntu wobugcisa bokudala, okanye umfazi akaxhomezeli amandla phezu kwakhe - ulwalamano olunjalo kubo luya kuba luhle. Uvuyo lweempawu zokudibanisa, kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nokungaxhamlanisi "nokuba ngumama" kunye "nomntwana othiwa" kunokunxibelelana ngokumangalisayo. Ngoko, umzi onjalo-owakhelwe kuwo:
- ukuqonda imeko, iinzuzo ngamnye
- umnqweno wokuba nomnye
- ulwalamano olungokomoya
inokukwazi ukuhlala ezininzi njengoko ufuna.
Ubungqina besibini abukwenzeka ...
Amantombazana awayithandana kuphela, abancinci nabamnandi - nabo banenkinga yokuziqhelanisa bobabini ubudlelwane nobomi. Kule nkalo, umfazi ovuthiweyo ukhetheke. Ewe, akanakho ukukhuphisana nomntwana oneminyaka eyi-18 "ngoMeyi weeRes", kodwa uyazi ngezinye izinto ezininzi.
- Ungakhathazeki umyeni wakhe, umphazamise kwizinto ezinqabileyo, ukuba ufuna ukucinga ngento ebalulekileyo.
- Unokuba ngumhlobo, umcebisi, uncedisi apho "intombikazi" ibe ngumthwalo.
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, wenza isicwangciso somsebenzi, okanye uyazi into ayifunayo. Unendawo yokuhlala okanye sele sele icebise indlela kunye nendlela yokukwazi ukusombulula le ngxaki.
Yaye uya kuqonda zonke izidima ezingenammiselo wendoda-ayixhomekeke kuye kwakhona ...