Indlela yokuvuyisa umntwana?

Smile isona siqinisekiso sokuthi i-crumb ivakale, iphilile, iyonwabile kwaye iyonwabile ngokwenene. Yenza oko ukuze ikhanyise ubuso bakhe. Uyakhumbula umzuzu xa isidalwa sakho esincinci senza into evuyisayo kwiphupha lakhe? Wayeneminyaka emingakanani? Usuku okanye ezimbini? Ube uphupha ngendlela ekhangele ngayo emehlweni akho. Kwaye kulinda oku. Ngaphezu koko, unemifanekiso eyikhulu, apho ehleka ngamandla kunye neyona nto. Uya kuyithanda ukuba le nto ikwazi ukuvuya ngumntwana ogcinwe ubomi. Yintoni efunekayo, ukuba iimvuthu zakho zihlala zihlala zivakalelwa kakuhle kwaye zicinga kakuhle ngendalo? Masizame ukuyifumanisa. Imoya yomntwana, ukulinganisa komntwana-isihloko sesicatshulwa.

Ndiyathanda

Isimo esona sikhulu kunye nesimo esifanelekileyo sesimo sengqondo somntwana luvakalelwa kukuba: "Yonke into ilungile kum, ndiyimfuneko, kufuneka ibe yintoni." Kwaye kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kubantu abasondeleyo - ukusuka kuwe, ubawo, oomkhulu kunye nogogo. Emva koko, intsapho inika umntwana ingcamango yokuqala. I-week-old-week-old molehill sele ibonisa icala elihle lemvelo yakhe. Ewe, ewe, ukumomotheka! Unako ukuxelela uMama kakhulu. Lapha, kwaye "ufunde" ngokuzwakalayo yonke into oyibonayo ebusweni bomntu omncinci: "Uyomomotheka, ilanga lam! Zama kwaye wazi indlela yokuvuya, uyavuya kukuba wangena kulo mlo! Ewe, ukholelwa ukuba sonke sithandayo kwaye siya kuhlala sinani! Ulungele ukusithanda ngokubuyisela! "Yaye makubonakale kuwe ukuba umntwana akafumaneki oko uthethayo. Yazi nje, kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba iprintwe kwimemori yeemvuthu, kwaye kwixesha elizayo kuzaliswa yiyo. Ukuqinisekiswa ngamava ezininzi iintsapho. Ngaba uyathandabuza? Kodwa ngokwenene uhlabelela iillabies, ufunda kwintsana ye poteshka ... Nguwuphi umyalezo abathwalayo? Ukuba umntwana uyisidalwa esihle kakhulu kwihlabathi lonke. Ngamehlo acace kunye nemilenze yokukhawuleza, kunye neengcaphephe ezinengqondo kunye neempumlo ezinengqondo. Ukusuka kuwe kuyadingeka ukuba ungakheli, kodwa ukuqinisekisile into. Awuyi kujonga kwi-crumb yakho, ngaba uyibona imimangaliso? Phinda oku kuye ngokumomotheka, yonke into evuyayo "aga". Kwaye ngokwemvelo uza kuba nombono wokuthi ihlabathi liyindawo yokuthanda kunye nolonwabo, ukuba yena ngokwakhe unelungelo lokuvuya kwaye enze abanye abanjalo.

Ukuphazamiseka, kwakunokwenzeka!

Yayiyiphi intsingiselo yokuqala yomntwana ekuhambeni, ukukhanya, isandi? Unqwenela, uzonwaba, ukumangaliswa ... Yeka indlela enhle ngayo kwincinci yakho ongayifumana wena kunye nawe! Musa ukumbona nje, kodwa mxelele ukuba ubonisa amandla amakhulu ngolwazi: "Nonke unomdla, ungumntu onomdla, uzama ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo, ukuqonda into eyenziwa yihlabathi." Ngaba ucinga ukuba inkunzi yakho ayikuqondi? Vumelana, uhlala uchaza into ethile: "Ibhola iyagxuma, ilanga likhanya, umculo udlala ..." Oku uye wafunda ukuqonda, akunjalo? Ngenxa yoko, uyaqonda ukuba unguvulindlela oyinyaniso. Ngexesha elizayo, ndiya ku kholosa iimpawu zam, ndiza kufunda ngokuzonwabisa. Kwaye ujabule, kuba umbulelo kwinqwenela yakho kunye nokucinga ngokubomi kuya kuba mnandi kwaye kunomdla! Phawula indlela athatha ngayo amagama akho? Njengoko kunjalo. Wakhangela ngenyameko: "Hayi, ndiyayiqonda!" - kwaye uyaqhubeka oko akuqalayo. Yaye nantoni na! Ewe, ngubani oza kwenza iinkulungwane zamazamo kubantu abadala ukuba bajike kwicala ukuya kwelinye icala okanye baqhube phambili, nangona ukuba ubuya. Ngaba uyayiqonda into esiyichukumisayo? Siqinisekile, ngoko uya kwongeza ibinzana malunga nokunyamezela nokuzonwabisa. Khuthaza umqhubi wakho!

