Indlela yokuthetha nentombi yakho kwifowuni

Ngamnye wethu unemizuzu ebomini xa silahleka kakhulu umntu ozithandayo. Sisoloko sifuna ukuba naye, sive inkxaso yakhe, siva ilizwi lakhe. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akuyona into elula kwaye ihlabathi lethu alikho ngendlela esingafuna ngayo. Ngoko ke, kulula kakhulu ukuba sive ilizwi lomntu, ngenxa yocingo olunye olubhekiswe kubhalisi oyintandokazi. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza singenqikazi ngomzuzu, fumana ifowuni, siyifake iminwe yamacwecwe asusiweyo kwaye, o, ummangaliso, siyiva. Ngelo xesha, umgama phakathi kwakho ubonakala ungabalulekanga. Kodwa ke umbuzo ongenasiphelo, kodwa umbuzo ophuthumayo ukuphuza: emva koko, ukuba ulungile kangakanani ukuthetha nentombi yakho kwifowuni?

Akumangalisi, kodwa inkcubeko yezonxibelelwano zefowuni mayibe nayo nasiphi na umnxeba umnxeba owenzayo. Yiba nguyise, unina, udade, umzalwana, umhlobo, umhlobo, umongameli (malunga nomongameli, uyazi, kukho amagama ahlukeneyo kwincwadi yefowuni), kunye nomfana wakho ozithandayo. Ngaloo mva, ukuba uyaqonda kwaye uya kuthetha. Kwaye ke, ufuna ukuliva, wuthabatha ifowuni, wabiza inamba enqwenelekayo: i-beeps- "hello" - "nceda!". Kwaye nantsi, ingxoxo ede kulinde. Ewe, andicinga ukuba kufuneka uzenzele, ndicinga ukuba awufanelekanga, ngaphandle koko inkwenkwe yakho iza kuqala ukungathandabuzeki ngokwaneleyo (Ndiqinisekile ukuba uya kuliva kwinombolo yakho oyintandokazi, ukusuka kwiphi inombolo ongeyifuni). Ngendlela, ukuba yonke into ayifuniyo kwaye iya kuqalisa ukuqikelela, ukubala amagama amabhinqa, kubonakalisa (kwenzeka ngamnye umntu). Kodwa masingathethi ngezinto ezibuhlungu. Okokuqala, buza ukuba uxakekile, abantu abayithandiyo xa bengabizwa ngexesha. Ixesha elingafanelekanga lokufowuna linokuthi: umsebenzi, ibhizinisi elithile eliphuthumayo, ubukho bakhe kwinkampani yamadoda (ukuphumla kunye nabahlobo), ingxoxo enzulu kunye nomntu, elinde ucingo olubalulekileyo, ukusa kwantambama ukulala emva kwezolo kunye nokuba nomoya wakhe ombi. Khumbula oku "njengebhayibhile yeBhayibhile" kwaye ngoko uya kukwazi kakuhle indlela yokuthetha kakuhle nentombi yakho kwifowuni. Ukumbiza, qiniseka ukumbuza malunga nomsebenzi wakhe kwangoku. Ndathatha umdla kwaye ndava ukuba ndixakekile, bhetele umnxeba kamva, okanye makwenze oko ngokwam. Musa ukumnyanzela ukuthetha, ukuphumla kwi nyaniso yokuba: "Ndibizile, ngoko kufuneka uthethe kum" kholwa kum, akuyi kuba nantetho apha, mnike ixesha, livumele lipholile. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, loo mfana wanikezela "ukukhanya okuluhlaza" ekunxibelelaneni kwakho kwaye uyavuya ukuba wabiza, okokuqala, ubuza indlela ayenjani, indlela ayenzayo ngayo, abafana bayamthanda xa bethatyathwa kwaye banomdla ebomini babo, kuba bakulungele ukuthetha nabo ngeeyure. Ngendlela, zama ukungamphazamisi, masikugqibe ingcinga yakhe ekupheleni. Musa ukuphulaphula ingxaki yakho ngaphambili. Uvile ilizwi lomntu othandekayo, kwaye oko ngokwayo sele kususa zonke iingxaki zobomi ezenzeke kuwe ngeli xesha.

