Ngokuqhelekileyo uqhawulo lomtshato luba yinto ebizwa ngokuba yinkalo yomntu: ezininzi izibini kufuneka ziqhawule umtshato zingekho kwiindonga ze-ofisi yokubhalisa, kodwa enkundleni. Inkqubo yomthetho yokuqhawula umtshato iqulethe ubunqunu kunye nobuqhetseba, ukwazi ukuba yiyiphi into enokuyenza ibe lula ngayo ubomi bakho kwimeko enjalo. Ungakwazi ukufezekisa injongo kunye neentlungu ezincinci. Kufuneka uqaphele ngokucacileyo: emva kokuba isigqibo senkundla sigqityiwe, akusayi kutshintshwa. Nangona kunjalo, kuhlale kunokwenzeka ukuphazamisa inkqubo yenkqubo. Oku kwenziwa njani? Okokuqala, kufuneka ubhale ingxelo ngokuchanekileyo, ngokucacileyo, ngokukhawuleza nangokufanelekileyo. Okwesibini, kuchanekile ukuziphatha enkundleni. Oku, mhlawumbi, amaxesha amabini anqabileyo.
BHALISA INKCAZELO
Njengomgaqo oqhelekileyo, amabango omtshato owenziweyo ayenziwa kwindawo yokuhlala yokuhlala okanye kwindawo enkundleni apho ebhaliswe khona. Ummangalelwa ngumntu oza kutshatyalaliswa naye umtshato. Ukuba uhlala kwenye idolophu okanye kwindawo ahlala kuyo ayengaziwa, ibango lifakwe enkundleni kwindawo yokuhlala kommangali. Kule meko, inkundla inyanzelekile ukuba ingamkeli kuphela isitatimende sesibango, kodwa kwakhona ukuvakalisa ukukhangela ummangali ngokusebenzisa imizimba yemicimbi yangaphakathi.
Ukufaka isicelo kwinkundla, ufuna amaxwebhu alandelayo:
■ Ingxelo yesibango somtshato;
■ isatifiketi somtshato;
■ izatifikethi zokuzalwa zabantwana (ikopi zinokwenzeka);
■ isatifikethi esivela kwindawo yokuhlala;
■ isatifikethi esivela kwindawo yomsebenzi;
■ Ukuba bobabini bomtshato bavuma ukuqhawula umtshato, isitatimende esivela kummangalelwa malunga nemvume yakhe;
■ ukufumana ukuhlawulwa kwemisebenzi karhulumente.
Kulo mazwi, cacisa ngokucacileyo ukuba kutheni ungahlali ngqo nalo mntu (ukuhlukana, ukungabikho kobudlelwane bomtshato, ubukho bokuba "ngaphandle" olunye usapho, njl.).
QALA! ICANDELO LIYA!
Ngoko ke onke amaxwebhu aqokelelwe, isicelo sithunyelwe, usuku lwenkonzo lonyulwe ... Kuninzi kuxhomekeke ekuphatheni kwakho kwiseshoni yenkundla. Abanye abantu bakholelwa ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba ukuba bayabhuqa enkundleni okanye bahlala kwimeko engqonge, inkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato iya kuba yimpumelelo. Ukuba oku kuya kugqiba isigqibo sejaji sokuhlula indawo leyo. Oku akunjalo! Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ijaji kufuneka isebenze kunye neenyaniso, kwaye akukho mzekelo ngeemvakalelo. Unokuba usenokuqwalasela iimvakalelo zakho kunye neinyembezi njengomzamo wokuba "uxinzelele" kuye. Ukongezelela, i-judge's emotionality excessivement can be caused, njengomntu osebenza kuphela kunye neengqinisiso, ukusola, nokuba unengqondo engafanelekiyo. Ngokucacileyo, iziphakamiso "zokuhlala kwinkqubo yokuqhawula isigqibo senkundla yokuzola kunye nokubandulwa kwegazi" kwiimeko ezininzi akunakwenzeka, ngakumbi xa iingxabano ezibonakalayo ezibalulekileyo okanye i-intle yabantwana isisombululo. Ukuba umtshato uqhaqhaqhaqhazela, unesaba ukuba awukwazi ukujamelana neemvakalelo zakho kunye nexesha elifanayo unayo ibinzana elithethayo-kungcono ukumema igqwetha.
