Ngesizathu esithile, isizukulwana samadoda sahluke ngokucacileyo ukusuka kuzo zonke zangaphambili. Aba bantu bembethe iifenki zepinki, izibhokhwe ezinje, zifuna ukuhlala zixelelwa, zizinto ezilungileyo kunye ezimangalisayo, zinike iehokethi kwaye zazisusa iinyembezi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bayaqiniseka ukuba bangamadoda asemgangathweni kwihlabathi kwaye amantombazana kufanele awele ezinyaweni zawo kunye nezibongo kwaye abulele uThixo ukuba banalolo lonwabo.
Kodwa kwakungekho amanye amadoda aziphatha ngokuthe ngqo, kodwa ngandlela-thile bacinga ukuba awalungele amantombazana abo. Kwaye ke la madoda ahamba, eshiya abafazi abathandayo, ngokudideka ngokupheleleyo. Yintoni enokuyenza xa iqabane lakho licinga ukuba alifanelanga wena, kwaye uyaqiniseka ngokuchaseneyo?
Izizathu
Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba kutheni le ncinane yayinengcamango enjalo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, isizathu sokuba unamava angaphumelelanga okanye ukuziphatha kwakho. Umzekelo, ukuba umfana wakho unomusa, uthembekileyo, uhloniphekile, uthembekile kwaye uyakuthanda kakhulu, ngoko ke lo mkhuba ungabangelwa kukuba ubona kuye ukungaphumeleli akujonga ukuba lukhulu kakhulu. Amadoda amaninzi aloluhlobo awanalo iimvakalelo zothando kunye nezivaliweyo. Bathi "Ndiyakuthanda" phantse kanye ebomini bam, kodwa uvakalise uthando lwam ngezenzo, kungekhona ngamagama. Amantombazana athi, njengokuba sonke sazi, bathanda ngeendlebe zabo, oku akwaneleyo, kwaye baqala ukulungelelanisa ukwakha ama-scandals kunye neentlungu malunga nokuba loo mntu akaze athethe igama kwaye akayithandi nhlobo. Ngaloo ndlela, ufuna uncinane nje ukufumana kuye isisa, kwaye umfana uqokelela unomvakalelo wokuba udidekile kwaye uyakuchukumisa, ngoko umphumo wolu daba uthetha nje ukuba angayithuthuzi umntu wakhe othandekayo aze ashiye.
Esinye isizathu esenza ukuba umfana anganquma into engafanelekanga kuwe. Ukuba umntu ubona ukuba unomzali ocebileyo okanye ufumana imali eninzi, kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile akanakukunika imali eninzi, umntu omncinci uyakwazi ukukhula. unokukwazi ukuthenga okunjalo kunye nobungakanani obunjalo. Ngaloo ndlela, njengendoda, indoda iya kuqala ibonakale iyinkimbinkimbi kwaye iyanquma ukuba yiyiphi eyaneleyo ukuba unokwethenjelwa ngokwezemali. Ngenxa yoko, indoda, ididekile kuye, ishiya. Enyanisweni, akafuni ukushiya ubomi bakho kuwe, ekholelwa ukuba omnye umntu uya kukwazi ukukunika yonke into oyisebenzisayo, kwaye uya kukunyanzela ukuba uxhomekeke kwiimeko eziphilileyo ezingavumelekanga kuwe.
Ezi zizathu zibini zizona zizathu ezibalulekileyo zendoda yokuzicingela engafanelekanga. Njengomthetho, kule ngcamango kuza abantu abalungileyo abakwaziyo ukubona zonke iimpawu zabo ezilungileyo. Yaye ukuba baqhuba into ethile ezintloko zabo, kuba nzima kakhulu ukuyikhupha, kodwa isenokwenzeka.
Ngoko, sihlala siba sisizathu sokwenza izigqibo ezinjalo thina. Makhe sibone imeko enye kumfazi kunye nomfazi. Ngokomzekelo, usuku lokuzalwa lwentombazana. Umfana umlethela ingalo yezandla kunye nezandla, kodwa ekubeni yena ngokwakhe akanalo ntliziyo ngenxa yesizathu esithile, uyamncoma isandi esomile. Intombazana, ekuboneni oku, ixhala ngenxa yokuba ayiyithandi, ukuba ayikwazi ukuthetha into enhle, ilizwi ngelizwi, yonke into iya kudlulela kumntu kwaye inokufikelela kwindawo apho intombazana iqala ukukhwaza into ethi "Ndiyayithiya, Uhlala undibuhlungu. " Yintoni esiyifumene ngayo ekupheleni? Kuba ibhinqa yayisigxina nje sengqondo. Akayithandi mntu kwaye uyamxabisa indoda yakhe, ngoko ke wayefuna ukucacisa ukuba wayenothando olungakumbi, ngaphandle kokuthi wayenomdla kangakanani. Yaye indoda ibona ntoni? Uyabona ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama ukubonakalisa njani uthando lwakhe, kunoko umonakalo nje. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe neemvakalelo zakhe zonakalisa ubomi bakhe. Yaye ukuba imeko iphindaphindiwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngoko ekugqibeleni, umfana usenza isigqibo sokuba ngokwenene uzisa intlungu kunye nokudumala. Namaqabunga.
