Iintlanganiso kunye nezihlobo kunye nabahlobo zifunwa ngumama ngamnye. Ungayichitha njani ixesha, ubonise ukuzonwabisa kwintetho yodwa, kunye nebhokhwe? Ungakuphephelela njani iingxaki malunga nosana olutyelela abahlobo?
Iintsuku zadlula xa umntwana elele kuphela, adle, avuke encinane aze alala kwakhona. Kwakuyixesha elimangalisayo lamanyathelo okuqala, ukubonakalisa uvuyo kunye nohleko kunye nokuhleka, iinzame zokuqala zentlalo. Umntwana wakho ukhulile kwaye ukulungele ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha, kungekhona nje oontanga kunye nezihlobo eziseduze, kodwa kunye nabagadi nabafundi abaqhelekileyo. Ngomntwana, ukuza kubazali kunye nobazali kuya kuhlala kuhlala yentsapho ebalulekileyo ebomini. Nangona ubalekele isigxina seyure ukuya kwi-cafe esondeleyo, inkunzi iya kuvuyela yonke into yolu ganeko! Sawubona, Ndingumama wakho!
Ukuya kutyelela, nawuphi na umama uya kukhathazeka kabini - yena kunye nomntwana. Ngaba uyazi ukuba uhleli kwisimiselo, unjenge "zasendle"? Abahlobo bahlaziye ikhabethe ngokuhambelana nemifuziselo yefashini, abahlobo kwixesha leziganeko, owaziyo kuphela ngeengxolo, ngenxa yokuba ulahlekelwe ukuvakashelwa okubonakalayo kwamaqela omculo, imiboniso enomdla kunye nezinto ezinjalo. iingxaki kufutshane accustom umntwana ukuba ukuziyela nemiqhathane zophuhliso umntwana lo ubuchule yakutshanje. Kodwa kungekudala ngomhla wokuzalwa umyeni wakhe yomzalwana ... ixesha edlulileyo wadibana nezihlobo Kwimeko enjalo, xa wayesebenza inxaxheba yaye umfanekiso eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Namhlanje, yonke into itshintshile, kodwa ingaba okanye soyikiso na le nto?
Impembelelo enkulu kwiimeko zengqondo zengane ngexesha leentlanganiso ziba nomoya. Ukuba umama uyavuya ngokunyanisekileyo kwiindwendwe, uzive eqinisekile, umntwana uya kukopa imeko yakhe ngo-99%. I-1% iya kuhlala yintuthuzelo yomzimba yomntwana.
Ukuziva ukhululekile kwaye uthembele kuyo nayiphi na imeko akulula. Kodwa ukwenzela ukuba ungabonakali umoya kwaye ungacingi ngeengxaki ezingenasidingo kunye nokukhathazeka, zama ukubonisa imeko yeeholide ezayo ngeenkcukacha ezingakumbi. Unokuziphepha njani iingxaki zomntwana ekutyeleleni? Uqhelwe ukuba ube ngumbindi wonk 'ubani, inkwenkwe ifumana imeko apho wonke umntu uzimisele ukuxoxa ngeengxaki ezingahambelani nokuziphatha kwakhe okanye impilo. Nangona abazali, benomdla kwiingxoxo eziqhelekileyo, zama ukukwenza umntwana "ithoyizi elithambileyo" edla into ethile kwimenyu yabantwana kwaye ayiphazamisi ukuhlalisana. Imiboniso kuphela kunye noyise nonina bakhululekile kakhulu, kuba abaxhomekeke kwimpembelelo yabantu abangaziwayo kuloo meko. Ubude kunye nokuhlelwa kweziganeko zibekwa ngabazali, ukulungelelanisa nezinye iimeko. Unomama nootata abanolwazi balindele ukuba umntwana ashintshe iifom zokusebenzisana kunye kuxhomekeke kwimeko yentlanganiso, kodwa ukuphuhliswa komntwana omncinci akuvumelekanga ukuba wakhiwe ngokukhawuleza kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zentlalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukusuka kwimizuzu yokuqala ubona uphuhliso olungathandekiyo lweziganeko kunye nomoya womntwana ukuba enze "amandla," sinxusa ukuba uhambe ngokukhawuleza kwaye udibana kwakhona .