Sebenza kwiibhugi

Ukuba uqaphela ngokucophelela indlela abantu abadala abasapho banxibelelana ngayo nosana, uya kuphawula - ukususela kwiintsuku zokuqala uhlalutya rhoqo, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ukukhangela. Akukho nto yohlobo? Kwaye awuzange uthethe into efana nale nto: "Kutheni unyukela kwisitofu eshisayo, isidalwa esibi!" Okanye "Khangela, ingaba amanzi achithile kangakanani, uyisidenge!"? Elinye ixesha elaneleyo ukuba umntwana aluve ngegama: ulungile. Kwaye kwinqanaba elincinci lagqiba: ukuba lukhuthele, ukuba nolwazi, ukwenza izinto ngendlela engalunganga. Kodwa oku kunjalo ukwenzela imvumba yeyona nto ... Kodwa iyavela, ukuba yintoni - yedwa, yinto embi ... Ukuvulwa okunjalo kumcasula umntwana. Uphendula ngokubhankqalaza, uzama ukumelana nomzimba-uphume, uxabele lowo umgxekayo. Ngenxa yoko ukwahlwaywa ... Nangona umntwana esincinane kakhulu, kufuneka athobele. Musa ukugubha impumlo yakho, engafanele ibe yinto okanye ingabonakali, kude kube kungekho mntu ubonayo. Hlala uthule okanye udibanise into ethile, kwaye ngokuthe tye uthi: "Akunjalo mna!" Noko ke, isimo sengqondo semfazwe yansuku zonke umntu osapho usicinezelekile. Kwaye kwixesha elizayo akuyi kuvuya. Emva koko, umntu ukhula ophethe imvakalelo efihlakeleyo emphefumlweni wakhe "kukubi ukuba yiloo nto ndiyiyo". Kwaye ukuphuhliswa okuqhubekayo komntwana ngokubanzi kuya kwenzeka kwimeko yokuxabana nabazali. Kodwa into edabukisayo kukuba emva kweminyaka embalwa uza kuthethwa ngokungabikho kwezi zimpawu eziye zacinywa. Umama noTata baya kuqala ukubeka uxanduva lobuqhwala, ukungabi namanyathelo kwaye bangathandi! Kungcono ukuba ungabandakanyeki ekwenzeni amanqaku kumntwana. Akukhona nje into engalunganga, kodwa iyancomeka. Ziziphi ezimbi ezilungileyo? - ubuza? Yaye inyaniso yokuba i-crumb ayithembi: ngomso, uya kukwazi ukuba "i-jaunty", "umnichka", "umfana othobelayo .. kwaye oku kunokukunqanda ukukhwela ngenye indawo ukunyuka, i-nascodit. Ngokuhlwa, uya kubonisa oko akudumisa kusasa (umzekelo, uya kuhlangabezana nekhono elitsha - ubophe i-shoelace ezicathulweni zakhe, gxininisa iqhosha, ungasipuni i-spoon ngesobho), kodwa akukho kuhlola. Kuvela ukuba wazama ngaphandle? U-Kroha uyakoyika ukuphazamisa wena, kwaye oku, akunjalo ukumnika ithuba lokuvuya kwimpumelelo yakhe. Kodwa zixabiseke ngokwabo! Ngoko ke, siyacetyiswa: simemeza ngokukrakra izenzo ezithathayo, nangona xa zilungelekanga okanye zingekho, kwaye zikhokele ezi zinto ngaphandle kokuvavanya. Umzekelo: "Yeka indlela enomdla ukuthintela umlilo ... kodwa oku akunakwenziwa" okanye "Ndifuna ukuqonda indlela kwaye apho amanzi ahamba khona ... kungokuthi asisayi kuwathululela phantsi." Qinisekisa ukuba uthetha ngeempawu ezilungileyo ozibona kwintsana yakho, phawula nayiphi na impumelelo. Yithi: "Namhlanje usuvele ucacile ukuba yiliphi icala eliza kulufaka iqhosha kwi-loop. Ngoko, ukufunda kuyaqhubeka. Kungekudala kunye neminwe yonke iya kuvela ". Siyaqinisekisa ukuba imvakalelo kunye nawe iya kuhlala ihle kakhulu!

