Ngokuthandana ungatsho ukuba kungekuphi iiyure, kodwa iminyaka, kodwa ukuthetha okuncinci, usadinga ukuthanda. Ukungazithandi iiyure, kodwa iminyaka. Kangangeenkulungwane, siye saxoxa ngothando kunye nomlinganiselo ofanayo esiwuthandayo. Ngothando, ezininzi iingcamango ziye zaqalwa kwaye imithetho emininzi iyasebenza. Ngothando kunamacala amaninzi kunye nama-angles amaninzi, kwaye yonke imihla, xa sibhekene nento entsha, ndikhawuleza ukuxelela abanye iingcinga zam kwaye ndikhawuleze ukubamba yonke into ephepheni ngeencwadi. Kukho iingcinga ezininzi kunye nezihloko ezininzi entloko yam, kwaye kunzima ukukhetha into, kuba konke oku kudibanisene kakhulu kangangokuthi akukho nto ikwahlula ngayo ukwahlula. Uthando luvakalelwa ngumoya, siphefumula uthando, ukuphefumla ngothando lomntu nokuphefumula uthando lwethu lomntu. Ukuthanda kakuhle, kwaye ngakumbi xa yonke into ihamba kakuhle kulwalamano. Yaye xa uthando lungalungile, kunye nolwalamano, indoda iphakamise isandla sayo kwintombi yakhe? Nangona kunjalo, eli nqaku liya kuhanjiswa ngesihloko esithi "ubundlobongela kwabasetyhini njengengxaki yentlalo". Andikwazi, andiyi kubelana ngamabali ayenene ngobundlobongela kunye neengcamango malunga noko kubangela ubundlobongela nendlela yokuziphepha.
Indoda ephakamisa isandla phezu kwowesifazane yindoda ethandekayo neyona ephantsi, engafanele ihlawulwe ngesihloko esikhulu njengendoda. Indoda yileyo kunye nendoda, ukuze ikwazi ukunyamezela nokunyamezela nayiphi na inkohliso yowesifazane oqatha. Indoda kufuneka ikwazi ukunyamezela, kodwa, nangona kunjalo thina besifazane, ngamanye amaxesha singenakuze sinyamezele kwaye singenasiphelo sokuthi ngaphandle kwesandla somntu onzima, akunakwenzeka. Okanye mhlawumbi unako ukwenza ngaphandle, kodwa kwiziseko zethu zokuziphatha, ubundlobongela obhinqileyo sele sele bubekwe bucala okanye buya kugxininiswa kuphela, ukuba luqala ukuguquka kwingxaki yentlalo ibe yinto evamile?
Kuba amadoda amaninzi ukuphakamisa isandla ngokubhekiselele kumfazi uthathwa njengesenzo esiphantsi, apho ndibahlonela khona amadoda - axhomekeke ngokufanelekileyo njengamadoda anamandla. Kwaye abo abangenakunzima kwaye ngaphakathi kwemida yesiqhelo sokwenza lo msebenzi baya kuthathwa njengobuthakathaka ngokokuziphatha, ukuba abanakuzikhusela amandla abo ngokubetha abafazi.
