Umatshini wexesha awubuyanga
Kakade ke, injabulo yesiqhelo ye-arithmetic ayinakuncitshiswa. Ewe, ukungavumelani kwenzeka kwakhona phakathi kwabatshatileyo, ukuba izimvo zabo zobomi azihambelani. Kodwa, ngokubhekiselwe kweengqondo zengqondo, izibini ezihlukeneyo kwiminyaka engama-7 okanye ngaphezulu zihlala ziqhawule umtshato kunabantu abaphakathi kwexesha eliphakathi kwexesha elikhoyo.
Yintoni eyingozi kule sixhenxe? Isizukulwana sesizukulwana sithinta. Umyeni nomfazi baye bafunda ixabiso leenkcubeko ezahlukeneyo, kwaye abanakho ukuqonda ulwimi lomnye. Ngokomzekelo, indoda - umthonyama we-perestroika kuma-80s, xa umoya wenguqu unika inkululeko kwinkululeko emva kokucinezelwa kanzima kulawulo. Ukunyaniseka kwakhe kwanda ngexesha le-capitalism yama-90-ixesha lezinye izinto eziphambili: ukusinda nokufumana imali. Ukuqhekeka kobudlelwane, umtshato kunye nokwahlukana kwiminyaka yabatshatileyo kuya kuzinza kunye nokuhluka kweenjongo zobomi. Iminyaka engamashumi amabini ubudala ndifuna ukufunda, ukufunda izinto ezintsha. Ziyakwazi ukuguquguquka, zivumelane nezimo ezingaqhelekanga kunye neengxaki ezingaphezulu. Abantu abaneminyaka engama-40 bazama ukuzinza. Zizilumko kwaye zivila. Ngaba kulula ukuqhubeka kunye nokukhula kwabaselula? Kunoko, akunjalo. Umqobo ubagweba abo bathandekayo imitshato engavumelekanga. I-Skew ibukela abantu abadlulileyo-ngoku, ukunyeliswa kwabantu abaqhelekileyo akunakwenzeka ukuba kubangele imimoya epholileyo endlwini, kodwa ukunganeliseki kwabazali (wakhe) kunokutshabalalisa i-idyll yentsapho. Olunye ukunqanyulwa kukungahambelani ngokomzimba. Umlingane omncinci okanye ovuthiweyo unokuzipholisa komnye, uzive ukhangelelwa ngokwesini.
Nangona kunjalo , ngokweengcali, kukho abantu abangapheliyo ngengqondo ngexesha labo. Kwingamashumi amabini anesihlanu, bahlala, banengqiqo, bathanda izithethe zedlulileyo. Kubo, ke, iqabane okanye iqabane 40+ lihambelana ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, kukho abantu abatsha kakhulu emphefumlweni kunabo ontanga. Bakhululekile ukudibanisa isithuba nomntu omncinci. Ngendlela, kwaye umahluko kuminyaka ibonwa yindoda kunye nomfazi ngokwahlukileyo. Indoda ingaba yiminyaka esibhozo emdala kunomfazi wayo, kwaye yena kunye nezihlobo zakhe baya kuphendula ngokulile ngolu mtshato. Kukholelwa ukuba abafazi balahlekelwa ngumtsalane phambi kwamadoda-kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha ikhefu kwiminyaka iya kuguqulwa. Kwindlela yokusebenza kwengqondo zeKieya kwakukho imeko xa ibhinqa elidala kunomntu iminyaka embalwa kuphela, izalamane zakhe azivumelanga. Ewe, kwaye loo nto wayenentloni encinci yokuba into ayithandayo ngumntu omdala, nangona kwindlela yokujonga ngayo izazi zengqondo, ziontanga. Nangona iqabane likhulile kunomfazi iminyaka eyi-10 (kodwa akukho ngaphezulu!), Umlinganiselo wexesha phakathi kwabo awunakuvakalelwa. Kodwa xa umyeni "ephuma" umyeni wakhe iminyaka engama-6-7 - oku kubehluko ocacileyo.
