Ukuba umntwana wakho akakwazi ukugxila kwinto enye, kufuneka achithe amandla amaninzi namandla. Kwaye ukuba xa useneminyaka yobudala akuyiyo ingozi enkulu, ngoko ixesha (ngokukodwa esikolweni) ukungazinzi luba yintlekele ngokwenene kumntwana kunye nawe. Khumbula into ephambili: unabazali. Kwaye unako ukukunceda umntwana ukuba ahlangabezane nale ngxaki. Kuphela kufuneka uyenze ngokucophelela kwaye ngokuqhubekayo. Ngoko, ufanele ufundise njani ukunyanzela kumntwana wakho? Kule nqaku uza kufumana impendulo epheleleyo kulo mbuzo.
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Kumntwana omncinci, kuphela imizuzu emibini kuphela. Abantwana bazama ukugubungela kangangoko, ngokunjalo bahlale "bexhuma" kwisifundo esinye baye kwesinye. Waqala nje ukudweba umzobo, kwakungekho mizuzu emihlanu ngaphambi kokuba athathe ipiramidi, kodwa ayengakaze ihlanganiswe, kuba i-cartoon yayisasazwa kwiTV, engenakulindelwa ngenxa yesidingo sokuhlangabezana nomama owabuya esitolo kunye noko Yinandi. Emva kwexesha, umntwana uya kufunda ukukhethwa kombono kwaye angayigxininisa ingqalelo. Kancinci, ixesha lokugxininiswa kwengane liya kuqhubeka kwaye emva koko, ngenxa yokunceda kwabazali, uya kufunda ukuqokelela kwaye uya kukwazi ukufeza umsebenzi oye waqala kwaze kwaba sekupheleni. Kodwa kuthatha amandla amaninzi kunye nomonde ukudala ubunzima bomntwana wokunyamezela kunye nokukwazi ukugxininisa ingqwalaselo.
Qaphela.
Ungayifaka njani ukunyamezela ngokunyamezela? Okokuqala kwaye ngokubalulekileyo, abazali kufuneka baqale ukuphuhlisa ingqalelo yintsana. Unina noomama abaninzi bafuna ukuphulaphula kakade kubantwana abaneminyaka engama-2-3 ubudala, ngelixa abantwana abaneminyaka engama-5 ukuya ku-6 ubudala baqwalaselwa ngokungabikho. Oku kuthetha ukuba kunzima kumntwana ukuba agxininise kwimfuno. Kulo nyaka abantwana banokutsala kuphela into eqaqambileyo ekhangayo. Nangona kunjalo, ingqwalasela engabandakanyekanga ivumela abantwana basesikolweni ngaphambi kokuba bafake ixabiso elikhulu leminyaka engama-3-4 ngaphambi kwesikolo, ukuba banomdla kuyo yonke into baze bazame yonke into.
Ngaloo nto, abazali bakholelwa ukuba umntwana kufuneka adlale ngokuzenzekelayo kwikona yakhe, ngaphandle kokuphazamisa indlu. Kwaye kwangexesha elifanayo, sinqwenela ukuba kwixesha elizayo umntwana uya esikolweni ngempumelelo, ngokwemvelo, ngokuzimela. Kule nqanaba, abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba umntwana uya kukhula kwaye aqeqeshe kuphela xa esemntwaneni, umama kunye nobaba kunye naye baya kusebenza ekuphuhlisweni kwengqondo. Indlela yokuqhuba iiklasi?
Sinikeza iphepha elincinci lokukopela:
• Khumbula ukuba abantwana bathanda into ecacileyo kwaye inomdla. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuvuselela umntwana ngokwenza umsebenzi, mxelele ngemimandla ekhangayo yalo msebenzi. Kwakhona, unokwazi ukuxelela ibali le-fairytale elihambelanayo kunye nomsebenzi, okanye wenze uqeqesho olufana nokuncintisana.
• Ukuvelisa, kuyimfuneko ukudala umoya ozolile kunye noxolo. Ngoko gxotha amathoyizi uze uqinisekise ukuba i-TV ivaliwe.
• Kwindlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zakho, vuyisa kwaye uyamangalisa umntwana.
Kwaye, ke, musa ukulibala ukudumisa umntwana wakho ukuze uphumelele.
