Ukuqonda ukuba ingxaki ebalulekileyo yentsapho ingabantwana abangacwangciswanga, kwaye abazali balindele ukuba iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo ziza kubancedisa ngoko nangoko, ingcali ye-psychologist iza kukucebisa ukuba uqhelane nemimandla eyahlukeneyo, kwaye ugqibe ukuba yeyiphi umntwana wakho. Ulwalathiso olungalindelekanga luyinto engapheliyo, zihlala ziguquka kunye nexesha, imithombo emitsha kunye nemithombo emitsha ivela, kodwa ngoku siyazi ukuba baninzi kakhulu kwaye baninzi kubo. Kuzo zonke iinkcubeko zaso, imithetho yayo kunye nemithetho, iimpawu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ikhoyo ngoku ihambelana ngqo nomculo womculo okanye inkokheli eyayisungula.
I-subculture yokuqala esiyiqwalaselayo mhlawumbi iya kuba yiGoths, enye yeyona ndlela endala kwaye iyabonakala ngokulula. Ukulungele ukutsala izinto zakudala, amangcwaba kunye nezinto eziyikrakra, izinto ezinzima. Bakuphulaphule umculo weklasikhi, i-electro emnyama okanye isithandi se-gothic. Ugqoke amaGoth kwimpahla emnyama, umbala ofanayo ubeka amehlo, izipikili kunye nemilomo. I-goth yangempela ngumntu ovuthayo ovuthayo othanda ukuthetha ngokufa, ukungathathi, ukuzibulala nokudabuka. Ngaphandle kwazo zonke ezi ngxoxo, ingozi yokuzibulala inokufana neyabo bonke abafana, kwaye amacala afanayo awafumanekanga. Nangona, ngelishwa, i-punk yangaphambili yayilungiselele ukungena kwi-subculture, ekukhuseleni iinkqubo zokulwa noluntu.
Emo, mhlawumbi oqhelekileyo phakathi kolutsha olutsha, ngokukodwa amantombazana, lukwasemgangathweni ukusuka kude. Ziyakwazi ukuqwalaselwa inani elikhulu leebheji kunye neemvane, izambatho ezimnyama nezipinki, ezibonakalisa uvuyo nokudakumba. Kwakhona u-emo ufana nokugqoka izitya kunye ne-bandana kunye nomzekelo kwiseli, izindebe kunye nomfanekiso omnyama. Ngokwahlukileyo, ukuhlukahluka kweengubo kunokuhluka, kodwa imibala iyaqhubeka ifanayo: abamnyama kunye neepinki, abafana banabluhlaza. U-Emo uthanda ukugubha ubuso bakhe kwaye aqhube: empumlweni, elwimi, emilonyeni, emacaleni. Izinwele zabo zifana kunye neenwele ezimnyama kunye nebhongo elide eligubungela ubuso. Ifuzisela into yokuba isiqingatha sobuso babo obuqhelekileyo, kunye nesiqingatha somnyama, njengobumnyama. Baphulaphula idwala lomculo, kunye neyabo, okhethekileyo, ebizwa ngokuba yi-emo-kor. Umxholo ophambili we-emo ukufumana umgangatho ophezulu kunye novakalelo, ngoko ke igama labo, lifutshane ukusuka "emoyeni". Bakholelwa ukuba i-emo emoyeni iyakhathazeka ngaluphi na ukuhluleka, iwele ezinkwenkqeni kunye ne-sob, kwaye iyakwazi ukufumana ukuzonwabisa kwangempela. Kuzo zonke i-subcultures, emo emoyeni mhlawumbi i-innocuous. Kwaye nangona bethanda amaGoth, bathanda ukucinga ngokufa, bathabatha iintliziyo ezinqabileyo baze bahlambe ikhumba labo phezu kweemvini, akufikeleli kwiziganeko zokuzibulala kwi-subculture.