Indlela yokusombulula ingxaki?
Kwaye emva koko siyaqonda ukuba asiyidingi i-niromantica, okanye "ndiyakuthanda" sonke isiqingatha seyure, kodwa ndifuna nje ukuba sisondele. Okokuqala, kufuneka nje uxoxe naye. Khawukhumbule ukuba awusayi kuphinda ufake nayiphi na ibango kuye. Intetho ngoku ihamba neo ukuze idale into ayifunayo, kwaye uya kuvala amehlo akho. Nantsi kuthiwa awuyi kuphinda ufune kuye okubonakalisa iimvakalelo ezingaqhelekanga kuye. Ngoko ke, ukubiza umntu kuloo ncoko, ngokukhawuleza makumqonde ukuba uyamthanda kwaye ulungile naye. Nangona ucolile kwaye uvaliwe ulungile. Kwaye mhlawumbi awufuni nhlobo uhlobo lothando olukunika lona, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle kwayo. Enyanisweni, ukuziphatha kwakho ngumfazi wesisu. Ewe, ulandela injongo yokutshintsha, kuba, njengokuba uyazi, abafazi banengcamango ephezulu kunye neengcali, kodwa ngoku uqonda ukuba unokuhlala ngaphandle kokwamkelwa ngothando kunye nekhaphethi yeeresi phantsi. Kodwa awukwazi ukuhlala ngaphandle komntu wakho.
Ukuba umfana wakho uqala ukuthetha ezinye iingxabano aze abonise ukuba uya kuba ngcono ngaphandle kwakhe - vuka nje. Ndikholelwe, ukumanga kuya kumenza akhohlwe oko akutshoyo kwaye kunciphisa kakhulu umnqweno wakhe wokuba uhlonipheke kwaye akuvumele uhambe. Emva koko uthi uyamthanda, ukuba ufuna ukuhlala kunye naye kwaye unganandaba ukuba uya kuthetha ngothando kanye ngonyaka, ngosuku lwakho lokuzalwa, kwaye ke, kungekhona into eya kuba. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umntu ukholelwa kuwe, ngokokuba akanakho ukungathandabuzeki ngento yokuba akayena owona mbi, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ungekho nto.
Yaye into yokugqibela okumele uyikhumbule ngayo ngombuzo wemali. Kule meko, indoda ilukhuni ngakumbi ukutshintsha ingqondo yakhe, kuba ilahlekelwa yithemba kuye, njengokuba isondla. Ngako oko, kufuneka umbonise ukuba, okokuqala, akunandaba nawe nonke, uthenge i-blouse kwisibini okanye kwibhotile, kwaye, okwesibini, uyamkholisa indoda ukuba imali ayiyi kuzisa uvuyo kwaye ayikuqondi. Mhlawumbi, kwavela imeko enjalo ngenxa yokuba ukholelwa ukuba umfana wakho unokuphumeza umsebenzi omkhulu. Kwaye ngenxa yezizathu ezithile akazange akwenze. Thetha kuye kwaye umxelele ukuba awukhathalele ukuba uza kuzuza phi, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uza kutyhila njani amandla akhe, kuba unomnye omkhulu. Kodwa ukuba akafuni ukwenza oku ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ezicingileyo, awuyi kumthintela, kwaye ukuba unesilonda nje, mhlawumbi uya kuyenza, kodwa akuyi kuba yinto yokuba ungenayo indlela yokwenza izinto. Uyakhupha kuyo yonke into, uyamthanda kakhulu kangangokuthi ufuna into engcono kakhulu kuye.
Kungenzeka, emva kwengxoxo enjalo umntu uya kubuya kwaye akayi kuluxinezela kwiingongoma zakhe ezibuhlungu aze azame ukuyithatha njengokuba kunjalo.