Ukuthetha naye, ungazami ukunxibelelana nabahlobo abahleliyo ngexesha elifanayo, kuba thina ntombazana enefowuni ecaleni kwendlebe sinokwenza izinto ezilikhulu, khumbula, umfana akayiqondi le nto. Mbize-ke yibani nomusa kwaye nithethe naye kuphela. Ukumisa zonke izinto eziphazamisa ingqalelo yakho ngethuba lencoko-ncokola ukuze xa ekubuza kwakhona, unokumxelela ibinzana lokugqibela othethileyo, imizuzwana emihlanu edlulileyo, kwaye ungakhathazeki. Biza kwimeko - yitsho yonke into, eqinisweni, ungayi ejikeleza isiqithi, kungekhona inxeba yengqondo, apho uyazi ukuba kwenzekani kuwe khona. Abafana abanqabile kakhulu ukuqonda amacebiso ethu anzima, bafuna intsingiselo. Nangona kunjalo, ungabizi xa ucula (abafana badla ngokungaziqondi), musa ukucima ifowuni, musa ukumemeza kwifowuni. Zama ukudibanisa zakho iimvakalelo eziphazamisayo. Sicinga ngeemvakalelo, kwaye ziyilo logic kunye nesisombululo sesisombululo. Musa ukuthetha ngawo onke amaxesha, kwaye umnike ithuba lokufaka igama lakho. Nangona kunjalo, ungabizi zonke, ngoko kuthetha, "imizuzu emihlanu", gcina wena ngesandla uze kude nefowuni. Abafana banabantu abathandayo inkululeko, kwaye baninzi babo abayithandi ukuba bangabi nantoni na. Ufuna ukuva-uya kubiza, khumbula oku kwaye ungafaki uxhumano lwefoni kunye nawe.

Ufuna isiluleko kuye - ungayiphiki le mihlali, cebisa. Ziqhenyce ngale nto, kuba ufuna ukucebisa unina, kodwa kuwe. Ufuna isiluleko, samkele kwaye ubulele, kungekhona kuxhomekeke kukuphi uhlobo lomntu ongenakukunika lona, ​​nangona le ngcebiso ibonakala iyisilumko kuwe.

Ngokubhekiselele kwizwi lakho, ngethuba lencoko yefowuni, kufuneka ukuba ihlale imnandi kwaye igxininise, igxininise iindlebe kunye nokubiza "intwasahlobo emphefumlweni" yomntu othandekayo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuhleka kweentlanzi, ngakumbi xa uva ukuba unesimo esibi okanye sibuhlungu. Tshela, umzekelo, i-anecdote okanye ngandlela-thile ibali elincomekayo elenzeke kuwe (malunga nobuntwana, umzekelo) okanye abathandekayo bakho. Inomdla kuye, ungathuli ize, ngokusekelwe kwingcamango yokuba uyindoda - kufuneka aphile. Ngoko kunjalo, kodwa akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi - "ukucima emsebenzini", bonisa ukuba unomdla ohle. Xoxa naye kunye neminqweno yakhe (ngokubaluleke kakhulu, kungabonakali), kungekudala, incwadi efundwayo, ifilimu yokugqibela owawubukele, uhambo lwakho kwindawo ethile, izifundo zakho. Unokufunda into enomdla kuye. Okanye nje ekuchazeni okungaqhelekanga ndixelele indlela endichitha ngayo imini yam kwaye ungalibali ukumbuza malunga nalo. Kwimeko nayiphi na, musa ukuthetha naye kuphela kwimicimbi yabasetyhini, nciphisa incoko kunye nezihloko zayo. Ukuba kukho into enomdla, uya kukubuza. Ngendlela, abafazi abayithandi inhlebo yabesifazane.

Uza kubiza nje ngokuba utyhafile, ungayigcinanga kuwe, umxelele ngako. Abafana bayonwabile xa bexhomekeka kubo, ngendlela efanelekileyo yegama. Kulo mzekelo, ungesabi imizwa yakho, ubonise ngokuzeleyo, kuba ukusuka kubo, okwangoku, kufikeleleka, okungahlawulisa umtshato wakho womntu kunye neenjabulo zovuyo usuku lonke. Ungalokothi ulibale ukuthetha amagama amathathu omlingo: "Ndiyakuthanda." Esi sikhumbuzo asisoze sagqithisa, nabani na ongazange ubize. Ngendlela, ukuthetha ngothando yintetho enomdla kakhulu enokukunceda bobabini ukuba nivulekele kunye kwaye nisondele ngakumbi. Ngoko ungabi namahloni malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye neencoko zomnxeba ezimnandi. Akulungile ukuthetha nekwenkwenkwe yakho kwifowuni - oku akuthethi ukunamathela kwimimiselo kunye nemigqomo. Oku kuthetha kuphela ukuba emva kokubeka iibhulo, entliziyweni yomntu ngamnye uhlala yincwadana emva kokuthetha nomthandayo.