Okwangoku, ukuphazamisana kunye nempembelelo kunye kunye neemvakalelo kunye neengqiqo, iimvakalelo kunye neengqiqo, zinomdla okwandayo. Ukwazi umhlaba jikelele, umntwana ngendlela ethile uthetha kwizinto azi. I-psychologist enkulu, wethu uL.S. UVigotsky wabhala ukuba uphawu oluphawulekayo lophuhliso lwabantu "ubumbano oluchaphazelayo kunye nengqiqo." Umbuzo uvela, yintoni ebaluleke ngakumbi ekuphuhlisweni komntwana: iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo okanye i-cognitive field? Bangaphi abantu, ezininzi iingcamango. Abanye abazali baqwalasela ngokukhethekileyo ukuphuhliswa kwamakhono omntwana, abanye kwilizwe lakhe leemvakalelo. Intsingiselo yemvakalelo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana iya kuxutyushwa kule nqaku.
Xa uphendula umbuzo malunga nokubaluleka kweemvakalelo ebomini bomntwana, umntu unokufumana umfanekiso ngokuphathelele inkcazo yendawo yecande. Yintoni into ephambili kulo mzekelo: ubude okanye ububanzi? Uzoncumo uze uthi lo ngumbuzo oyisidenge. Ngoko umbuzo wezinto eziphambili ekuphuhliseni (ingqondo okanye imvakalelo) kubangela ukumomotheka kwi-psychologist. Ukuqwalasela ukubaluleka kwenkalo yemvakalelo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana, kufuneka sikhombise ixesha elibuhlungu kakhulu - iminyaka yobudala. Ngeli xesha kukho utshintsho kwimixholo echaphazelayo, ibonakaliswe ngokukodwa ekuveleni kovelwano kwabanye abantu.
Ugogo akanakuziva, kwaye oku kuyachaphazela isimo somzukulu. Ulungele ukunceda, uphilise, unakekele unina wakhe oyintanda. Kule minyaka, indawo yeemvakalelo kwisakhiwo somsebenzi uyashintsha. Iimvakalelo ziqala ukukulindela inkqubela yeyiphi na isenzo somntwana. Ukulindela okunjalo kunika ithuba lokufumana iziphumo zomsebenzi wabo nokuziphatha kwabo. Akunjalo ngethuba lokuba umntwana, emva kokuva uvuyo emva kokuba abazali bayamdumisa, ufuna ukufumana eli lizwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo, elikhuthaza ukuba uphumelele. Ukudumisa kubangela iimvakalelo ezintle kunye nomnqweno wokuziphatha kakuhle. Ukukhuthazwa kufuneka kusetyenziswe xa umntwana exhalabile, engakhuselekanga. Inqobo yento "yokuxhalaba" yinto ebonakalisa ukuthambekela komntwana kwiimvakalelo ezihlala zihlala zixhalabile. Kwizingane zasesikolweni kunye nabantwana abasebancinci, ukuxhalaba kusenakulondolozwa kwaye kunye nemigudu edibeneyo yabazali, ootitshala, ootitshala bayakwazi ukubuyiselwa lula.
Umntwana uziva ekhululekile kwaye evavanya kakuhle, abazali bafuna:
1. Ukubonelela ngenkxaso yengqondo, ukubonisa ukunakekelwa ngokunyanisekileyo kumntwana;
2. Njengamaxesha amaninzi kunokwenzeka, unike uvavanyo oluhle lwezenzo nezenzo zentsana;
3. Mdumise phambi kobanye abantwana kunye nabantu abadala;
4. Hlanganisa ukuthelekiswa kwabantwana.
Uphando oluninzi lwezenzululwazi lugqithisa ukuba ubunzima ekuqondeni nasekuchazeni iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo zabo, ukungaqondi kakuhle iimvakalelo neemvakalelo zabanye kwandisa ingozi yokuvela kwezifo zengqondo kubantwana nakubantu abadala.