Imvula ye-pokapal idlule ...

Kakade ke, awuhlali uphumelela ukulandela umgca "ofanelekileyo" wokuziphatha. Kwaye umntwana akayi kusabela njengoko ulindele, ngokusekelwe kwiindlela zakho "zokunene" zengqondo zokuthetha naye. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi: ukunyamekela konke kungenanto, ukuxabana nomntwana akunakuphetshwa, kwaye isijeziso asikwazi ukuhanjiswa. Udidekile, inyoni iyamnceda. Ngaloo mzuzwana, into ephambili ayiyi kudimazeka. Akukho nto, akakho, akukho mntu uphelele. Okuqhelekileyo. I-crumb iya kuba yintliziyo enenkani, ibe nomsindo, ikhale ngokukrakra. Kwaye uyacaphukisa kuye kwaye ungaqiniseki. Kwaye konke oku, uya kuhlala ulungile ngumama, kwaye umntwana wakho ongakhulelwanga ngumntwana ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni. Kuba emva kokuba isiqhwithi sibheke ilanga. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza iziphumo zomsebenzi oza kwenziwa ziya kubonakala. Kuphela konke akusilize! Umsebenzi wakho - ukudala ubudlelwane bemihla ngemihla yokuthembela phakathi kwakho, ukukholelwa kwintsana ohlala uyamnceda ukuba abhekane nobunzima. Ngoko musa ukuphelelwa lithemba, ungalahlekelwa ukholo kwaye ungayeki umzamo wokudala ulwalamano olunjalo. Kwaye ngaloo mizuzu xa uphelelwa ngumntwana wakho, zigcine wena. Kwaye kwimeko ephikisanayo, musa ukumnika iimpawu ezingalunganga - nakweyiphi na into ungayibhali. Imfihlelo yokuqonda umntwana isilula: yonke into efanelekileyo kuyo iyingqungquthela, inempawu kuyo. Ukubonakaliswa 'kokubi' kukuphela kokusabela ekungakwazi ukulawula imeko okanye iimvakalelo, ukungaqondi kakuhle nabanye. Kodwa oku akuwona umgangatho womntwana wakho! Ungamxeleli ukuba inyoka, i-crybaby, inkani, musa ukwenza umfanekiso ongeyena. Ngokuzola, ngaphandle kokugwetywa, mxelele iimvakalelo ezivakalelwa ngquzulwano: "Ndathatha i-scissors, kwaye ucaphukile kum" okanye "Uthukuthele kakhulu." Ngaloo ndlela, unike umntwana ukuba aqonde ukuba uyayamkela ngabani na kukunceda uziqonde. Emva koko, ngokukhawuleza, uqondise izenzo zeemvuthu ngendlela elungileyo: "Kodwa kuya kufuneka kunikwe izikhwama, emva koko siya kufunda kunye nendlela yokuyisebenzisa." Ungamvumeli umntwana ukuba aphile iimvakalelo zakhe ezimbi. Ukuba usenomsindo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyakhala, qhubeka 'uthatha' amava akhe: "Usenomvandalo, zonke iinyembezi zihamba. Kwenzeka kubo bonke. " Uya kuqiniseka ukuba ukwamkelwa okunjalo kunceda ukuhlala kumbi kwaye ukulahla ngokukhawuleza kunokuba uvimbele, ukuxinezela nokuphazamisa kule miva. Xa "isimo sezulu esibi endlwini" sichitha, qwa lasela umntwana: "Nantsi ingqumbo, kwaye uthando lwethu lushiywe. Kuyonwabile kakhulu. " Kancinci, i-karapuz iya kufunda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, ingabesabi kwaye ingacingi ngento embi ngaye.

