Ukondla ngoku, kwakhona, kuya kuthatha ixesha elide, kuba ubisi olulodwa aluvumelekanga umntwana. Okokuqala, umama uya kuchitha ixesha elide ejikeleza ngesitofu ukupheka into ethile yezilwanyana zakhe, aze azame ukumkholisa ukuba adle le mveliso yezolimo. Ndiza kuqonda ubuchule bokuphucula, ukuze ndikwazi ukudlala ezindizeni kwaye "ku-ku" ngokungaqondakaliyo ukumondla isabelo sonke. Ezi zintathu okanye ezine zondlo, kwaye ungaboni ukuba lusuku lwenzeke njani.
Akungabazeki ukuba abantwana bathanda i-pokapriznichat, kodwa oogqirha bezilumko bahlala bekhumbuza umama osolisayo ukuba amandla omntwana "angene" ukutya akudingeki. Akafuni - oko kuthetha ukuba akalambile, kodwa njengoko elambile - uya kuyidla yonke into, kwaye uya kucela izibonelelo ezingaphezulu. Yaye ungalibali: umntwana kufuneka afunde ukutya okutsha. Kuthatha malunga neveki. Ngako oko, faka isitya esitsha ngokuthe ngcembe, uqale ngomnye okanye ezimbini iipuni.
Ngokukhawuleza xa umntwana eqala ukukhwela, iintsuku zihamba ngokukhawuleza. Xa inkunzi iyakwazi ukuba ngoku ayixhomekeke kunina, ukuba iyakwazi ukuzikhethela apho iyakhweba kunye nokokuthintela, uya kubona umntwana ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Ezizimeleyo nezisebenzayo. Uya kufumana ihlabathi elizungezile. Yaye kungekhona kuphela ihlabathi, kodwa kunye neefaki, iibhokisi, ibhokisi kunye neembiza. Uyakuthinta, uyakrazula kwaye amthanda yonke into ayifumanayo.
Kwaye oku kuqhelekileyo ngokubhekiselele ekuphuhliseni abantwana emva kweenyanga ezintandathu. Intsana akufanele ihlole kuphela isifundo ngasinye, kodwa siyiqonde into. Kumele azi into enokuyenza ngolu hlobo, into enokubangela umdla. Ubona indlela ezi zinto zisetyenziswa ngayo ngabantu abadala, ezivakalelwa ngayo ngexesha elifanayo, kwaye uqala ukuzixelisa.
I-Physiologists yaqaphela ukuba ngeenyanga ezisixhenxe ukuya kweyisithoba ubunzima bobuchopho bomntwana buphindwe kabini. Oku kuthetha ukuba yonke imihla ohlala kuyo izisa ulwazi oluninzi noluncedo kwi-crumb. Khumbula ukuba wayekuphi inyanga, kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba yiyiphi inqabileyo enqabileyo ekuthuthukisweni kwengane yakho eyenziwe. Ngenyanga yesibhozo, umntwana ubonisa uthando kumntu omdala osondeleyo, ngokuqhelekileyo unina, kuba uchitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye. Ulungele ukuchitha yonke yesibini yobomi bakhe kunye naye. Ukuba ngaphambili ungamshiya kumntwana wakho okanye ugogo kwaye uhambe nge shishini lakho, ngoko ngoku ulungiselele abahlaziyi kunye nokuhlukana kweentlungu.
Musa ukuzisola ngeemvakalelo
Abantwana ngokuqhelekileyo banomdla kakhulu, kwaye ngeli thuba baqala ukuphendula kwiimvavanyo kwidilesi zabo. Oku ngaphambi kokuba umntwana angayiqondi ukuba uyamgxeka - ngoku ngoku kwiibinzana nakwiitoni abaxelelwa ngazo, uya kuqonda ukuba unina akajabuli nabo. Kwaye ngokubuya uza kubona ebusweni lonke uluhlu lwawo amava. Ndidumise-kwaye iya kutyumbuka. Ngako oko, mncama kakhulu kwaye udumise umntwana wakho. Kwaye ukuba kukho into yokugxeka, khumbula ukuba ngaphambi kokuba ube nobuntu obuncinane bokukhula. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuhlambalaza uthi "Ulungile!" Okanye into ethile ye pohleshche, ukuba idibanise. Ngoko uvavanya ubuntu, kungekhona isenzo asenzileyo. Ngoko ke, ibinzana elithi "Ngoko ke, akunjalo!" Kuya kuba neengqondo ngokuchanekileyo. Kubalulekile nokuba yiyiphi ithoni oyithethayo. Futhi ungakulibali ukuchaza isizathu sokuba kungenakwenziwa kunye nendlela yokwenza okulungileyo.
