Yintoni umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa onokukwazi ukuyenza?

Umdala wakho okhulayo uba, unomdla ngakumbi ekuphuhlisweni kwayo. Umbuzo wokuba umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa unokukwazi ukwenza ntoni ngoku ngokukodwa kakhulu.

Ingane yakho eneminyaka elilodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, iyaqhubeka ikhula, nangona izinga lokukhula liye linciphisa. Ngomnyaka wesibini i-crumb yakho ayiyi kukhula ngaphezu kweesentimitha ezilishumi, kwaye kwisithathu kwaye ingaphantsi: ngeesentimitha ezisixhenxe ukuya kwezibhozo. Unyaka ngamnye umntanakho uya kuba namandla kwamehlo kwaye uya kuqiniseka, kodwa kwiimeko ezizinzileyo zomzimba nezengqondo, kusekude, phambili kusekho iindlela ezininzi zophuhliso-unyaka 1 kumntwana uqala nje uhambo olunzima.

Khumbula - into yokuqala into yokuba umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa kufuneka akwazi ukuyenza akuyi kuba yinto engabonakaliyo kwaye akhale ebusuku, kodwa ukubonakalisa umlingiswa wakhe, ngokuthe ngcembe ube ngumntu onamathiselweyo.

Kubantwana besuka kunyaka ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu, kukho ezintathu zithuba eziphambili zophuhliso, ulwazi lo mzuzu luyakunceda kakhulu ekukhuliseni umntwana okhulayo.

Ixesha elilodwa: liyimida ngomnyaka kunye nonyaka nesiqingatha, kwaye ivakaliswe ngokukhululeka komntwana. Iintsana zihamba kunye neentetho, zithatha kwizenzo zakhe zonke izinto ezininzi. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngehlabathi elingaziwa ngaye? Enyanisweni, incinci, isinyathelo ngeyinyathelo, iqalisa ukuhlola yonke into ejikeleze kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, ukufaka izikhonkwane, nto leyo ibalulekile.

Ikhefu ezimbini: ukusuka kwesinye nesiqingatha ukuya kwimibini emibini. Ngeli xesha, umntwana sele sele efumene inani elaneleyo lezakhono kwaye uyaziphucula. Ngaphezu koko, ngeli xesha uya kubona ngokucacileyo uhlobo lomntwana, njengoko uya kukubonisa kuyo yonke inyathelo.

Ixesha lesithathu: ukusuka kwiminyaka emibili ukuya kwimithathu, elide kunabo bonke amaxesha kunye neyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kuba eli lixesha lokuphuhlisa kwengqondo.

Emva konyaka, umntwana wakho uqala ukufumana ulwazi olunzulu, uphulaphula aze akhumbule kakhulu. Ungatsho nokuba umntwana uyakha i sigama sakhe sokuqala, ukuze ngexesha elifanelekileyo akudingeki ukuba "apho", kwaye uqikelele: ufuna ntoni? Ukhulula i-horizons kwaye sele eselula uluhlu lwamagama alula, ukuze umama nobaba bawuqonde kakuhle. Ngako oko, umntwana ufuna kakhulu kunokwenzeka ukujongana naye, ukuthetha, umbonise zonke iintlobo zezinto, ngokubanzi kumnceda ukwazi leli hlabathi. Uphuhliso apho uya kuphila khona lubekwe kuwe. Nina ningabokuqala bokufundisa, ootitshala bokuphila. Ngoko ke, ungavumeli ukuphuhliswa kwengane kule minyaka "eguquguqukayo" ngokwayo - akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Ngoko ke kunokuba nzima!

Ixesha lifikile xa, ukuvuka, umntwana oneminyaka eminyaka engasafuni ukulala embhedeni, njengangaphambili. Ngoku umphandi, uninzi lokufunda, eninzi ukubona, ngoko, bazali abathandekayo, musa ukuphazamisa umntwana. Akukho mzekelo ungamxeleli kuzo zonke iinyathelo eziqinileyo "ezingenakwenzeka." Ubume bomntwana bunjalo ukuba xa ebona into ethile, ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuwuchaphazela, oku kuthetha ukuba izinto ezichaseneyo zimele zifihlwe ukuze zingangeni emehlweni akhe. Ukukhawulela inkululeko yakhe kwigumbi elinye okanye i-arna ayinayo ingcamango enhle. Yiba ngumkhokeli wakhe, mbonise yonke into, makhe azame yonke into, kwaye uya kuhlalisa, kuba uya kuhlala ephantsi kweliso lakho kwaye akukho nto embi inokwenzeka. Nangona kubonakala ngamanye amaxesha ukuba unyaka ongu-ncinane kakhulu, nangona kunjalo uya kumangaliswa ukwazi ukuba sele uyayazi kangakanani kwaye uyazi umncinane wakho.

Ngaphambi kokuba umntwana aqale ukuqonda ihlabathi, uya kukwazi ukuqonda ubugcisa bokuhamba. Kubazali, oku akusivivinyo olulula, kuba ngexesha loqeqesho umntwana uya kulahla, kwaye wena, abazali abancinci, uya kuhlangula. Yeka! Le mpazamo. Akukho mzekelo ungaqhubeki kumntwana wakho kwaye ungabhoyi, makhe avuke, kuba kule mizuzu nje, kwaye ubuchule bokwenene bokuhamba buqiniswe. Xa umntwana ewa, umntwana angalimaza, kodwa kancinci, kuba ubunzima bakhe bubuncinane kakhulu, kwaye ukuguquguquka kwamathambo kuyamangalisa - yingakho engayesabi imfucuza, kodwa uya kufunda ukulinganisela ngokukhawuleza.

Unamandla kwaye kaninzi uphazamiseka - inzululwazi enamandla. Ndikholelwe, inkunzi yesikhashana ayikhohlwa ngokukhawuleza kweekona ezibukhali zeekhabhinethi okanye malunga neminwe ephosiweyo kwi-drawer yomgcini. Ukhumbula yonke into ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye akafuni ukuphinda aphinde ahlaziywe. Kodwa musa ukuvaleka kakhulu, bazali abathandekayo, nangona iimvumba kunye nezivalo ziyimfuneko, kodwa, musa ukushiya umntwana engalindelekanga kufuphi nezitebhisi, iifestile ezivulekileyo okanye izinto ezinokuwela phezu kwakhe - le ncuba ayiyi kufundisa nantoni na, kodwa iya kwenza ngakumbi.

Yintoni enye into yokuba umntwana, oguqula unyaka ubudala, akwazi ukwenza? Ngokuqhelekileyo ngeminyaka yobudala nesigamu, abantwana kufuneka bavele badle ngokwabo, ukuba umntwana wakho ungathathi ngokukhawuleza kule ndlela, mnike i-spoon ukuze uqhelane naye. Sele sele ebone indlela oyisebenzisa ngayo, kwaye uya kuzama ukulingisa konke okubonwayo. Xa edlala ngokwaneleyo, lixesha lokuziqhelanisa. Nika umntwana incwajana encinci, ngokuqinisekileyo, uyangcola ukusuka entloko ukuya enyaweni, kodwa emva kwezifundo ezimbalwa ezo zinto izakhono ezintsha ziya kuphumelela ngempumelelo yakho.

Umntwana oneminyaka elilodwa unokukwenza izinto ezininzi, kwaye ufuna ukufunda ngakumbi. Indima yabazali ekuphuhlisweni kwengane ngeli xesha libaluleke kakhulu - emva koko, nguwe oza kumbonisa ihlabathi ahlala kuyo, kwaye ufundise ukuba ikhona iimeko zakhe.