Omnye wabantu abadala kakhulu, mhlawumbi, ininzi "yexesha elide" phakathi kweemigudu i-punk nesinyithi. Iipunks kunye nabenzi bezakhiwo zintsimbi bahluke ngolu hlobo, kodwa badibene yinto enye - nganye yezo nkcubeko zivela kumculo, kwaye into ebaluleke kakhulu yale mibutho ayiyiyo impahla kunye nesimbolo, iimvakalelo okanye iimpawu ezikhethekileyo, kodwa, ukhetho oluthile lomculo othile. Abasebenzi beMigcina ngenye yeendlela eziqhelekileyo ezingaqhelekanga kubantu abancinci, kodwa kubantu abadala, umlutha weli qela unokuhlala kulo lonke ubomi. Akukho mithetho ekhethekileyo kunye nezitayela - nje uthando lomculo ogqithiseleyo.
Abazali abanjengomculo bangabonakala bengenakubekezeleka, bomsindo kunye nobudlova. Iingoma zengoma ezinjalo zibuhlungu, nangona kukho iindidi zefilosofi enzulu, kwiingqungquthela zentlalo, iimbali zembali. Nantsi yonke inzondelelo yenkqutyana yesinyithi apho i-text is. Kwangexesha elide kukho iingxoxo malunga nomculo onjalo, kwaye, ngokwenene, kunokubonakala ngathi kuyingozi, kuyingozi nakakhulu ukuvuma imimandla enjalo kwimimandla. Emva koko, kukho ubukhohlakali nobudlova phakathi kwabo, ezinokuchaphazela kakubi ingqondo yomntwana, iingoma apho ihlaziywa ngemimiselo engacaluliyo ... Kubonakala ngathi umculo onjalo uyisithukuthezi esibi, kwaye lowo ophulaphulayo, ngokufanelekileyo, akayiqondi into malunga nayo.
Kodwa oku akunjalo, kwaye izazinzulu ziye zatshengisa ukuba abatsha abaphulaphule umculo onzima kangaka bahluke ngakumbi kunontanga yabo. Oku kubangelwa ukuba loo mculo, ngokuchaseneyo, unceda ukujamelana nobunzima bexesha lesiguqulelo, ukukhupha kuwo iindawo ezinobundlobongela obonakala rhoqo kwiintsholongwane, kunceda ukulinganisa iziphumo zokuchaswa kwentlalo kuluntu. Ngoko, akukho nto yokwesaba, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, unokuzinqabisa.
Kodwa iimitha zihluke, kwaye ezinye zazo azivumelekanga kwaye ziyingozi. Yintoni ke, kufuneka yenziwe? Yintoni umcebisi weengqondo ekucebiseni kwimeko yabantwana abangacwangciswanga? Okokuqala: ungakhathazeki, hlala uzinzile, ngenxa yokuba umntwana wakho ungowomnquba, ngokwenene, akukho nto iyingozi.
Le ndlela yindlela yokuzibonakalisa ngayo, ubuntu bakho, umzamo wokufumana inxaxheba yentlalo kwaye uthathe indawo kule hlabathi. Ukubizela ukuziphatha nokubukeka ngenye indlela yokuzibonakalisa, kwaye oku akufanele ukwesatshwe. Emva kwakho konke, ubutsha bubonakalisa kakhulu kwaye buphezulu, konke oku ngasentla kubonakala kuyo. Izinto ezibuhlungu abazibekayo, uphawu lokufa luyindlela yokunciphisa ukwesaba kwabo, ukuzithoba phantsi kunye nokuyeka ukuyika. Ukongezelela, qaphela amaqela ahlukeneyo: iimeko ezingaqhelekanga kunye namazwi afanayo afanayo afana nolutsha, kubantu abadala kunye nabanye abantu abavuthiweyo oku kuqhutyelwa.
Ngoko, abantwana abangabhaliweyo - iingcebiso zengqondo kubazali, zithini? Iingcali zengqondo zikwacetyiswa ukuba zilawulwe ngokuziphatha komntwana, kwaye unokumchazela nendlela ukuziphatha kwakhe kubonakala ngayo ngaphandle. Kodwa enyanisweni, abantwana abangabhaliweyo abasengozini, ngoko ulinde ukuba umntwana akhule, kwaye amvumele ukuba adlale imidlalo yakhe, alungise ingozi.