Ngubani othandayo, uyazi-ukuvakalelwa akunakuqondakala. Uhambo olunjalo lomphefumlo, olovuyo olungenangqiqo alukwazi ukuba nolunye uhlanga. Ngenxa yokuba kulula ukubona ukuba uyayithanda okanye ayikho. Kodwa yintoni iinguqu kunye nendlela, ukuba uthando lwakho aluhambisani?
Oo, into eninzi iyatshintsha! Ngokukodwa xa sele ivele iyacaca. Ngethuba nje ithuba lihlala lide ukudala ukungahambi kakuhle nokuphila ngokuzikhohlisa, umntu unokuziva enomdla ngandlela-thile. Kodwa ingaba njani, xa zonke iimpawu ezingaphezulu kwe "kwaye" sele zibekiwe, kwaye akukho nto inokuthi, akukho nethemba? Indlela yokusinda kule nkwenkwezi, indlela yokuphila? Indlela yokukrazula iimemori kunye nokukhathazeka okubuhlungu kunye nentlungu, ukuyibamba intliziyo?
Bambalwa abantu abaya kukholwa, kodwa kukho iresiphi elungiselelwe. Kuyaziwa ngexesha elidlulileyo, lilula kwaye lincomeko ngexesha elifanayo. Kulula, kuba kucacile oko kufuneka ukwenze. Kwaye kunzima kuba kunzima ukuzinqoba. Enyanisweni, umbuzo, ukuba ulungiselelwe ngoko-ungathandabuzeki uthando: ungayilahla njani? Akulunganga. Ewe, uthando aluhluthwanga, kodwa akufanele ulilahle. Kungcono ukulahla isimo sengqondo esingalunganga kuye.
Okokuqala, yintoni uthando? Umbuso womphefumlo, obonakaliswa ngumoya wolonwabo nolonwabo. Ngoko kutheni ukulahla? Ngaba kukho nabani na ongafuni ukuvuya? Ngesizathu esithile, akwanele ngoku ozibuza yona lo mbuzo. Ukuba uthando aluphelelwanga, ngokukhawuleza kubhalwe ngokuthi "uthando olungathandekiyo." Kwaye kungenxa yokuba uthando lwakho lugqithisa kwaye ludlula yonke into. Kwaye kuninzi kangangokuthi ihlala ingabonakali into engacacile yegama - ukuba uthando luyolonwabo, ngoko unonwabo njani?
Enyanisweni, uthando olungathandekiyo aluyenzeki. Kukho kuphela ukuchazwa okungalunganga kokuziphatha komthandi okanye umthandi, oku kuthetha ukuvakalelwa. Zonke ithemba, ukulindela kunye nomzekelo wekamva elivuyisayo kuya kudibaniswa kunye nalo, ngaphandle kokuvumela nayiphi na enye into. Kodwa ngokwenene ngumnye umntu, kunye neemvakalelo, ubundlobongela kunye novelwano. Yaye ukuba intliziyo yakhe ingeyenawe, yintoni iphoso lakhe? Ingaba nguwe owawakha indlu enqabeni? Enyanisweni yokuba usenothando, nangona uthando, kwaye alulungele ukuthatha "akukho" ngokuphendula?
Cinga ngolu hlobo, ingaba unene "iqela elibi", elihlala kuphela ukuba ufanele uzihawukele? Yintoni yatshintshile kwi nyaniso yokuba uyifumene inyaniso - uthando lwakho lujoliswe ukuba luhlukane? Uqale ukuthanda ngaphantsi?
Ndikholelwe, abantu abanothando ngokunyanisekileyo abayidingi nto. Bayazi kakuhle kakuhle inyaniso elula kumbono - ngokuthanda into ephambili ayikufumani, kodwa ukunika. Yingakho kulula kakhulu ukuvuyiswa: uthando kwaye ungalindeli nto ekubuyeleni. Emva kwakho konke, uvakalelo lwenu uthando olufumaneka kubantu luvuyo olukhulu.
Ngaba ugula ngenxa yothando olungathandabuzekiyo? Zama ukucingela okwesikhashana ukuba into yakho yokubonga idlulile ngokukhawuleza ngonaphakade. Uza kuziva ntoni xa uyenza le nto? Ukuba akukho nto okanye ukhululo, ke ikliniki, njengoko ithethayo, icacile - awuzange uyithande, ngako konke oku kuya kutshatyalaliswa nje ngeempumlo. Yaye ukuba intliziyo igxile kwaye iphenduke ibanda, ukuba ingcinga "akukho, kungekhona oku!" Wazalelwa, ngoko unako ukuthokoza - uthando lwakho luyinyani, luyomelele kwaye lunzulu. Kwaye, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba ukuba unoyolo kuphela kufuneka ukwazi ukuba intanda yakho inxalenye ethile apha apha kule planethi. Uphilile, uphilile, uyonwabile, kwaye nangona ukuba unonwabo awunamniki. Into eyona nto kukuba unothando olungabikho mntu unokususa.
Ukuba ukhangele yonke into esuka kule ndawo, uya kugqitha into oyiqondayo, ngoko uya kuphinda ubhalise ngokukhawuleza uze ubuyele kwihlabathi lonwabo nolonwabo. Enyanisweni, abo bawela kwixinzelelo okanye bazame ukuzibulala ngenxa yothando olungathandabuzekiyo, bezama ukukrazula ukubandezeleka-enyanisweni, abantu ababuthathaka kunye ne-egoists. Ulonwabo lwabo kubo lubaluleke ngaphezu kothando, luleke ngakumbi kunonwabo lomthandayo.
Kodwa awunjalo, kunjalo? Uyazi ngoku i-iresiphi yolonwabo olungapheliyo - lulula kwaye lubonakaliswe ngeenkulungwane. Kwaye kufuneka nje uzincede-ufunde indlela yokuthanda ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokuzithemba, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni na kwaye kuya kuba nantoni na. Yaye le ndlela yindlela elula kunye neyona ndlela iphumelelayo yokukrazula uthando olungenakunqwenelekayo, oluyindlela nje yokonwaba.