Ngokutsho kwabasetyhini ngokwabo, ngokuqhelekileyo ephupheni oku kuthetha ukulingana kweso sizwe ngokwenene. Kwaye akufuneki ukuba uzibone ukhulelwe. Ngamanye amaxesha abanye abantu abangaqhelekanga banokukuxelela lo myalezo kwiphupha. Kwimeko enjalo, kungcono ukujonga ukuqikelela kwakho. Ukuba abaqinisekanga, kufuneka ufune enye inkcazelo yokulala.
Sonnik Miller
Ukukhulelwa kwentombazana inokukhupha ingxaki okanye ihlazo. Kwintokazi ekulungele ukutshata, eli phupha linokuba luhlobo olusilumkiso: umtshato awuyi kuphumelela, kunye nabantwana - abangathobeliyo.
Ukuba umfazi olele eqinisweni kule ndawo ephosakeleyo, ke lo phupha luphawu oluhle kakhulu. Kuthetha ukuba imeko yangempela iya kuqhubeka ngaphandle kwengxaki, kwaye ukuzalwa kuya kuphumelela kwaye kungonakali impilo yemama nosana.
Iphupho Lofa
Ngokutsho kweemfundiso zale ngqikirha yengqondo, kukho iinketho ezininzi malunga nokukhulelwa kubonakala ngathi:
- ukukhula nokufikelela kwinqanaba elitsha lophuhliso. Okokuthi, intombazana ephupha ngokukhulelwa kwikamva elikude, kodwa ingenalo njongo ngethuba, ingaqala ukuhlakulela ngokukhawuleza ubuchule bokudala kunye nokukwazi ukuhlalutya iziganeko.
- ukuba intombazana esandula ukukhula, eli phupha libonisa ukuguqulwa kokugqibela ukuya kubantu abadala.
- Ukuba unesigxina esigxina sesini, kodwa izicwangciso zingenamntwana, iphupha elinjalo lingabonisa nje isigaba sokujikeleza kwakho. Ukuba ukukhulelwa kwakho kuphupha ngexesha leentsuku ezibalulekileyo, eli phupha lingathetha iingxaki zexesha elizayo.
- Ngamanye amaxesha le meko iphupha lamadoda. Kule meko, i-subconscious yakhe ithi ungathandabuzeki ngokunyaniseka kwakhe kunye nokukwazi ukuzala. Iengqondo, oku kuchazwa yinto yokuba indoda ifuna ukufezekisa ngaphezu kwegunya lakhe langoku.
Iingubo Ukuchazwa kweFreud
Ngokwale ngqikirha yengqondo, intombazana iphupha ngokukhulelwa ithembisa ukufezekiswa ngokukhawuleza kwesi siganeko ngokwenene. Ukuba umntu uphupha ngomfazi omele umntwana, kuthetha ukuba unengqondo ngokulungele ukuba nguyise kwaye ufuna ukuba nomntwana kunye nomlingane wakhe.
Ezinye iincwadi zokuphupha zinika ezinye iinguqulelo ezikhethiweyo:
- Intombazana engakhulelwe ngokwenene, ibona ukuba iyazala umntwana ephupheni, oko kuthetha ukuba ukugqitywa kwempumelelo kwenkampani kuqalwe kuye.
- Ukuzibona ephupheni ngesisu esikhulu, umzekelo, njengamaxesha eenyanga ezintlanu, uthembisa ukwanda okwenene kwintlalo kunye nokuchuma. Kwaye indoda ingakwazi ukuzibona isisu esikhulu. Ukongeza kwimpumelelo yemali, eli phupha lithembisa ukuphucula isimo sezenhlalakahle.
- Ukukhulelwa ephupheni kunokuthetha intsingiselo entsha, impumelelo kwi-shishini kunye nenzuzo engalindelekanga.
- Ukuba uphupha ukuba uyazala, kwaye awaziwa ukuba yintoni isondo ngomntwana, unokujamelana nobunzima xa ugqiba ityala eliqalisiwe. Kodwa ukuqala komsebenzi kunye nobasebenzi kuthetha ukuba uya kufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko enzima ephuhlisiwe.
- Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba umntwana udibanisa. Emva koko kufuneka uhlawule ngakumbi umsebenzi wakho kwaye ube noxanduva olukhulu.
- Ukuziva iimpazamo ephupheni kunokuthetha ukufikelela kwiingxaki zempilo. Kodwa ukuba sele usuhlushwa sisifo nasiphi na isifo, iimpawu eziphuphayo zibonisa ukuba unyango luya kuvelisa iziphumo ezilungileyo.
Hlaziya iiphupha zakho, uzivumelanise neemeko zobomi boqobo, kuba ngokuqhelekileyo zibonakalisa iingxaki zethu ezifihliweyo zengqondo kunye nokutolika oko ubona kwiphupha alikho ngokoqobo.