Ukunika amandla, amandla kunye nexesha kumntwana, abazali banokubambisana ezinxulumene neentsapho. Indlela yokwenza babe namandla kwaye bafudumele? Iingcali zengqondo zithi: amabinzana kunye nezenzo zabantu abadala zifana nebhuloji yomoya. Bayakwazi ukudibanisa nokuqhawula abantu abasondele kwihlabathi.
Umgaqo wokuqala wokusebenzisana ungenakutyala. Amagama athi "xolela", "mbulela", "yibani nomusa" kwaye "nokuba ndiphosakele" kuya kubonisa ukuba umntwana - abazali abafanelekanga, banokwenza iimpazamo. Kodwa sihlala silungele ukubona nokuvuma oku. Le ndlela ikhulisa igunya labantu abadala emehlweni omntwana, idala umoya woxolo kunye nethemba kwintsapho.
Umgaqo wesibini uncedo. Le ngcamango ebanzi iquka zombini iingxoxo ezide "intliziyo entliziyweni", kunye neemfihlelo ezincinci eziqhelekileyo, kunye nemidlalo edibeneyo, kunye nobukho kwimisebenzi ebalulekileyo kumntwana. Kuvela kule mi ganeko inkumbulo yolutsha oluyonwabileyo.
Umthetho wesithathu uthembekile. Abantwana banentlonelo ekuxoxeni amanga: abayivayo ngokungaqhelekanga nakwiizwi ezingabonakaliyo. Ukukhohlisa umntwana ngenxa yokuthi "usemncinci ukuba aqonde" - akukho mfuneko kamva imangaliswe ngokungahambi. Ukuvulwa kukukodwa isiseko apho kwakhiwa khona intsapho yolonwabo.