Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukujongana neengcamango eziphosakeleyo.
Ngokusoloko sikwenza iingxaki zethu ngokwethu, sigxila kubo kwaye siziphoqa ukuba sikholwe ukuba ubomi bethu bobulili "iislayidi". Okwangoku, inyaniso yokuba thina kwimilinganiselo yethu esondeleyo ayihambelani nesininzi okanye ayihambisani neengcamango ezisetyenziswe kuluntu (umzekelo, asithandanga ngesondo kabini ngeveki, njengabalingani abaqhelekileyo, kodwa enye) ayithethi ukuba asifuni ukubetha ukuxhalabisa okanye ukufakela umtshato. Ngoko, siya kukhanyela ininzi "inobungozi" inokuthintela ukuba siphile.
"Asihambisani nesondo"
Le ngongoma efanelekileyo kakhulu yezinto ezikhoyo kwihlabathi. Bangakwazi ukuthethelela nantoni na into: iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zesini, kunye neengqumbo ezinqabileyo (oku kudlalwa ngabafazi abangazange bazame ukuthetha namadoda abo ngokubambisana, ubulili bomlomo, i-clitoris, indawo yeG kunye nemimandla efanelekileyo), nokungabi nandipha le ngqungquthela ithandwa ngokukhethekileyo-phakathi kwezithandani zamacandelo kunye neeveli zothando). Enyanisweni: ukuba ucinga ngento yokuba iqabane lakho alihambisani nawe embhedeni, ngoko awunayo imizwa yothando. Awukwazi ukuvuma oku kwaye ubambe inguqu yezinto ezibizwa ngokuba "ukungafanelani ngokwesini", njengokuba utyani. "Ukuba unqwenela, zonke iingxaki ezinxulumene nalokhu okanye eziphazamisayo ngexesha lesondo zingasombulula," kusho u-Volodimir Prokhorov. Ngona ziimeko ezinqabile kakhulu zokungahambelani komzimba (ukungalingani kwezitho zesini zobundlelane) akubi kakhulu. Unokulala ngesimo esithile (oku kunceda ngepenis enkulu) okanye usebenzise indawo yeplastiki. " Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ulibala malunga neengxabano zesithandane (njengokuthi "kuphela ezo zibini ezikwazi ukufezekisa i-orgasm zangexesha elifanayo ngabafazi"), jonga ukuxhatshazwa (abo bacinga ukungabikho kwemimoya njengengxaki enkulu ebomini babo, banokugqiba umxholo "ongenakunyanzelo" kwiintsuku ezithile ), ukuzama kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuyonwabela. Enye into, ukuba "ukungahambelani embhedeni" ukufihla iqabane elipheleleyo lokunciphisa (awuyithandi indlela ecola ngayo, ihamba). Ukujongisa le ngxaki, kuya kufuneka ufumane iingcambu zayo. Iyintoni na into apha - ukuba awuyithandi le ndoda, icaphuke kakhulu kuye okanye kwisimo sakho sengqondo ngesondo ngokubanzi? Kule meko, kungcono ukukhangela indlela yokuphuma kwisakhelo se-psychotherapy.
Inkinga yenombolo yesi-2 "Sinezesini esincinane"
Ingcamango yesiqhelo yinto enxulumene nayo. Elinye iqabane lifuna ukuba ubuncinane kathathu ngeveki ubuncinci, ngelixa elinye iqabane liphindwe kabini ngenyanga. Ezinye zinciphisa kwi-libido ziqondakala ngokucacileyo kwizibini ezihlala ndawonye iminyaka engaphezu kwembini. Nangona kunjalo, oku akusiyo isizathu sokujonga i-razluchnitsu okanye ukuva ubunzima bokuthi uyeke ukuthanda omnye nomnye. Enyanisweni: zonke izinto zilula. Okokuqala, nayiphi na intsebenziswano eqhubekayo, ngexesha lokuphila bafumana utshintsho oluthile: ukufudumala kwesithando kuthatyathelwa ngamanye amaxesha, apho, ngokusemthethweni, alandelwa ukuqhuma komsindo. Okwesibini, yonke into eqinisa umtshato wakho kwiminyaka (ukuzinzileyo, umsebenzi, izinto ezithandwayo, izinto eziqhelekileyo, abantwana, izifuyo), ngokuqhelekileyo ziphazamisa ubomi bentlobano. Ukulala ngesondo, ungenaso ixesha okanye amandla. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Khetha ubusuku bakhululekile kwaye unikezele omnye komnye: khumbula uhambo lwakho lokuzalwa. Ukuba le milinganiselo ayinakunceda, uya kuhlalutya ngokucacileyo ubuhlobo bakho. Isizathu sokuba "ukuthula ngocansi" ngokuqhelekileyo kuba ngumpikiswano phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Cinga oko kwenzeka ngaphambi kokuba ucolile omnye nomnye? Mhlawumbi uye wazibuza ngokungazi ukuba ubukhulu bomlingane (njengamagama athi "Hayi, ungubani umntu, ukuba awukwazi ukwenza iholide", inkohlakalo eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu yiyona libido). Kule meko, kufuneka ubuyisele ubuhlobo obusondeleyo ngamanani. Iindlela ezingcono kakhulu zincoma. Amadoda athanda neendlebe. Ngomyeni wam, sithetha yonke into (imeko kwilizwe, imeko esebenzayo, ukulungiswa okuzayo, impumelelo yabantwana, impilo yabazali). Ngaphandle kwesondo. Kwenzeke ukuba