Iimvakalelo zihamba nathi sonke ubomi. Naluphi na uhlobo lwendalo aluthathi hlangothi, kwaye siyipende ngemibala yembono yethu. Ngokomzekelo, ngaba sinandipha imvula okanye akunjalo? Omnye umntu uya kuvuyela imvula, kwaye enye, ekhwankqisayo, iya kugxeka: "Kwakhona le nto iyakhupha!" Abantu abaneemvakalelo ezingenakwenzeka abakwazi ukucinga ngezinto ezilungileyo, bona izinto ezilungileyo kwabanye kwaye zihloniphe ngokwazo. Umsebenzi wabazali ukufundisa umntwana ukuba acinge ngokuthe tye. Ukubeka nje, ukuba nethemba, ukwamukela ubomi kulula kwaye ujabule. Kwaye xa kuninzi lula kakhulu kubantwana abancinci, abantu abadala baninzi badinga uncedo lwabantu abasondeleyo nabathandekayo abathembayo.
Amanye amaziko aseYurophu afunde iingxaki zokudibanisa iimvakalelo kunye neengqondo, kunye nempembelelo yabo ekufezeni impumelelo. Kuye kwabonakaliswa ukuba izinga lokuphuhliswa "kweengqondo zengqondo" (EQ) lithetha malunga nempumelelo engama-80% kwimpembelelo yoluntu nobuntu, kwaye i-IQ-coefficient of intelligence eyaziwayo, enokulinganisa iqondo leqondo lomntu, i-20% kuphela.
Uphononongo "lwengqondo engqondweni" lukhokelo olutsha lophando kwingqondo. Ukucinga kuxhomekeka ngokuthe ngqo kwiimvakalelo. Ndiyabulela ekucingeni nasekucingeni, umntwana ugcina ememori imifanekiso eyahlukeneyo yexesha elidlulileyo nelizayo, kunye namava evakalelwa kunye nawo. "Ulwaphulo lwengqondo" ludibanisa ukukwazi ukusebenzisa, ukuqonda iimvakalelo zabanye abantu nokuzilawula. Ixabiso lalo alikwazi ukuxhaswa. Ngaphandle kwemvakalelo, ngaphandle kokukwazi ukubonisa kule nto okanye kuloo meko, umntu uphendukela kwi-robot. Awufuni ukubona umntwana wakho onjalo, akunjalo? Intelligent intelligence inezixhobo ezithile zesakhiwo: ukuzithemba, uvelwano, ukuzinza ngokomoya, ithemba, ukukwazi ukuvumelanisa iimvakalelo zomntu kwiimeko eziguqukayo.
Ukuthintela ukungaqhelekanga kwintuthuko yomzwelo yomntwana:
• Ukususa izihluthu zengqondo. Oku kuqhutyelwa yimidlalo eselula, udaniso, iplastiki, ukuzivocavoca umzimba;
• ukudlala iimeko ezihlukahlukeneyo zokufunda ukuba neemvakalelo zakho. Kule ndlela, indima yendima yendima inikeza uluhlu olubanzi lwamathuba. Iziqendu zeemidlalo ezinjalo kufuneka zikhethwe ziimeko ezinzima, zibonisa ukubonakalisa ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo, iimvakalelo. Ngokomzekelo: "Ngosuku lokuzalwa lomhlobo", "Kwamkelwa ngugqirha", "Abantombi-oomama", njl.;
• ekusebenzisaneni nabantwana abancinci - ubudala beminyaka engaphantsi kunye nolwasemaphandleni-ukusetyenziswa ngokugqithiseleyo kweemidlalo kunye needopi. Umntwana ngokwakhe ukhetha "isibindi" kunye "nobutywala", "okuhle" kunye ne "badlo". Iimbopheleleko kufuneka zihanjiswe ngolu hlobo lulandelayo: ngokuba idodoli "elinobugorha" lithi umntu omdala, ngokuba "uloyiko" - umntwana. Emva koko batshintsha iindima, eziza kuvumela umntwana ukuba akhangele imeko kwiindawo ezahlukahlukeneyo zokujonga kwaye abonise iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo;
• ukuthetha ngokukhululekile nomntwana malunga neemvakalelo ezinempembelelo embi kumfanekiso okhoyo we "I". Oku akusoloko kunokwenzeka ngokukhawuleza, umntwana kaninzi akafuni ukuthetha ngawo ngokuvakalayo. Kodwa ukuba uthembele kuwe, unokukwazi ukuthetha amagama akhe ambi. Xa ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ezivakalayo kubuthakathaka kwaye akusayi kuba nefuthe elinjalo eliyingozi kwi-psyche.