• Gcina ukhumbule ukuba intetho yenye yeendlela eziphambili zokukhuthaza. Ngoko ke, gqabaza yonke into oyenzayo, kwaye ubuze umntwana ukuba athethe izenzo zakhe aze ahlanganyele nawe ngcamango malunga nento eya kuyenza. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana uya kufunda ukucwangcisa izenzo zakhe. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi okwakhiwa kwesi sicwangciso, ncedise ukuba ahlangabezane nalo msebenzi obunzima, cela: "Uyenza ntoni ngoku?", "Uza kwenza ntoni ngoko?", "Khangela apho ...", "kwaye unokwenza oku ".
• Ukuba, nangona zonke iinzame zakho kunye nemigqaliselo, umntwana othandekayo ngoku ngoku ejika efuna imisebenzi emnandi, ungazami ukunqanda iminqweno yakhe ngamagama afanelekileyo afana nalawa: "Khubaza!", "Ungagungqi!". Mcebise umzekelo ukuba umntwana aqede umsebenzi: "Khangela, unabantu abambalwa abashiye ukugqiba," "Masenze enye intyatyambo," njl njl.
Ukuze izifundo zibe mnandi kumntwana kwaye zizise inzuzo enkulu, abazali mabahlale bekhumbula ukuba:
- Umntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala unokugxila kwiseshoni enye malunga nemizuzu eyi-15, ngoko kufuneka atshintshe umsebenzi wakhe;
- Awukwazi ukufuna umntwana ukuba ahlale kumsebenzi ongaphezu kwamandla akhe;
- iqondo lokuncincika, elibuhlungu kunye nelo buthathaka lokuncincila abantwana liphantsi, ngoko banokuphazamiseka ngakumbi.
Ukunyamezela nomsebenzi.
Kwinkqubo yokuphuhliswa kwengqalelo yomntwana, sifundisa umonde wakhe, amandla okugqiba umsebenzi oye waqaliswa kwaye ukufezekisa injongo. Kwixesha elizayo, ezi zakhono ziya kumvumela umntwana ukuba aphumelele ngokukhawuleza kwikharityhulam yekharityhulam kunye nokusebenza komsebenzi wesikolo. Akukho sifundo esingcono kunye nesinomdla kumntwana kunomdlalo. Okwangoku, ngumdlalo okhuthaza ukuphuhliswa kwengqalelo, umonde nokunyamezela. Umdlalo uqinisekisa ukungahambisani nokuziphatha, oko kukuthi, umntwana uyazilawula kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo yonke into. Ngelo xesha, kufuna ukuphunyezwa kwemithetho ethile kunye nokugqitywa kwetyala eliqalisiwe. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana kufuneka asebenzise umonde, kungenjalo akayi kwamkelwa kumdlalo.
Indlela eqinisekisiweyo nefanelekileyo yokufundisa umonde nomnqweno wokuphumeza iziphumo eziyimfuneko ngumsebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, abantwana bahlala bevuyiswa ukunceda ngemisebenzi yendlu yabazali babo. Enyanisweni, uMama noTata ngenxa yesizathu esithile abavumi ukuvuma ukuba abantwana baqala. Emva kwakho konke, unako ukuhlamba i-towel yakho ngepiliti yakho eyithandayo, kwaye emva kokuhlambalaza okukhulu ungalahlekelwa iikomityi okanye i-saucers. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abazali bavame ukuphosa yonke ingqumbo yabo kumncedisi ongehlulekiyo, ongenakukwenza nangayiphi na imeko. Ngaphandle koko, uya kuthatha ngokupheleleyo kwi-crumb yakho nayiphi na umnqweno wokukunceda. Wafuna into engcono! Kufuneka uqonde ngokucacileyo oku kwaye ukhuthaze umnqweno womntwana ukukunceda ngazo zonke iindlela. Mdumise ngokunyanisekileyo umntwana ngomsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle, kwaye ngobubele, ubonise umnqweno wakho ukuba umntwana unento engasebenzi: "Umgangatho uhlanjwe ngendwangu ekhethekileyo, kwaye sizisula ngetayili", "Xa uhlamba izitya, ubambe into ngokuqinisekileyo ezandleni zakho, ngaphandle koko uya kuguqa, "" Xa utyhala ientyatyambo, akudingeki ukuba uphulule amanzi amaninzi, "njl. Ngoko ukuba ufuna umntwana wakho akhulise ukusebenza nzima, ungayeki ukuzama ukukunceda!