UMTHETHO - KUNGANI AKUFUNA
Ukukhetha ummeli kunzima kunokuba ungacinga ngokujonga kuqala. Ewe, ilungelo lakho, ngokugubha isikhwama sakho, ukumema esinye sezikhanyiso zebhar ukuqhuba ishishini. Kodwa khumbula ukuba kuye inkundla yokuqhawula isigqibo senkundla iya kubonakala ingafanelekanga ingqalelo, ukuba siyaqhathanisa nale nkqubo eninzi ekhoyo kwizenzo zakhe. Ngaloo ndlela, ngenxa yemali yakho, usengozini yokufumana umsebenzi "wokunciphisa imikhono yakho" kumntu wegosa. Kubalulekile ukukhumbuza: kungekhona igqwetha elibiza kakhulu - kungekhona ukuba lingenakuqonda kwaye lingenakwenzeka! Umzekelo, umfundi we-intern (nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, kakhulu) ngenxa yemali enkulu kakhulu, impumelelo enkulu ingafumaneka. Loo "mgcini" akayi kuba noyiko, kodwa ngenxa yesazela "ukumba umhlaba". Ngokomzekelo, kwanele ukukhumbuza igqwetha leentombazana elivela kwifilimu ethi "iMimino", owenza oko kungekho mntu wayekulindelwe kuye. Ngaloo nto ibonakala ingathembeki, wayefezekise injongo yakhe, nokuba kunjalo, injongo yakhe yomxhasi. Kukulungele ukumema igqwetha elivela kuthiwa liphakathi eliphakathi: unamava athile, kodwa ungabonakali, ukuba umtshato wakho awubonakali nantoni na. Ngokuqinisekileyo, igqwetha kufuneka libe yizakhono ezifanelekileyo. Akukho mqathango ongabalulekanga ukuba ngaba wakwazi ukukhuthaza ukuzithemba, nokuba uyamthanda kuwe. Kubaluleke ngokukhethekileyo ukuba uvelwano kunye nokuthembela zidibeneyo. Ndingafumana phi igosa ukuze akwazi ukuyifumana, kunye nokuthanda kwakhe?
■ Kwiofisi zomthetho okanye iingcebiso zomthetho karhulumente. Qala ngefowuni, uze uqhelane nomlingane osenokwenzeka.
■ Kwiintengiso: kumaphephandaba (ikakhulukazi izifundo zezomthetho), kwi-intanethi, kwi-advertising yentengiso, ebeka kwiibhokisi leposi. Nangona iimbono ezikhoyo kuluntu, umntu unokufumana iqabane elithembekileyo kule mithombo.
■ Okwesithathu, ngabaqhelana nabo. Musa nje ukufumana malunga neengcali zokuqhawula umtshato - buza nje malunga negqwetha. Nangona le gqwetha lingayisebenzisi amatyala omtshato, thatha ingxaki ukuthatha ifowuni yakhe-mhlawumbi uya kukuncoma kumlingane wakhe.
Ekuqaleni komsebenzi kunye negqwetha, mchazele oko ungathanda ukubhala kwisicelo kunye noko ufuna ukukufumana ngenxa yomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, akubalulekile ukuba uchaze iinjongo zomnqweno wakho. Ngokomzekelo, uthi: "Ndifuna ukumangalela indlu." Kwaye akukho gqwetha aliyi kubuza isizathu sokuba uyidinga okanye ukuba unentloni ukushiya umfazi wakho ngaphandle kwempahla. Igqwetha liya kwakha isicwangciso sakho esekelwe kwiminqweno yakho. Ngoko ke, cingisisa kakuhle. Cinga ukuba igqwetha liyakuncebisa ukuba ulungelelanisa ukutya: akaphelelanga, kwaye ezinye iimfuno zakho zingaphikisana nomthetho (soyika ama-avosa athembisa ngokuqinisekileyo!).
IMVUMO YOMTSHATHO
Yintoni enokuyenza "iphoyisa" ubomi bakho ngexesha lomtshato isivumelwano somtshato. Eyona nto, kwesi sivumelwano malunga nokuhlulwa kwepropati. Akumangalisi ukuba ubuhlakani baseHollywood buthi: "Kufuneka ube ngumntu oswele ukutshata okanye utshata ngaphandle kwesivumelwano somtshato." Namhlanje, amagqwetha ehlabathini lonke ancoma uhlobo loxwebhu, olusekwa ngokwahlukileyo kolawulo lobunikazi kunye nexesha lomtshato, kwaye ukuba kunokwenzeka, umtshato. Xa, umzekelo, umfazi ungakwazi ukusebenza ngexesha lomtshato, kodwa kuphela ukulawula indlu, emva kokumelana nomtshato, imeko yakhe inzima kakhulu. Ukuze ugweme oku, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufake inkontileka into enjalo: "Xa umtshato uqeshwe, umzi womfazi uba yipropati: indawo yokuhlala, izixhobo, ubucwebe."
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