Kungekudala ndadibana nabahlobo bam, sasisebenza kunye. Bakhulu kakhulu kunam, kwaye sele babone izinto ezininzi ebomini babo. Xa bendibuza ukuba ndidibana nomntu, ndaphendula ngolu hlobo, ndaqalisa ukuhamba kwindandatho yam, inqaku lefestile ngqiqo yelizwi, ndilungelelanise kwiintsebenziswano ukuba ngamanye amaxesha xa ndicinga ngako, kuya kuba yinto eyoyikisayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba iilwimi ezinobungozi ziyi-jinxed, kodwa mbulela uThixo yonke into iphelele kum. Ngokufanelekileyo, kungekhona nangayiphi na imigangatho, eyenziwe yindlobongela yelizwe, iimbono zayo zibe ngumthetho. Hayi, ndinemiqondo yam kunye nemithetho yam, nangona engenayo isandi kwaye akukho ndawo yokuhlala, akunandaba nam, uxolo lwengqondo kunye nokuvisisana kwiintsebenziswano zethu - yiloo nto esiyidingayo ukuyixabisa kunye noko sifuna ukukufezekisa. Xa ndithetha nabahlobo bam, ndafunda ukuba abo babathandekayo babethandelwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kwaye ngoku ke omnye wabo ubalekela kwindlovu, eyika ukwesaba iindaba ezilungileyo eziqalayo, ngelixa elinye lihlala likhangela ezinye iintsilelo. Ukuphulaphula ibali likaLily, indlela umfana wakhe omthandayo ngayo kunye nendlela agijima ngayo emva kwesitimela xa wamshiya, indlela eyamemeza ngayo umzila ongenako ngaphandle kwakhe, ndothuka gqitha. Ngokuqhelekileyo baleka emva kwesitimela, kunye nezicelo zokuhlala kwaye bangashiyi kuphela kwi-cinema, okanye mhlawumbi andizange ndiye kwisikhululo sikhathi eside. Mna, ngokumangalisa ukumphulaphula, ndacinga, yintoni umfazi ayifunayo? Xa esesesihogweni, xa intombi yakhe ibetha, kwaye iboshwe kwibhethri engayivumeli ukuba ihambe nayo, iphupha leenganekwane apho iya kuthwala khona, kwaye xa ehlala njengenganekwane kwaye ithathwa ezandleni zayo, uhlala kwisitimela esiqhakazile kwindawo ethile ihlabathi apho liza kuphinda libethe, nangona lingekho emzimbeni, kodwa ngokuziphatha.
Wayeqhele ukudibana nendodana kaPapa, uyise owayengumlawuli wefektri, kwaye wayenendawo yokuhlala kunye nophicotho, kodwa akazange abe nomphefumlo, wamxabela waza wamhlekisa ngokusemandleni akhe. Wayeyibheka enye inkampu. Kwaye ngandlela-thile ubalekela kuye, akayikwesaba into entle, akanako into. Ngaloo ndlela, akanalo unyango olunjalo kunye naye, onobukhohlakali naphantsi. Yaye ke wasinda ebulungile. Umfazi kufuneka abe njengeplastiki, kungekhona kwabanye, kodwa yena ngokwakhe. Kumele asebenze ngokukhawuleza ebomini obulungileyo emva kobubi ubomi, kwaye ukusuka kumbi kufuneka asebenze aze aphephe kuzo zonke iindlela. Emva kwakho konke, sonke siyinkosazana kwaye sifanele isikhulu sethu kunye neyethu yamnandi, apho kukho uthando kunye nesidlo sakulungele. Kwaye ukuba ucinga ngako, ubomi buyingcinga yefestile, yinto encinane nje kwaye ayilungiswa. Ekubeni bethu ubomi banamakhaya, njengabathandekayo bephela abazama ukusikhupha ngeentsimbi kwaye abasibonisi ukukhanya okumhlophe, njengoko kukho abagqwirha ngohlobo lweentombi ezinomona ezikhweleyo ezakha zonke iintlobo zeengcambu emva kweminyango yazo kunye nokunyamezela emehlweni. Kukho neenkosana ezisisuka kwizandla zabahlali, kodwa, ngelishwa, ubomi bungekho buchanekileyo njengengqungquthela yamagama kwaye yonke into ayilungelekanga, kwaye ayisoloko isebenza "kwaye bahlala bevuya ngokuzeleyo." Ibali laqulunqwa ngabantu ukwenzela ukuba linyamekele imiphefumlo yabo eyingozi kunye nemiphumo ekhubazekile, kodwa ubomi buya kuyenzeka ukuba umntu akanakoyika ukuthanda.