le ngongoma yenye yeyona nto ininzi kuluntu. Enyanisweni: ukuphucula umgangatho wesini kungenziwa ngeengxoxo. Kakade ke, ngamanye amaxesha izivakalisi zivela. Nangona kunjalo, akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukutolika ngokuchanekileyo ukuthintela kwethu, ukugquma, ii-oohs kunye nokububula. Yintoni endiyenzayo? "Ukuthetha ngesondo ngumcimbi ochaphazelekayo kuphela," kusho u-Volodimist Prokhorov. Kumntu othile, indawo efanelekileyo yokuxoxa ngezihloko ezinjalo iya kuba kwigumbi lokulala, kunye nomntu othile - i-cafe. Into ephambili kukuba ukhethe uhlobo olungenakubungozi lwengxoxo: ukuya kubantu abanjengo "ucinga nje ngokufumana i-orgasm" kuya kubakho nto engcono. Kufuneka ufunde ukuthi "hayi" ukuze iqabane lakho lingakhubeki. Umsebenzi wakho kukuqonda phakathi kwesigama-magama, ukuphuhlisa inkqubo yakho yempawu. "
Sahlukile kakhulu
Kwaye njengokuba ividiyo epapashwayo, kwaye kunjalo sihlangene. Ewe, ubulili besilisa nabesifazana buhluke kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ukuba amadoda afumana ubunzima bokuvusa isondo ekuqaleni kwentsasa (ukususela ngomhla we-6 ukuya ku-9 ekuseni), imizi, abafazi, bathanda ukwenza uthando ngokuhlwa;
- ukuba amadoda emva kwe-orgasm adinga ukuphumla okufutshane "ukukhawuleza ekulweni," sinokuzonwabisa ngaphandle kokuphazamisa;
- ukuba amadoda aphupha isithathu, sisoloko sicinga ngesondo njengomfokazi, okanye kwindawo entsha okanye kawonkewonke;
- ukuba kumadoda ukufezekiswa kwe-orgasm kudla ngokuphela kwayo, kuthi thina, abasetyhini, ukusondelana ngokubaluleke kakhulu kubaluleke kakhulu kuneyona nto yokugqibela.
Ulwahlulo lwethu lunokubaluleka ukuba lingabikho. Ewe, ngakumbi sinesizathu sokufuna ukunyaniseka. Ukulala ngokwesondo ngokukhawuleza kunokukhawuleza kukukhupha kwaye kusilahle ithuba lokuzama!
Ingxaki yenombolo 4 "Andiyithandi iimvavanyo zakhe ebhedeni"
Okanye ngokuphambene noko: INYE ayivumelani neziphakamiso zesibindi somfazi wakhe. Ngendlela, ngokuchasene nembono karhulumente, ngokuqhelekileyo abaqalile ukuvavanya kwiingqengqelo abangekho amadoda, kodwa ngabafazi. Enyanisweni: nguwe okhawuleza ukukrakra ngolu hlobo oluqhelekileyo, oluthi, ngokomthetho, lwanelisa ngokupheleleyo abayeni bethu. Ukuhlambalaza kukukhubekisa ukuthozama kobuxoki beqabane. Kubonakala kuthi kuthi emva kwayo kungabandakanyeki, ukungafuni ukutshintsha into ethile, kunye nohanahaniso. Nangona kunjalo, kwenzeka kwakhona ukuba thina, a bafazi, kufuneka sinike izibonelelo ezicaphukisayo zomyeni (ngezinye izihlandlo esicasulayo). Yintoni endiyenzayo? Khangela "igolide intetho". Ukuxhatshazwa kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo, ngomlomo nangomntu olwabelana ngesondo, imidlalo yokudlala indima, uthando phambi kwekhamera - unokuxoxa kunye neqabane lakho la macebiso, zama enye into, uze ulungele into ethile uze "uvuthwe". Ukuxhamla ubudlelwane phakathi kwabatshatileyo ngenxa yesi sizathu sikhona ukuze bakwazi ukuxoxa ngeengxaki baze benze isigqibo. Cinga ukuba kutheni umlingani ufuna ukuzama oku okanye ukuba izinto ezintsha kunye nantoni na ekumisa? Yintoni oyikisayo? Okanye uyayikhathaza ntoni ukuba imeko iyahluke? Mhlawumbi, ezi ngcamango ziya kunceda unqobe ubunzima obuye buvuthwa.
Ngcebiso
Konke isono: bobabini madoda, kwaye - ngokuphindaphindiweyo abafazi. Oku kuqondakalayo. Enyanisweni: abahlobo kunye nabahlobo kulo mbandela abayilona cebisi. Xa kusebenza ngakumbi incoko kunye nomlingane okanye uhambo ukuya kwintliziyo yengqondo okanye usapho. Ngokuphathelele iimvakalelo ezintle emva kokuthandana, kulungile ukuwachitha kumaphepha okanye kwi-sublimate ukuya emsebenzini. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Ungabandakanyi "okwesithathu esongeziweyo" ebusweni bakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukwabelana nani nentombi yakho "inqabileyo", zama ukuthula. Cinga ngomfazi wakho. Ngaba kumnandi ukuba abe yiqhawe lamabali akho? Ngokukodwa musa ukwabelana "neengxaki" zakho ebhedini. Intombazana ayinakukunceda, kwaye kanye kunye nonke uya kukhanyisa umyeni wakho. Ukuba "ilinen yakho engcolileyo" ithathwa yindoda yakho, kufuneka uxoxe naye kwaye uchaze indlela engathandeki ngayo ukuziphatha kwakhe. Iimpawu zengcaciso: "Kuhlazisa ukujonga amehlo akho," "Akufuneki ukumema abahlobo bakho kunye nabo osebenza nabo embhedeni wethu."
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