Uthando luyabuthinta kakhulu iimvakalelo zethu. Njengoko kwafunyanwa oogqirha bamandulo, uthando luyisifo sengqondo kunye nobudenge. Mhlawumbi uya kumangaliswa, kodwa nangokunje, ukuthanda amava kulandelwa oogqirha abanezifo.
Iminyaka embalwa edluleyo, ulutsha lwesiNgesi, wahlupheka waza wabuhlungu ngenxa yothando olungathandabuzekiyo lokuba wayengakwazi ukuya emsebenzini. Emva kokuxothwa emsebenzini wakhe ngenxa yokungabikho kwakhe, wamangalela waza wawunqoba. Enkundleni, uthando olubi lwaqatshelwa njengesizathu esibalulekileyo sokungabikho kwakhe.
E-Russia, oku akunakwenzeka ukuba kudlulile, kwaye akukho nkundla inokuyifumana njengesizathu esihle sokungabikho kwakhe, uthando olungathandekiyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba siziva njani kwaye sinokungabandezeleka kangakanani kwaye sihlupheke ngenxa yothando olungathandekiyo, sisaya emsebenzini, senza ishishini kwaye sisinda njengoko sinako. Kwenzeka ukuba uthando olungonwabanga luzisa intlungu nje.
Bathi uthando aludluli ngokukhawuleza, kwaye sinokufumana ubunzima ngaphezu konyaka omnye. Enoba yinyani okanye ayikho, siya kukwazi ukufumana kuphela xa sihlaziya iimvakalelo zethu. Mhlawumbi, yonke into ayimbi njengokuba sicinga. Mhlawumbi, thina ngokwethu sizakhele ezi zivakalelo.
Into yokuqala esiyidingayo ukuyiqonda yona thina yintoni esinokubandezeleka ngayo nothando olungathandabuzekiyo okanye kwedwa? Enyanisweni, sinoyika nje ukuba sodwa, njengoko sijwayele ukuba soloko sikhona, njengoko sasicinga, ngomntu othandekayo. Okokuqala, akufanele sihlale sisodwa kunye nentlungu. Ukuba unomdla ongenamdla, ongathandabuzekiyo ebomini, kufuneka uqale uxoxe nomnye umntu. Ndicinga ukuba kwimeko enokuhlala kubakho abantu abaye bafumana eli lihlandlo ebomini babo. Ziza kuba ziyakwazi ukukunika iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuziphilisa ngokwazo uthando olungathandekiyo.
Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba sivalelwe ngaphakathi kwaye asifuni ukuthetha nabani na. Nangona kule nkqubela yobomi, sifuna ngempela inkxaso yabantu abasondeleyo. Ngesizathu esithile, akubona wonke umntu okwazi ukuthetha ngamava abo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?
Njengoko iingqondo zengqondo zithi ngexesha lokuphuka nomntu othandekayo, siyaxhamla. Xa sifunda ukuba asithandwayo, ngeli xesha umgama wethu uyathinteka. Xa ubuhlobo buphukile, ukuzithemba kwethu kuhla. Kubonakala ngathi akukho mntu unokusithandayo, kwaye ukususela kule nto, sibuhlungu kakhulu.
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba uthando aluhlolisisi iimpawu zakho kwaye alubonakali lufanelekile. Yaye ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awusandithandi, oku akuthethi ukuba uyisidenge okanye ungendawo, akukho nxu lumano. Ebomini, nayiphi na umntu udibana kunye nantoni kunye nothando olungonwabiyo kwaye le ntliziyo inokuzifumana njengomzekelo kunye nomgcini wendlu. Nabani na onokujamelana nale ngxaki.
Kufuneka uqonde ukuba nayiphi na into ongenayo impawu kunye neempawu, awukwazi ukugcina uthando. Xa silahlekelwa ngabantu abathandekayo, siba nomsindo, nomsindo, size siqale ukucinga ngokuphindezela. Kodwa oku kuphosakeleyo kwaye kufuneka silwe naloo mvakalelo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba abantu bephulile ubudlelwane, kunye nabanye, baqhubeke bebambelela ekuthandeni kwabo. Kwale mzuzwana asiyiqondi yonke into esiyinyanzela ngayo uthando, kodwa ngamava ethu aphakamileyo.
Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo akufanele ucinge ngamava akho. Khumbula umntu onomntu olwalamano naye, cinga ukuba unobungakanani kwaye uninzi kangakanani. Cinga emva, nokuba ufuna le lamano kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukuqhubeka nokuva le ntlungu kunye nokuthotywa. Mhlawumbi awukho into enhle yomntu wakho, kwaye awuzange uhlangabezane naloo mntu. Ubomi abuyeki kwaye kufuneka uqhubeke kwaye ungesabi ukuvumela entliziyweni yakho uthando olutsha.
Ndiyicinga ukuba ngenxa yam cebiso, unokuziphilisa uthando olungathandekiyo.