Yilungele!
Ukuhlalutya uchungechunge lweentlanganiso ezingaphumelekanga, unokufumana ingqalelo yokuba umntwana usesitelekeni, ukuba nje nje akayi-Soviet okanye uphangiwe (oku ngokuqhelekileyo isigwebo segogokazi). Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa yithemba, incinci ayifuni ukucaphukisa abazali bakho abathandekayo. Umntwana wakho nje wayedidekile kwimilinganiselo kunye nokuziphatha, wayefuna ukulungelelanisa, kodwa wayekhubeka ngokungaqondani, ukujeziswa nokugwetywa. Ngoko ke, ukuze uphephe iingxaki, kubalulekile ukulungiselela nganye intlanganiso kwangaphambili.
Memo kubazali
Xa uneminyaka yobudala ukuya kweyesithathu, umntwana ufunda ukuziphatha, ekhokelwa nguvavanyo lwazo izenzo ngabantu abadala. Ngokudumisa abantwana bakho! Oku kuya kubanika ithemba. Ukuba kuwe inyaniso yokuba umntwana usabelana ngokudlala kunye noontanga ukuziphatha okuqhelekileyo (emva koko, kufanele kube njalo!), Ngoko ke ngenxa yecala eliyimpumelelo efuna ukukhuthazwa ngabantu abadala.
Unqwenela ukuba uye kwindawo ethile nomntwana? Ngaphambi koko, cacisa umntwana ukuba aziphathe njani. Ngokomzekelo, ekhaya lakho, umntwana udlala kakhulu kunye nemidlalo, ngamanye amaxesha uthatha izitsha zokupheka, kodwa awuyi kumvumela ukuba adlale ngommese obukhali! Ngoko ukususela kwimini yokuqala yobomi inyane lifunda ukuba linokwenzeka, kwaye oko-akunjalo.
Ekuqaleni umntwana ufunda iikhontrakthi "ngoko akunakwenzeka, kwaye kungenjalo," kuya kuba lula kuye ukutshintshela kwiimeko zobomi. Zama ukuthintela ukuba "akunakwenzeka" kungekhona njengento evalwe ngokupheleleyo, kodwa njengenguqu (nangona ibalulekileyo) kwimithetho yomdlalo nobomi .
Imigaqo yokuziphatha kwintsapho, eyaziwa kakuhle ukususela kwiinyanga zokuqala , iya kukunceda ukuba ulandelelanise ukuthobela imithetho emitsha yokuziphatha kuluntu ongabaziyo. Ngokomzekelo, xa uya kubazali bomyeni wakhe, cacisa ngokucacileyo kwaye, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ulahlekelwe yimeko yentlanganiso ezayo. Batshele ukuba xa udibana nawe kufuneka uthi: "Sawubona." Uhlala ufuna ukubuza: "Ngaba ndingayifumana?" Ukuba ufuna ukudlala umxholo othile. Xoxa ngendlela yokuziphatha ngayo xa ungavumeli ukudlala nale nto. Akayiqondi into oyichazelayo, kodwa oku akuyinyaniso, umntwana uhlala esichukumisa, kodwa uya kuvavanya wena kunye nezihlobo zakhe ngamandla. Yenza uludwe lwamalungiselelo (5-7 amaphuzu) kwaye usebenze kunye nomntwana.
Umzekelo wencoko
Kukho uhambo oluya kubazali bomyeni wakhe.
- Alyonushka, kungekudala siya ku-Tanya nomkhulu uDima, - uthi umama.
- Ewe, aah, aah, - intombazana eneminyaka emibini ubudala iphila.
"Sithetha ntoni xa singena?" Umama ubuza kwaye, ekuboneni i-reverie ebusweni bomntwana, uyaqhubeka. - Sawubona! Phinda kunye nam ndawonye!