Umhlobo wam wesibini uhlala nomyeni omele umlindela wakhe othembekileyo ngeetafile ezigubungile kunye nokuhlamba okupheleleyo. Uhlala ekhangela nayiphi na impazamo kunye neziphoso kuye, ulindele ukungcatshwa nokuxabana, kodwa yonke into ayiyi kulinda. Ngamnye wethu kukho iziphoso, kodwa oku akusiyo isono, sidalwe ngolo hlobo, sithandwa ukwenza iimpazamo, kuba singabantu. Ngokuqinisekileyo, emva kokuhlala ixesha elide, elibuhlungu kunye ne-monster, kunzima ukutyekela ubomi obulungileyo, kuba sele sele ihleli kuyo, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuvuselela. Kufuneka ukwazi ukulibala elibi uze wamkele okulungileyo. Ngamnye wethu ebomini bethu ubandezeleka ngendlela yakhe, kwaye emva kokubandezeleka, iparadesi isilindele, kwaye wonke umntu unayo iparadesi. Ndandiphulaphule ngokukrakra njengoko wayesaba yonke imivimbo yesandla sakhe, nayo yonke intshukumo ebukhali, elindele ukuhlaselwa, kodwa kukho ukuphela kwayo yonke into, ubomi obubi. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokuthandana kunye nolonwabo, kuphela asikwazi ukuwamkela ngaso sonke ixesha, kuba sinoyika ukuphazamiseka ebusweni okanye emva.
Ewe, ndisemncinci, kodwa ndifunda kwiimpazamo zam nabahlobo bam kunye namantombazana. Bakhulu kunami kangangeminyaka engama-10, kodwa bayandifundisa, nangona bengazi kakuhle, kodwa ndifunda, kwaye ndaqonda ukuba akufuneki ukubukeka kakubi, ngoko ndibhalela malunga nalo, oya kuba "ufundise". Musa ukujonga kwaye ungalindelanga okubi. Ndiyayixabisa intanda yam, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba ndiya kuba naye kuphela. Ndingathi yonke into ihamba kakuhle, kuba asizange sithintele umnyaka wonke ngomsila, kodwa sibona omnye nomnye. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ndiyambona, ngakumbi ndimkhumbula. Ndiyathokoza kukuba ekugqibeleni ndifumene indawo yam, nangona kungekho indlu yokungena kunye ne-audi, kodwa ndilungile. I-penthouse kunye ne-audi will be, kodwa kamva. Ukuba akukho nendawo yokungena kunye ne-audi, masibe lula, kodwa into ephambili iya kuba, siya kuba nekamva kunye nayo. Andifuni ukucinga ukuba into entle ifihliwe emva kwezinto ezilungileyo. Makhe angabonakali njengoBrad Pitt, ongeyena uhlobo lwam, makangabi mhle, kwaye mvumeleke ngeentsilelo kunye namacwecwe ebusweni bakhe, kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba ubuso bakhe bubona bubi kakhulu kulwalamano lwethu nakubomi bam. Ukuba ndandisoloko ndiba neentloni kwinqangqa yam bahlobo bam, ngoku ndiziva ndikhululekile, kuba ndiyazi ukuba abanye bangenzani. Ndiyazi ukuba undithanda kangakanani, kwaye ndimthanda ngendlela efanayo. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni konke okufanayo kwimibono yabanye, ndiyaziqhenya ngaye kunye nam. Makungabikho iziphoso kuwo, kuba ndiyazi ukuba ziphakathi kwam. Zizo zonke abantu, kwaye akukho ziko. Vumela abantu bacinge ukuba ubuhle obunjalo bufumaneka kwi "monster" enjalo, kodwa ndiyazi into endiyifumene kuyo kwaye ndiyixabisa kakhulu. Kwaye ukuba amanye amantombazana afunda ukungajongi ngaphandle, kodwa emphefumlweni, ndicinga ukuba, akukho mantombazana angonwabile kwaye bekungekho iinyembezi kunye neentlanzi, kodwa bekuza kuba neenyawo nje ezikhanyayo kunye nolonwabo kunye nobuhle obukhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhangele ubuso, nokuba buhle okanye cha, umphefumlo kufuneka ube mnandi.