Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuyalela?

Iphupha eliluhlaza lwabazali bonke ukuba umntwana ucocekile, uhlambulule egumbini lakhe, iingubo ezifakwe ngaphambi kokulala, zihlambe izitya. Ngaba kunokwenzeka?

Ukuba ukhumbule zonke izimvo, amabango kunye neemfuno ezivakalayo kwidilesi yomntwana ngosuku, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphawula ukuba inxaxheba yengonyama iwa ngokuchanekileyo ngesihloko sokucoceka nokucoca. Kwaye bonke "njengodonga lweehayi," kakuhle, abantwana bethu abafuni ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwenkqubo. Yintoni le? Ubuvila, pofigizm, ukuzithemba ukuba umntu uya kwenza ntoni kubo? Okanye ngaba thina, abadala, senza into ephosakeleyo apha?

Enyanisweni, isidingo sokubona malunga neklasi ecocekileyo, ecocekileyo ibonakala kubantwana kungekudala. Enyanisweni, ngeli xesha bahlala bengabantwana kwaye bengabantwana abaselula. Umnqweno wokubuyisela umyalelo ngendlela engokwemvelo udlalwa emva kobutsha, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo xa umntu eqala intsapho yakhe nokwakha ikhaya lakhe. Nangona umntwana ehlala kwintsimi yabantu abadala kwaye, nokuba siyayithanda okanye ayithandi - ithatha isikhundla esiphantsi, akaziphenduli. Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo. Enyanisweni, ngamnye wethu unokukhumbula imimiselo emibini ebomini yabahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo, iintsapho zabo zihlala zihlala zihlambulukileyo, ukuziqhenya kwabazali kunye nomona wabanye. Kodwa oku kunjalo, ngaphandle kweminye imithetho. Aba bantwana bebancinci bathanda ukubeka yonke indawo kwiindawo zabo nokubuyisela umyalelo ongekho ngemfundo efanelekileyo, kodwa kuphela ngenxa yobume bomlingiswa. Oku, njengommiselo, iincinci ezincinci ezineempembelelo zengqondo.

Icala eliphambene neengqekembe ukwesaba naluphi na ukuphulwa kwekhosi eqhelekileyo yeziganeko, ukuphambuka kwimithetho kunye nokungabikho kokuzimela ngokukhawuleza, ukungahambi kwamanyathelo kunye nokungakwazi ukudlala ngokudlala kunye noontanga. Abantwana abanomdla kunye nokuthakazelisayo abakwaziyo, emva kokushiya umdlalo, babuyele ngokukhawuleza kwimpilo yobomi bemihla ngemihla, ngoko ke amathoyizi ahlala apho asele khona.

Ngoko, bazali bazalwana, khumbula: ukungafuni ukubuyisela umyalelo kuyimfuneko yokudala, ngelixa ukufumaneka kwezi zakhono kunokuba yinto emnandi ngaphambi kokuba "ungene" kubantwana bakho ngenxa yokungalungi kunye nomnqweno wokuguqula yonke into ibe yiingxabano. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba iphupha lokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba alenze limele lilibale kuze kube ngamaxesha angcono. Injongo yokukhuliswa kwakho kwesi sikhokelo iya kuzwakalisa into eyahlukileyo: ngaba ngabazali banokwenza lula (kwabo) ubomi, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, njani? Ngokuqinisekileyo, banako. Kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqala, ngokwenene, ekuqaleni-sele sele ikhona iminyaka engama-2-3. Kule nto kuphela kuyimfuneko ukukhumbula, okokuqala, oko kwakutshiwo ngasentla, kwaye okwesibini, ukugcina ngokungqongqo imigaqo emininzi, esiya kuthetha ngayo ngezantsi.