Abanye abantu

Kubonakala ngathi indlu iyathula kwaye ilula. Impikiswano, ukuba zenza, ngoko wena okanye umyeni unqumle ngokukhawuleza yonke into. Ngokukodwa xa usebenza kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha uzibamba ukucinga: ukulandelelana, ukuqeqesha kunye nokuthobela ngokuthe ngqo kwindlela ekhethiweyo yokukhulisa ivelise iziqhamo. I-karapuz ayifuni, ayilimazi. Uyaqonda omnye ngomlomo wesiqingatha. Kodwa kukufanelekile ukuza kumakhulu kunye nenqaku elincinci kumntwana, njengoko iqhuma ngokukhawuleza. Kakade, kulula kakhulu ukugxeka unina okanye umkhwekazi, kunye nomyeni wakhe kwakhona athi: bathi, musa ukuphazamisa. IKardinally. Yonke ilahlekelwa yiyo. Ngaba akukuhle ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlangabezane nesiphepho eshahleni? Chaza ukuba ugogo wayekhuliswe ngokuhlukileyo. Kwaye kwakunzima, ifunwa kakhulu. Ngoko ufuna. Akunjalo kuba ufuna ukucaphukisa umzukulu. Kungokuthi akunakwenzeka. Uyazi oko ufundisa iimvumba? Ukwamkela abanye kufana nangoko uye wafunda ukuwamkela. Uyabheka, kwaye ugogo ugxeka ukuba akayi kuzisa iinyembezi. Ucinga ukuba: "Amanzi asuka kwi-goose"? Ewe, mayeke. Uyazi into enokuyifunayo, uxolo kunye nokuqonda okufanayo. Mhlawumbi, ngalinye ixesha elijongene nabangaphandle, umntwana uya kukhalaza kuwe. Mfundise ukuba "afunde" abantu. Omnye akazange amthande ebuntwaneni, ngoko uphendula ngokufanayo kubo bonke ngaphandle kokuchitha abantwana. Omnye nje akwaziyo ukubonisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Izinto ezimbi! Kuye kwenzeka ukuba ngelinye ilanga babenqatshelwe abaninzi. Abo bavelwano abayingozi. Abananto yokubacaphuka ngayo. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana akayi kusindisa isiphoso emphefumlweni.

Omhle mzekelo

Abantwana bakhulisa abadala. Kwaye kuyinyani ukuba xa umama ehlala ebuhlungu, kwaye ubaba enobuchule obunomdla obubukele umabonwakude, umntwana ukhula evalwe, engafundile. Kwaye kumama-hohhotushki kunye ne-father-neposeda karapuz yimidlalo, ibonakala ijabule. Kodwa akulula. Ngamanye amaxesha, kuhlamba, iikati ziqala. Emva koko awukwazi ukuzenza uhleke. Uyazi ukuba umkhwa uwuphi? Kwiindlela zobomi. Umama-ukuhleka akuyena umntu onomoya. Kungokuthi akayi kugcina izikhalazo, akathwali buhlungu kuye. Kwaye uPapa wanda kakhulu! Wafumanisa umthetho mdala edlulileyo: uvuyo luhamba. Zama ukubheka ihlabathi ngokuqinisekileyo. Nangona kunzima. Zama ukuzifumanisa ukuba awuyi kuba nemfesane kubabenzi bakho, ngoko ubuncinane uyaziqonda ngoko uya kufunda ukuxolela. Umthengisi akazange anike utshintsho? Wakhula ebuhlwemputheni, ukwesaba intlupheko, uyakwazi ukulwa naye ... Akufanelekanga, kodwa uyaxolisa. Kwaye ibhasi yaxubha udaka. Kodwa akusiyiyo intlungu, kuba lihlazo! Unokwenza ngokukhawuleza unyule usuku lonke ngokungaphumeleli. Kodwa ngaba ixabiso? Ukulinganisela, okwaneleyo ukumomotheka, gxuma kwaye uqhubeke. Ngubani ongenzeki ... Bantwana, mhlawumbi abayi kuba khona. Kodwa kungekudala uza kuza ekhaya. Kuxhomekeke kuwe oko uzisa nawe. Okanye ngaba kukufuphi? Njengoko uyenzayo ngoku, ngoko kuzayo.

Ukuzonwabisa kumfuno

Ulonwabo luyinto enxulumene nayo. Omnye uyavuya xa kufika umama kumsebenzi okanye i-candy elula. Ngamanye amaxesha udibanisa xa eboniswa ngeteksi esebenzayo. Kwaye kuyisiphukuphuku ukumgxeka. Uyakhumbula ukuba awukwazi ukukhanyela iimvakalelo kwaye, ukuphazamisa, awuyi kufeza nantoni na? Kodwa ukhetho luhlala lukhona. Mshiye kuye! Yithi: "Ndiyabona ukuba akukho nto inokukholisa. Kodwa unako ukugqiba isigqibo: ukuhlala kunye nokusila okanye ukusela itiye nge jam nathi. Siza kuhleka kunye - ngokukhawuleza uya kuthanda. " Ucinga ntoni, uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani kwikona? Ngokuqhelekileyo, abantwana banomdla kakhulu. Yaye bayazi ukuba banandipha njani kunye nemiba. Ngokuthobeka, ngentliziyo yam yonke. Kodwa bayalibala kuphela ngeminyaka yobudala. Uyakhumbula? Bese uyisebenzise imihla ngemihla. Kwaye i-karapuz yakho igcina umnqweno wokuzonwabisa ngezinto eziqhelekileyo. Oku kuya kuba yindoda yakhe.