Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Emva kwakho konke, ngoku kutshanje ubabhiyozele yonke imihla yokuzalwa, imitshato kunye nezinye iholide, waya kumaqela omsindo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ukuvakatlana. Uxhase abahlobo bomnye nomnye kwixesha elidibeneyo kunye nelibuhlungu lobomi. Uziva ulungile, ufudumala kwaye ukhululekile kunye, kuba ufumanisa ukuba unobunye. Ube ngumhlobo iminyaka, kwaye ubuhlobo bakho buqiniswa yiminqweno eqhelekileyo, iinkumbulo kunye nokubonakala.
Kodwa kukho utshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho. Ulindele umntwana kwaye ufuna ukwabelana ngolonwabo olulindele ixesha elide kunye nokukhanya okumhlophe! Ufuna ukuxelela abahlobo bakho malunga neempendulo zakho, xelela malunga neenguqu ezizayo ebomini bakho. Kwaye ke, ubaxelela ngento "enomdla kakhulu". Ngokuqhelekileyo impendulo ayilungiseki, kungekhona indlela okulindele ngayo.
Ungakhathazeki! Nangona unzima kunzima ukusetyenziswa kwilizwe lakho elitsha, kwaye ungathini ntoni ngabahlobo bakho! Ngokukodwa xa bengenabo abantwana, bazive becala kuluntu. Abahlobo nje abazi ukuba baziphathe njani nawe, yingakho bayeka ukumema ukuba uvakatye, uhambe, ukuya ezintlanganisweni, njalo njalo. Baqala ukwesaba ukuba baya kuthetha into engalunganga, abayi kwenza into abayidingayo, baya kukulimaza, baya kukufumana ...
Kule meko, awudingi ukuthula kwaye uvumele yonke into ihambe. Uza kufihla ityala, kwaye umgama phakathi kwakho nabahlobo bakho uya kwanda ngakumbi. Buza ngokuthe ngqo ukuba yisiphi isizathu sokuhlukana kwabo. Ukuba ngaba loyiko lokwenene, xelela abahlobo bakho ukuba akudingeki ukuba bathathe uxanduva malunga nemeko yakho. Chaza ukuba wena kunye nomntwana wakho unembopheleleko, kwaye vumela abahlobo bakho baphendule kuphela ngenxa yesimo sakho esihle.
Imeko eyahlukileyo ivela kunye nabahlobo aba sele benabantwana. Zilungiselele ukuba bayakuphonsa amacebiso amaninzi, iinkumbulo kunye nokubonakala. Baya kufuna ukukuphazamisa, abangenalwazi kodwa bengenalwazi, ngokombono wabo, igunya labo. Abayi kubuza ukuba ufuna le nto? Ngaba ufuna ukuphathwa ngolu hlobo?
Ewe, uya kucaphukiswa ngolo hlobo lolawulo. Kodwa masibone oko kuthatha abacebisi? Kwaye zikhuthazwa kukunyamekela wena kunye nosana lwakho oluzayo. Eyona nto ifuna ukukunceda nokukhusela kwiingxaki kunye neempazamo eziye zahlangana nazo. Ungakuvumeli ukuba unyuke kwigama elifanayo. Ngoko kuvela ukuba uthando kunye nokunyamekela kwabahlobo kunokubonwa nguwe "kwiibhononti."
IBhunga kule meko ingaba yinye kuphela: xa "umcebisi" engaphaya kwintonga, mxelela ngenyameko ukuba uyayixabisa yonke into ayithethayo kuwe, kodwa okwangoku awunalo umnqweno wokuthetha kwesi sihloko kwaye xa ufuna uncedo, kufuneka kuxoxwe.
Ngeemeko "ezinganakukhatyathwa", xa umcebisi ephendulela ukuba enganelanga kwaye uyaqhubeka esebenza kwiimbilini zakho ngemiyalelo yakhe, nangona umxelele ukuba awufuni ukuthetha ngako ngoku, kufuneka usebenze nzima. Ngokuphendula ukuhamba kweengcebiso, tshela ngokucacileyo: "Kakade, ndinokubulela kakhulu ngcebiso, kodwa ndifuna (ndinokukhetha, ndiyakwazi) ukusombulula lo mbandela ngaphandle kokuncedwa kwangaphandle (kunye nomyeni wam)." Kungenzeka ukuba, emva kwesitatimende esinjalo uya kukhubeka kwaye uya kukhwela ixesha. Thatha lula. Abayi ku soloko bekhubekile, kodwa baya kuqonda ukuba sele useyintombazana ekhulile, ngubani okwazi ukuzimisela ngokwakhe ukuba kwaye kwaye yiziphi iimeko azimele azenze.
Kwaye ukuba akuncedi ... Hayi, ngoko-ke, ngokukrakra, ngaba ufuna ngokwenene abahlobo?