Umthetho omnye

Njengoko sele uqondayo, umntwana akanalo ulwahlulo lwendalo phakathi kweendawo ezihlambulukileyo nezingenalwazi. Ngoko ke, ngokusekelwe kwiingxelo ezinjenge "Khangela ukuba ungcolile kangakanani kwigumbi! Akufanelekile! "Akunamsebenzi. Umntwana oneminyaka engama-2 ukuya kwiminyaka engama-4 ukuba kwaye uyavuma ukwenza into "enkulu," kuphela "ukuthenga" ngenjongo yokukuxelisa kunye nesidingo sokwamkelwa kwakho, umnqweno wokuba ngumdala. Yilokho okumele uxhomekeke kuyo kwisifiso sakho sokuphakamisa ukuchaneka kwengane. Kumele kube ngumdlalo, ukulinganisa izenzo zakho ezenziwa ngabantu abadala kunye nezenzo ezibelwana ngazo. Uhlambulule umgangatho wam umama - nangona inkunzi iya kuthwala umgqomo ngaphantsi, uhlambe izitya zikagogo-umnike into ethile yokubamba, nokuba ufuna kakhulu. Utata okhuphayo - vumela umntwana ukuba abambe isibambo sicoceko sokucoca ngaphandle kwezandla zikayise ezinkulu. Okanye makangacinezela iqhosha ukuvula i-vacuum cleaner-ngokuqhelekileyo ukuzonwabisa okupheleleyo kule minyaka. Mbeke nje umntwana eceleni kwakhe kwaye ubonise indlela kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo (indlela ephakamileyo yemfundo kule minyaka ixelisa). Umzekelo ngamnye usebenza ngakumbi kunamabali amanqaku afundisayo "ngabantwana abalungileyo nababi". Kodwa kukho enye encinci "kodwa". Ukuxhomekeka kuzo naziphi na izakhono ezithatha ukuba zinamalungu entsapho. Ukuba indlu igcinwa ngokulandelelana, kungekudala okanye kamva umntwana uya kukhangela kule nqanaba kwimikhwa yakhe. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, "ingxaki yokusebenza" ekhaya lakho yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye i-floors ihlamba ngamanye amaxesha, ngoko ayikho inkohliso ukubiza umntwana ukuba ayenze: uya kuthatha kuphela into ayibonayo "eqinisweni."

Umthetho omibini

Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kungcono ukunciphisa intsimi apho umntwana avunyelwe ukudlala: ngaphandle kwekhitshini, indlu yokuhlambela, igumbi lokulala labazali, iidkski zabo zokusebenza. Ilungu ngalinye lentsapho kufuneka libe nensimi yalo, kwaye umntwana-kuquka. Ukongeza, indawo oya kuba nayo ukuqokelela amathoyizi, iya kuhlahloka ngokubonakalayo.

Umthetho weThathu

Ukucoca akufanele ukuphazamise umdlalo womntwana okanye ukuwaphepha ukuba aqhubeke. Kithina ngumdlalo nje, kwaye ngomntwana - umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu ebomini, phatha oku ngentlonelo. Ukuba washiya indlu engagqityiweyo yeekerubhi phantsi, kuya kuphutha ukukususa - oku kuthetha ukuphazamisa inkqubo yokudala, engasayi kuphinda iphinde ibuye kwakhona. Akukufanelekanga ukuqala umsebenzi ngeenxa zonke zendlu, ukuba umntwana unayo iindwendwe, okanye uyisuse emsebenzini othile onomdla. Kule meko, ukucocwa kuya kuba nefuthe levakalelo lomsindo, okungenakukunceda wena nomntwana.

Ukuba uthabathe ucoceko kwi-nursery, kungcono ukuba ungenzi ngokungabikho komntwana okanye ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba. Kucacile ukuba igalelo lakhe liya kuba lincinci kwaye liya kufana nokuzama ukutshabalalisa konke kwakhona. Masihlupheke: le nyathelo edibeneyo apha ibaluleke kakhulu, umntwana akufanele abe nombono wokuthi umntu uya kufeza imisebenzi yakhe. Yaye ungamgxeka, uzama ngokusemandleni akhe. Ngokuchaseneyo - ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka, mdumise umncedi omncinci nakwezinye izinto ezincinci kwinkqubo yokucoca. Nangona ugcina nje isikhwama semathoyizi, ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba uzibeke apho okanye ufumane into ehamba phantsi kombhede, onzima kumntu omdala ukuba afumane. Yaye qiniseka ukuxelela umntwana ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe awungeke ulandele.

Kuya kuba mnandi ukulungisa amacala okanye enye iimeko kumntwana, okwenzayo kuphela kwintsapho. Makube olunye uhlobo lweentyatyambo ezifanele zityiliswe rhoqo, okanye ishedluli ekamelweni apho umntwana omncinci kuphela ophathisiwe ukuba asuse uthuli. Eli linyathelo elibaluleke kakhulu. Umntwana ekugqibeleni uqala ukuziva "ngumntu omdala" kwingxaki enzima yokugcina ucoceko, usetyenziselwa kwingcamango yokuba kukho izinto ezifunekayo zenziwe rhoqo.

Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, isicatshulwa sokugqibela: ungalindeli iziphumo ezikhawulezileyo, ungazithembi kwifuthe elikhawulezayo ekufundiseni ukuchaneka komntwana omncinci. Isiqubulo salo mbandela obalulekileyo kwaye unzima mhlawumbi, kubonakala ngathi "Lindela impendulo". Kwaye ukuba konke kwenziwa ngokuchanekileyo, mhlawumbi uya kufumana "impendulo".