Iimpazamo zabazali ekukhulisweni kwabantwana

Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba bafunda kwiimpazamo. Nangona kunjalo, iimpazamo zabazali ekukhulisweni kwabantwana ziyaxolelwa kwaye zixolelwe. Musa ukwenza okokuqala kungenakwenzeka, kuba sonke singabantu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinika ukusila.

Kodwa iimpazamo ezinzulu, ezinokubangela ukuba yonke inkqubo yemfundo, ikhutshwe ngeendlela zonke. Apha siza kuqwalasela amacala xa abazali benza iimpazamo ezingenakuthethelelwa, kwaye bazame ukufumanisa ukuba bangabamkeli njani.

Mhlawumbi, iimpazamo ezingundoqo kakhulu zabazali ekukhulisweni kwabantwana ziquka ukungakwazi ukuhlala nomntwana ngokumalunga nobudlelwane obuhle. Ngaba kaninzi sisebenza kuphela ngeendlela zokwenza izileko, ufune ukungeniswa okungenammiselo, ukucaphukisa, ukumemeza, ukucaphukisa. Silwela ukwenza abantwana banomdla kwaye bathobele, sifuna ukuzibona bekhululekile, kwaye abafuni ukuhlakulela ngobuchule kunye negalelo ekuphuhliseni abantwana babo. Kodwa umntwana uninzi lwawo lufuna ukufudumala nokuqonda okuvela kuthi, ungagcinanga uqeqesho!

Iipazamo ezininzi zabazali zenzeka ngenxa yokuba unina okanye ubaba akafuni ukuqwalasela i-physiology okanye yengqondo yengane. Kulula kangakanani ukubhala zonke i-vagaries! Kwaye ukuze uqonde ngokucacileyo izizathu zokuziphatha okungonelanelekanga, kuya kuthatha umzamo. Ukongezelela, ukuphelisa ingxabano kuyakufuneka ibonise ngaphezulu kunye neduzhennuyu fantasy. Ngoko, kwimeko yokuziphatha okungathandekiyo komntwana kwisitalato kunokuba itywala yomyalelo onzima kunye nokucaphukisa (ukuphendula ngokuqhelekileyo komntu omdala, ngenxa yokuba umntwana wenza ingxolo kwindawo kawonkewonke!), Unokuphazamisa inkunzi yengane. Ukumxelela ibali elityebileyo endlebeni yakhe, kungcono ukuthetha ukuzola, ukungaxhamli kunye nokuzithemba ngamabomu. Umsebenzi wakho awuyi kuhlaselwa yintliziyo ye-crumb. Ukucaphukisa kwakhe (okuqhelekileyo kubangelwa ukukhathala okwenene, ukhathazeka ngokugqithisileyo), kungcono ukuphendula ngokuthintela nokuzinza. Emva koko iinzame zakho ziya kuvuzwa, kwaye ingxabano iya kuphelelwa. Ngaphandle koko, isimo sengqondo sazo zonke siya kuhlahloka, kwaye ubudlelwane obuhle kwintsapho buya kuphazamiseka.

Ngokubonakalisa ukunyamezela kwimeko enjalo, wena, phakathi kwezinye izinto, ubonisa umntwana umgangatho wokuziphatha kwimeko ethile. Yaye kholwa kum, ukuba ukuphendula kwakho kuseloko kunjalo, ukuzola nokuzithiba kuya kuba yimiba yomntu wakho kwixesha elizayo. Emva koko, kulula kakhulu ukufundisa abantwana ngokuziphatha ngokuphindaphindiweyo kokuziphatha kwimihla ngemihla. Amandla omzekelo usebenza rhoqo. Kwaye nangona abantwana beziphatha kakubi malunga nokuziphatha okubi, imizekelo emihle nayo isebenza kakuhle. Kukho iintsapho ezintle apho abantwana abangafundanga ngamagama kunye neenkcazo, kodwa abantwana abasuka ebuntwaneni babona ubomi obulungileyo nokuthembeka kubazali babo. Ngenxa yoko, bathabatha iisampuli zokuziphatha okungahambisani neengxabano, kunye nokusebenza kokusebenza, kwaye ngaphandle kwemigudu eninzi, iziphumo eziphambili zokukhuliselwa ziphunyezwe ngempumelelo.

Akunakwenzeka ukuba ingqalelo kwizemfundo yabantwana uhlobo lobume phakathi kwabazali ngokwabo. Iphutha eliqhelekileyo ngumnqweno wokuthobela ilizwi lomzali lomntu apho umfazi engayithobeli indoda yakhe, kwaye indoda ayiyikuphulaphula umfazi wayo. Kwaye imeko yokuqala ingabalulekanga ngokubaluleka kokukhuliswa kwabantwana kuneyesibini. Ukuba imvume yentsapho ibambelele kwimibandela ephambili, ukuba yonke imingxabano yabo emdala izama ukuyicombulula ngokwakhiwa, ngoko umntwana uyafunda ngokuziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo kwimpilo yentsapho.

Iimpazamo zabazali, ezifana nokungabikho kokuziphatha kakuhle, zinefuthe elibi kubantwana. Abantwana baziva imfuneko yokwenza iingcamango ezichanekileyo malunga noko kuvumelekile, oko kungenjalo, kufuneka bavelelwe imida yokuhle nokubi. Kwiimeko zanamhlanje, oku kuthetha ukuba abazali kufuneka bahlule ukuba yiziphi iimpawu zokuziphatha umntwana ezifunda kwiincwadi, iifilimu, amathoyizi kunye nemidlalo yekhomputha. Kungcono ukuphepha zonke iintlobo zobundlobongela kwesikrini nakwiimidlalo yabantwana - ukuze umntwana agcine isimo sengqondo esibi kulo macala obomi abazange bazivelise ngokwenene. Emva kwayo yonke, imingcele yeembono zokuhle nokubi ebantwini iyakusulwa, kwaye iqala ukubona abadlali abanobuhlungu kunye nabangendawo njengamaqhawe amahle, kunye nokujonga ababuthathaka.

Phakathi kweempembelelo ezinzulu ekukhulisweni kwabantwana kukuvunyelwa. Emva kwakho konke, ngenxa yengqondo yomntwana nayiphi na indlela yokugqithisa inobungozi - kokubili ubunzima obugqithiseleyo kunye nokuzimela. Awukwazi ukukhuthaza ukuziphatha kakubi, nangona umnqweno wokungabangela ukuphikisana kwabantu. Kungcono ukunika ingqiqo imingcele yokuziphatha okumkelekileyo kubantwana kunokulungisa iipazamo ezenziweyo kunye nokuvuselela iifom ezamkelekileyo zokuziphatha komntwana.

Kuyaphawuleka ukuba abantwana banamava abantu abadala. Kwaye kwenzeka oko ebuntwaneni (ukuqala malunga nonyaka - esinye nesiqingatha), nakwixesha lokufunda, nasesikolweni. Kwinqanaba ngalinye umntwana ulungele kwaye uzimisele ukufumana isethi ethile yemilinganiselo yokuziphatha ebantwini - abo anokukwazi ukuwuthatha. Impendulo yomntu omdala "vavanyo lomlinge" olunjalo kufuneka ihlale isekelwe ekuthinteleni, ukucaca kweemfuno zomntwana kunye nokubonakalisa isimo sengqondo esilungileyo (nangona kuhambelana nokuhlolwa okungalunganga kwemilinganiselo ethile yomntwana).