Ngokukhawuleza xa i-crawls, iyakuthi ichaze imigaqo ethile yokuziphatha. Ndiyakuthintela ntoni, andinako, kwaye kutheni. Ngokukhawuleza umise imida ecacileyo yinto evumelekileyo. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba uthe akufanele uthinte isitofu okanye inkunkuma inokwenza nayiphi na imeko, musa ukuhlambalapha rhoqo xa umntwana ewela phezu kwabo, ukhumbuze ngawo. Le nkqubo ibaluleke kakhulu ekukhulisweni kweemvuthu zakho! Kodwa, ukufundisa, musa ukulibala ukuphatha umntwana ngenhlonipho, uthando kunye nomonde!
Khumbula ukuba, ngoomkhulu uTrud, zonke iingxaki zengqondo zivela ebuntwaneni. Ngendlela, unyaka wokuqala kunye nesiqingatha sobomi bakhe wabhala isigaba sokuphuhlisa ngomlomo womntwana, kuba ilungu eliphambili leengqondo zentsana kulezi nyanga zobomi ngumlomo. Umntwana akayidli kuphela, kodwa uyakwazi ukwazi umhlaba ojikelezayo, uvakalelwa ezininzi izinto ezintle. Ngeli xesha, iimpawu ezithile zobuntu zenziwa. Yaye ngokuqinisekileyo baya kubonakalisa kwixesha elizayo kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngaba isigaba sophuhliso siphumelele ngempumelelo.
Okubaluleke kunene konke, ukuba ngeli thuba umama unzima kakhulu, uyayigatya iimfuno, okanye ngokuphambene nxamnye nokunyamekela okuninzi, ezama ukubonela phambili nayiphi na iminqweno. Ngeli thuba, umntwana akakwazi ukuhlukana nomama wakhe, ngoko ke le ndlela yokuziphatha ibeka umxholo wayo. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana unokuhlakulela ukuxhomekeka, ukuzithemba. Emva koko, uya kucela kwi-"mernal" sengqondo ejikelezileyo, ukuziva unesidingo esinzima sokuxhasa nokuvunywa.
Ukuphuhlisa inkampani
Qaphela ukuba umntwana emva kwezinyanga ezi-6 engancinci ukuba abe ngumama wakhe, ambalwa amagama akhe anomdla kunye kunye. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuthintela aze afunde yonke into afikelele kuyo: impumlo, amehlo, ulwimi, amacici, amaqhosha, ubuhlalu. Unomdla ekujongeni indlela umntu omdala adlala ngayo umdlalo, ukuba ubuso bakhe bubuso bunjani. Oku kuthetha ukuba umnxibelelwano womntu uya kumgangatho ophezulu - "intsebenziswano." Ngoku umntwana ukhula ngokubambisana nomntu omdala, ezama ukumxelisa. Kulo mdlalo, umdlalo ezandleni, ufihle uze ufune, kwaye "u-ku-ku."
Uninzi kakhulu kunika umntwana imeko ezilula zasekhaya. Nokuba uye waya kuhlamba, udle, uyithenge okanye uhlambulule, xelela iinjongo zakho zonke, izenzo, zibiza izinto ozithathayo. "Ngoku siya kuhlamba. Masivule amanzi. Yaye phi i-brush yethu? Siza kuhlambulula amazinyo ethu kunye nawo. Ngoku amazinyo ahlambulukile. " Yaye qiniseka ukuba udumise umntwana wakho ngezenzo ezithile: oko wayidlayo, waqokelela ipiramidi. Ngoko inkwenkwe ifumana izifundo zokuqhelanisa nokuziphatha komama kamama kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo kule nto okanye kuloo meko.