Ngaphezu koko, qaphela amanqaku ambalwa:
• Ungalindele ukuba umntwana aqale ukubonisa umonde. Uxanduva lokwakheka komgangatho kumntwana ulala kumntu omdala;
• Umama noTata bafanele bahlele imisebenzi yomntwana. Akunangqiqo ukubuza: "Uza kwenza ntoni ngoku, kwaye yintoni na?";
• Khuthaza, khuthaze kwaye udumise umntwana ngokusemandleni onke. Musa ukuzithoba kumagama aqhelekileyo "oqili" kwaye "wenza kakuhle". Kungcono ukubonisa umntwana oko wakwenza ngokukhethekileyo. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - cacisa isizathu sokuba uphumelele: "Wazama, wafezekisa injongo yakho kwaye wayenomonde, ngoko wenza njalo." Ukuba umntwana engaphumelelanga, mlawule, umxhase. Chaza ukuba "ukuze yonke into isebenze, ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukwenza umsebenzi ofanayo maxesha amaninzi. Yile ndlela sifunda ngayo yonke into. "
Imidlalo yokuphuhliswa kwengqalelo.
Fumana ulwahluko. Bonisa umntwana usuhlobo olufanayo kunye nokucela ukungafani.
Yintoni ekhoyo? Beka phambi komntwana umntwana ongama-3-7 amathoyizi (inani leetayi lixhomekeke kwixesha lomntwana), uze umcele ukuba avalwe amehlo akhe aze afihle enye into yokudlala. Emva koko, unike uphawu ukuze uvule amehlo akho. Kumele athi yinto yokudlala engekho.
Ezidliwayo - ezingenakulungiswa. Uphosa ibhola kumntwana, ngelixa ubiza igama. Umntwana kufuneka abambe ibhola kuphela xa uthetha into edlayo, kwaye ukuba akunjalo - kufuneka ulahle.
Yenza njengoko ndenzayo! Ngokubala, wenza isigqi ngokunyakaza okuhambayo (umzekelo, gxuma, ubethe izandla zakho, unqamle unyawo lwakho), kwaye umntwana uphinda emva kwakho. Emva koko, ngokungalindelekanga umntwana, utshintshe intshukumo. Umntwana kufuneka aqalise kwaye aphinda kwakhona intshukumo entsha.
Imisebenzi emithathu. Ingane ifumana into ephathekayo, ngoko kwimiqondiso "Enye, ezimbini, ezintathu - zithathe!" Kumelwe aphephe kwaye ahlale enganyamekanga. Ngeli xesha, ubiza imisebenzi emithathu, kwaye emva komyalelo othi "Omnye, ezimbini, ezintathu!" Intsana ithunyelwa ukwenza imisebenzi. Yaye imisebenzi kufuneka yenziwe ngokukodwa kwindlela oye wabonisa ngayo. Nantsi umzekelo wemisebenzi:
1. Iyintoni isilwanyana?
2. Gxuma kathathu.
3. Yenza umshini wokubhala ohlaza okwesibhakabhaka.
Amageyimu adinga ukuhambelana.
Ukuba ufuna ukunika umntwana isifundo esidinga ukunyamezela, cela:
Paint. Thatha umbala okanye udwebe into kwaye ubuze umntwana ukuba ayihlobise, ngaphandle kokushiya umgca.
Ukutyhila. Ukubumba kwiplastiki kunomdla kakhulu kwaye kumnandi, ngakumbi kumama nobaba. Zama! Wonke umntu uya kuthanda!
Thabatha ipharazi okanye imifanekiso.
Hlela iinkcukacha zombala ngombala.
Dlala ngeentambo .
Thela iimbotyi okanye iifolo kwiibhotile ngentamo emncinci.
Phalaza amanzi ephuma kwisitya kunye nentamo ende ngaphakathi kwisitya kunye nentamo emncinci.
Ungabonakalisa ingcinga kwaye uze nemidlalo emininzi efuna ukunyamezela nokunyamezela. Nangona kunjalo, abazali abafanele bakulibale ukunikela ngemidlalo yebhokhwe kunye nemidlalo esebenzayo, ukuze akwazi ukutshatyalalisa onke amandla aqokelelwe emini. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukukhetha ixesha elifanelekileyo kwiiklasi. Ukuba umntwana unomdlandla, kungcono ukumvumela ukuba agijime ngeli xesha.
Yamkela umntwana wakho ngendlela, kwaye ungammisi njengomzekelo wommelwane Masha, uSasha, Glasha okanye nabani na. Nangona banokukwazi ukufumana i-puzzle, ukungafani nokungazi kakuhle kwakho, okungahlali kumzuzu engaphezu kwe-10. Musa ukubeka uxinzelelo kumntwana! Ukuba umntwana unokuhlala emaminithini kuphela kwemizuzu, yenza njalo. Into ephambili - qhubeka uxakekile!