- UTHIXO! Intombazana nomama baphinda kwi-chorus.
- Makhe sicinge ukuba sesifikile. Eli bhere liza kuba ngumkhulu, kwaye idonsa kaValya iya kuba ugogo, uyinkwenkwana, ndiyindoda, ndiba ngumrathwana. Apha siza, sithini na? - Ukongeza kwisicwangciso. Zama ukulahlekelwa zonke izicwangciso zeentlanganiso ngokuqwalasela amalungiselelo.
Sithi: "Sawubona - hlekisa." Siyabonga ngezipho kunye nokuphatha, uthi: "Ndiyabonga." Ukuba ufuna ukuthabatha into ethile, siyakuthi: "Ngaba ndingayifumana?" Asiyikugijima kwinqanaba, asiyikutshutshisa ikati, asiyi kuphucula iphephandaba -kuyimfuneko ukuyigxininisa.) Ngaphandle kwe-caprices, siza kuxela uTogo kunye noTatomkhulu inkondlo ngoTanya kunye nebhola elahlekileyo.
Umsebenzi oyintloko walo msebenzi wokulungiselela ukuchaza kumntwana uhlobo luni lokuziphatha abantu abadala abakulindele kuye. Ndikholelwe, okubonakalayo kumama kunye nootata akubonakali kubantwana. Impawu yabantwana inqwenela ukuba yinto enhle kwaye yenza konke okulungileyo. Kwaye abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba akukho bantwana ababi, nje abantwana banokwenza into engalunganga ngokungazi.
"Malume" uDobrenky
Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukuba abantwana bafundise ukuziphatha okuchanekileyo kunabanye abadala. Emva koko, kuthekani ngokuba noomalume kunye nonina, ngamanye amaxesha bevela kwiinjongo ezilungileyo, balungiselela ngokungalindelekanga ngokupheleleyo kwaye akusoloko kusemangalisa abazali babo?
Ngesizathu esithile, iingxaki zokukhulisa abantwana, imfundo kunye nokuqhelanisa nokuphuhliswa kwabantwana abaphantse abangabangela ukungavumelani kunye neengxabano kwiqela labahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Kodwa, xa kuziwa kwinkqubo encinci yokuncedisa umntwana, iingxabano zingaba zikhalazo ezinkulu.
Ukulungiselela umntwana ukuba aphume ehlabathini, kufanelekile ukuba avumelane nomnye, icala elidala. Ngokomzekelo, cacisa kubahlobo ukuba uza kuza nomntwana, kwaye ukuba ukubhiyozelwa kwenzeka kwindawo yokutyela, indawo yokubhema ayimfuneko. Ngaba uya kuhlawula utyelela kobakhulu nogogo? Khumbuza intsapho yakho ukuba ngelixa ungasanikeli umntwana wakho ushokoledi.
Lungisa umnandi kumntwana wakho ofanayo kwiimfuno zakho. Ukuba unesiqiniseko sokuthi uya kuhlangana neemeko xa abanye abantu befuna ukukhawuleza ngento enhle, ubanike ngokweenkolelo, ngokomzekelo, izithelo ezomileyo ezifakwe kwi-candy wrappers, okanye i-cookies ekhethekileyo.
Ukuya kwinqanaba lehlabathi kunye neentsapho zonke, ngaphandle kwezinto ezibalulekileyo ezifana neentlanzi, iifinki ezimanzi, i-pantyhose kunye nama-shirts, qiniseka ukuba uthatha isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba yonke into iya kudlula ngaphandle kweentlanga ezingadingekile. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - intsapho yakho iya kufumana inkululeko enkulu ekunxibelelaneni nabantu abasondeleyo kwaye banomdla entliziyweni yakho. Kwiminyaka embalwa, ukhangela i-albhamu yezithombe zeentsapho, uya kuhleka ngokuvuyayo kwaye ujabule ukukhumbula ixesha elonwabileyo kunye nomntwana wakho.