Yintoni eyenza wena kunye nami
Kutheni abantu abanjalo beguqukela? Kukholelwa ngokubanzi ukuba iqabane elivuthiweyo lixhaswa ngamandla angaphezulu "okuluhlaza", incinci entliziyweni, ukuhlala emtshatweni kunye nokuhluka kwiminyaka kunye nomlingane. Umncinci-uphuculo ngamava obomi, ufumana inkxaso. Bobabini bavakaliswa ngengqondo. Akunakunyulwa: babumbene ngokuvakalelwa. Kodwa imitshato eninzi engalinganiyo yamkelwe yilabo abasebuntwaneni abazange baphile okanye abagqithanga inkqubo yokuhlukana (ukuhlukana) kubazali babo. Umzekelo, utata wamshiya intombi yam - washiya umama wamnye umfazi. Okanye umzali wayengqongqo, intombi elawulwa kakhulu. Xa ekhula, uya kukhangela umlingane omdala kunokuba yena-engumngane wengqondo wengane wakhe. Kungaba lula kuye ukuba axoxe namadoda amancinci kakhulu - akayiyo emoyeni kodwa evuthiwe. Ingaba umfana naye uphathwe nguMama? Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, akazange aphile nendoda eyayithandekayo kuye?
Uya kwakha ubudlelwane kunye "nomama wengqondo" - umfazi okhulile ngakumbi kuye. Ekudibaneni kwamaqabane amancinci atshayela kwaye enganelisekiyo kayise okanye umama wesisu. Ngokomzekelo, indoda yahlukanisa nomfazi wayo, ayibonakali intombazana yakhe, kwaye iyifumana "ininzi intombi," umfazi oselula. Njalo le ntombi. Ukuba umntwana wakhe omdala uyakha ubomi obuzimeleyo (kwaye uhlala enendima yomama!), Umfazi unokukhangela "unyana" wengqondo, umyeni omncinane.
Iimbutho ezinjalo , ngokweengcali zeengqondo, zihlala zifutshane. Ibhinqa liyakhathazeka ngendima yentombi okanye umama, kunye nomntu - utata okanye umntwana omncinci. Kwaye ukuba akukho mfuno eqhelekileyo kunye neemvakalelo ezijulile, umtshato uya kulahla. Unentsapho enamandla kakhulu, apho ubudlelwane bakhelwe ngohlobo "lootitshala-titshala". Le mitshato idla ngokugqitywa phakathi kwabantu bokudala: sele iphumelele udumo, kwaye iqalisa uhambo lwayo. Intombazana iyaba yindoda kunye ne-museum, kunye nobhala. Kwaye ikhuthaza ukwenza imisebenzi emitsha, kwaye iqokelele izinto eziphilayo kwiikhompyutha. Indoda iya kuqhotyoshela kumncedisi onjalo. Ngokukodwa ukuba utshatile okwesihlandlo sesibini, kwaye umlingane wokuqala wayemlingene nomsebenzi osebenzayo okanye omeleyo kwaye azimeleyo, akazange axhasane nezigqibo zakhe.
Abantu abaqolileyo kwiingxowa ezincinci kunye neememori zothando zobutsha. Intombazana inokukhumbuza intlonelo ehloniphekileyo yothando lwakhe lokuqala, kwaye umfana uya kuvuselela emphefumlweni wendodakazi yeBalzac yokukhumbula iminyaka yokufunda kwakhe. Ulwalamano olunjalo lwakhiwa kwiingcamango. Kungekudala, abathandi bayayiqonda: ixesha alikwazi ukubuyela emuva, imbali ibonakala phambi kwabo, ngokwenene abo banyulwayo ngabanye. Kwaye le mibini iyahlukana. Umzekelo wentsapho nayo ingxabano enzima ekuthandeni imitshato eyahlukileyo ngo-N. Ubaba usekhulile kunomama kangangeminyaka elishumi elinambini, baphila umphefumlo emphefumlweni. Unyana wabo, mhlawumbi, ufuna ukuba "isiqingatha" sakhe sincinane, kwaye intombi yakhe iya kuphupha umfazi okhulileyo. Mhlawumbi umtshato wabo uya kuphumelela ukuba ukuxhamla komntu kunye nomlingane kwenzeka.