Ukuphuhliswa kwentetho nomntwana ofuna ukuthetha rhoqo. Umele ave intetho, kwaye icace kwaye iqondwe. Ku luncedo ukuxelisa umlenze womntwana. Uthetha isandi, uyaphinda. Ngexesha elifanayo, ubona indlela umlomo wakho nolwimi lwakho uhamba ngayo, kwaye uva esi sandi ngokusebenza kakuhle. Ukuba kukho ikholi-fowuni phakathi kwakho, zama ukubiza isandi esitsha se-crumb. Yaye uya kuzama ukuphinda kwakhona. Umnqweno wokuxelisa usetyenziswe kuyo yonke into. Beka iibhola ngaphandle kwebhokisi, ziqhawule, uzibuthele. Okanye uqokelele ipiramidi, uze udibanise. Ngokweembono zethu, ezi zenzo ziyimpumelelo, kodwa kuye ezi zizinto zokuqala ezizimeleyo kunye nezinto.
Ukuphuhliswa kwesisombululo somntwana emva kweenyanga ezintandathu
6-7 iinyanga
ziqhawula;
- elele emhlane wakhe, edlala nemilenze, ezonambitha;
- iziphuzo kwikomityhi ezandleni zikamama;
ukuhamba, ukubambelela oku kokubili kwezandla zomama.
Iinyanga ezi-7-8.
- unokuvuka kwaye uhambe, ubambelele kwinkxaso;
ezinwabuzelayo kwifenitshala, ezama ukuma, zithembele kuyo;
- ngesibindi kwaye ngokukhawuleza uhlala phantsi kwaye unokutshintsha indawo yokuhlala, utshintshe ukusuka kwenye indawo ukuya kwelinye, utshintshe isikhundla;
- ubuchule bokuthi "ukugqithisa" kubonakala - umntwana angathatha into encinci kunye nesithupha kunye nesandulela.
8-9 iinyanga.
- isuka kwisifundo esinye ukuya kwelinye, isebenzisa isinyathelo ngesinyathelo, ukumbamba izandla ngokuxhasayo;
- ngokuzithemba ngokuzikhupha ezandleni zakhe, ukukhuphuka kwiingalo zentonga kunye ne-sofas;
- uyakwazi ukuvula nokuvala isimbolelo, faka into enye kwenye;
- unokubamba ibhotile esandleni sakhe, uyisondeze emlonyeni wakhe, uyalise.
Uphuhliso lwengqondo
6-7 iinyanga.
- uyazi indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zothando, ukumbamba kunye nokumanga ubuso bomntu omdala omthandayo;
- ngokukhawuleza iyancipha xa ibetha.
Iinyanga ezi-7-8.
- uqala ukwesaba abangaziwayo;
- iimvakalelo zempendulo zempendulo yabantu abadala;
- uqala ukubonisa umdla kwabanye abantwana, ugcine ukuziphatha kwabo.
8-9 iinyanga.
ukulwa nomntu omdala kuye ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: unokwenza ngamabomu, uphonsa amathoyizi, ubonise izakhono kunye nobuchule bazo;
- uyakwazi ukukhubeka, ukuba abantu abadala bavumele iphimbo elibukhali.
Uphuhliso lwengqondo
6-7 iinyanga.
- ibonisa izinto eziqhelekileyo kuye kwisicelo somntu omdala;
- Uthanda ukubethelela ixesha elide - amaxesha amaninzi uhlabela iilllab ezifanayo;
- unomdla kumzimba wakhe.
- uyichukumisa ngeempumlo, indlebe, iinwele, ukubetha isisu.
Iinyanga ezi-7-8.
- ngexesha lophuhliso lomntwana emva kweenyanga ezi-6, amagama-gestures aqala ukuvela: umntwana usenokushukumisa isandla sakhe "ngelixa", ukubetha isandla esandleni somntu omdala - "siyabonga";
- ininzi yokuphaphama, idlala neetayiloni ixesha elide: uyakuthanda ukucinga, uthayipha ithoyiyi kwinto yokudlala;
unokumemeza nge-whisper.
8-9 iinyanga.
- ithole lizichonga ngegama lakhe kwaye liyakwazi ukubuyela kwifowuni;
- izinto zingaphathwa ngokuhlukileyo ngokuxhomekeka kwizinto zazo: ziyakubhaqa ibhola, zisuse enye into kwenye, yenza ityeyibhile kunye neetayibhola ze-rubber.