Wonke umama unethuba xa abanye abantu bembuza imibuzo emininzi malunga nomntwana: into ekwaziyo ukuba yenzeni, indlela edla ngayo, into edlayo, nokuba ingahlala phantsi njalo njalo. Imiyalelo enokukhathaza kakhulu kunye neengcebiso zesizukulwana esidala esikude ukuba sifunde ukuhlala okanye ukwenza ezinye izinto. Enyanisweni, oomama abanomdla baqala ukukhathazeka baze bazibuze ukuba kutheni umntwana engazi ukuba kuhlala njani, kwaye abaninzi baqala ukuphoqa ngamandla kwaye bafundise umntwana oko kungekabikho ixesha. Kule meko, into ephambili ayiyikukwesaba! Makhe sibone ukuba yeyiphi ixesha elide lokuhlala nomntwana kwaye nokuba ufuna ukumnceda kule ngxaki enzima.
Umntwana uhlala nini?
Naliphi na i-mamalomayet intloko yakhe ukusuka kwimimiselo yobudala, eyadalwa ngamanani amaninzi aqhelekileyo. Ukuba umntwana ubuncinci kwixesha elithile uphambukela kule mi qathango, oomama baqala ukuxhalabisa kunye nokwesaba. Nangona oogqirha bazama ukuhlaziya abazali, abaninzi babo bazama ukukhawuleza ukukhula nokuphuhliswa kwengane yabo. Ewe, kuyimfuneko ukumnceda, akukho mntu uphikisana naloo nto, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungalimazi umntwana.
Ukuba umntwana wakho akayi kutshisa ngomnqweno wokuhlala kwiinyanga ezintandathu, ngoko akufanele ukothuke. Inxalenye enkulu yabantwana, kunye nenyaniso, iqala ukuyiqonda oku kuphela kwiinyanga ezisibhozo ezisibhozo, xa sele zivakalelwa kukuba zinokukwenza kwaye zikulungele ngokwenyama. Ukuba uzama ukukhawulezisa le nkqubo, ngoko umntwana wakho unokulimala, okuza kusichaphazela kakhulu impilo kwixesha elizayo. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba uncedo kuphela onokukunika umntwana ukuba enze naye zonke iintlobo zokuzilolonga nokuqinisa i-gymnastics.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlale?
Impendulo eyiyo kulo mbuzo ayiyi kunikwa iwayini. Sekudlulileyo kwiinyanga ezintlanu unokuzama ukugcina ukuguqa ngamadolo akho, kodwa kwimeko yokuba uya kuguquka umva ukuze uphephe uxinzelelo oluqinileyo emgodini. Ukuba awuboni naluphi na ukunganeliseki kumntwana, ngoko kwiiveki ezimbini okanye ezintathu ungazama ukuyishiya ixesha elifutshane kwisithuba sokuhlala phakathi komlobo.
Kungekudala umntwana ngokwakhe uya kuqala ukuhlala, uya kuzama ukuvuka kwindawo yokulala, encike ezandleni zakhe kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uya kufuna ukuphuma. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho wenza into efana nale, cinga ukuba lixesha lokumnceda ukuba afumane iziphumo ezifunwayo.
Ngoku kufuneka sifunde indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlale ngoncedo lwezifundo ezahlukeneyo. Nazi izibonelo ezimbalwa:
- Beka umntwana emlenzeni wakhe ongezantsi kwaye uhambe ngokukhawuleza. Ukuqala kwewashi, kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, malunga neyure. Qaphela ukuba awuyi kuhlahlela kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumlinganiselo.
- Shayela umntu ukuba ancede umntu omdala. Uthabatha umntwana ngamagqabeni, kwaye umntu wesibini amvumele ukuba athathe iingqumbo zakhe ngokukhawuleza angqongqoze umntwana njengelullaby.
- Phendulela ubuso obusweni bakho, uthathe ngama-wrists kwaye ujikeleze ngokukhawuleza kwizandla ezichanekileyo.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale ngamaxesha ambalwa ongeke usebenze, ngako-ke khawube nomonde kwaye ungagqibi xa ixesha lifika konke kuya kwenzeka ngokwalo. Nazi ezinye izicwangciso ezinokukunceda:
- Umntwana akayi kungena kwiinqwelo, kufuneka ubeke umqubu ojikeleze kuye.
- Ukuba umntwana ufunde ukugcina ibhalansi, kukufanelekile ukusebenzisa izinto azifunayo okanye amathoyizi. Xa ehudula emva kwabo, uya kukulibala ukuba ubambelele kuye. Ngoko uya kuqinisa iintlungu zakhe.
- Ukuba i-crumb isetyenzisiwe lonke ixesha lokuphumla kwizinto eziphathekayo, zama ukumnceda kule nto kunye nazo zonke iimidlalo ezifanayo. Zama ukuwahambisa ukusuka kwelinye icala ukuya kwelinye, ukuze umntwana akwazi ukukhipha izixhobo aze azifinyelele.
- Zama ukusebenzisa izandla zakho umntwana njengesigxina, apho uya kubamba khona aze abambe xa kuyimfuneko.
- Ngethuba lokuqala, yenza rhoqo ukusilalisa isisu kwisisu, ukuze ulungiselele imithwalo ngoncedo lwakho.
- Qaphela ukuba ngexesha loqeqesho umntwana akazilimazi, mhlawumbi uya kulahla yonke into enomnqweno wokuqhubeka noqeqesho.
Umntwana kufuneka ahlale ixesha elingakanani?
Kanye nombuzo ongaphambilini, akukho mpendulo engabonakaliyo, kuba ngamnye umntwana uqobo kwaye ukhula ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Ukuba uqale nje uzama ukubeka umntwana ngaphakathi ngokukhawuleza, khangela ukuba wayekule ndawo engekho ngaphezu kwemizuzu emihlanu, mhlawumbi ukhumbule ukuba yonke imithwalo iya emthonjeni.
Abazali abaninzi bazibuza imibuzo eyongezelelweyo kwaye baqala ukuxhalaba xa umntwana engahlali kakuhle. Ukuba umntwana wakho uneminyaka engaphezu kweyesibhozo ubudala, kufuneka uguqulele kwingcali. Ukuba ubudala abuzange bufikelele kweli nqaku, musa ukukwesaba. Kungekudala uya kuba yedwa okanye ngoncedo oluncinci, uya kuqala ukuhlala phantsi. Umsebenzi wakho kukuxhasa umntwana wakho nayiphi na into, ukuthetha rhoqo kunye naye, udlale kwaye umnike ingqwalasela engakumbi. Kule meko, udidi oluhambelana noluntu luya kukhula kwintsapho yakho.