Ngaba ubaba okanye umyeni
Amatye angaphantsi kwamanzi kuloo manyano ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu uqulethe umfazi omncinci, uhlawula izifundo zakhe kunye nezinto ezithandwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ayabonwa. Uyabhubha emsebenzini, unika ixesha elingakumbi kubahlobo bakhe. Ukungakwazi ukunxibelelana kunokunqandwa ukuba intombazana ifunde ukuhlala iminqweno yomyeni wayo.
Kodwa kunqweneleka ukuba indoda ingabi nantamo, ukuzama ukubheka ihlabathi ngamehlo abantu abatsha. Ukwenza oku, hayi, akulula: indoda emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu-engamashumi amane ayifuni ukutshintsha imikhwa yakhe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko umvuzo uya kuba nokuqonda phakathi kwentsapho. Ukwesaba okusemthethweni komlingane oqolileyo kunokulahlekelwa yindoda yamadoda. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonakala kuye: akawanelisi isifiso sesondo somfazi omncinci, uya kutshintshela umthandi omncinane. Kukhona umona, ukusola. Ibhinqa limele liqonde iimvakalelo zalo, zizame ukumkholisa. Ukuba kuyimfuneko, isibini sinokufaka isicelo kwisazi sengqondo
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ubale kaninzi kangako ukunyamekela yakhe i-odnodokam. Esi sigqibo sivuthiwe. Kwaye nokuba indoda iyintloko phezu kwezithende ekuthandeni nentombi yakhe ekhulile, iyayiphoyisa kwaye ihambe. Iingcali zicebisa ukuba zingabikho kwizoyiko, kodwa ukugxininisa amaqela amanyeneyo omanyano. Emva koko, into e mtsala umntu ngaphakathi kuwe? Ngokuqhelekileyo umama-35 "40" ongu-40 + "abahlengikazi" abatsha abakhethiweyo, uba ngumama "wengqondo". Ngexesha elithile, umntu uyayithanda (ingakumbi ukuba wayenayo i-caresses yomama). Kodwa ke uya kukhathala ngolu hlobo, yena ngokwakhe ufuna ukunyamekela umntu. Uze ufumane enye. Into ephambili kubafazi abavuthiweyo akuyikuba ngumama kumyeni wabo, kodwa ukuzama ukuthetha naye ngokulinganayo.
Xa iminyaka iyakunika
Isithuba phakathi kwezizukulwana sizuzisa isibini - ukuba ngaba babini bazama ukutshintshana amava kunye nokuvalelana. Ukungalingani kweminyaka kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abalingayo. Umncinci akayi kumvumela umdala ukuba atyebe, avule ii-horizons ezintsha. Indoda eqolileyo iya kunceda loo mfana kumsebenzi wakhe. Ikhefu lexeshana liya kubangela ukukhula kokomoya kwabini abesilisa. Kodwa kubemi, ukusuka kwizikhundla zokudala ezikude, umehluko omkhulu awubi. Ukhethiwe? Okona mncinci? Kwaye kwimiba yomibini ibhinqa ineebhonasi zayo. Umyeni ovuthiweyo unika umqondo wokuzinza-imali kunye nemvakalelo. Umlingane omncinci uyakunceda ukulahlekelwa yithethoni (le nkosikazi ihlolisise ngokwabo). Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukutshata kulungile nje! Yaye yintoni umehluko phakathi kokudala kangakanani phakathi kwabo?