Umtshato ongalinganiyo: ukuba umntu udala kakhulu

Uthandana nawe ngaphandle kwenkumbulo: ulala ngezipho, ekumema kwiindawo zokutyela ezilungileyo, uzibeka ekuphumleni kwiindawo zokungcebeleka. Unako ukuthetha ngazo zonke iingxaki zakhe - uya kuphulaphula, aqonde kwaye anike iingcebiso ezilungileyo. Ububele bakhe, ukunyamekela nokubona kwangaphambili kukuphumelele intliziyo yakho: Ukulungele ukutshata ngomso. Ewe, emva kwakhe njengodonga lwamatye! Kodwa indlela yokuxelela abazali ukuba ukhethwe iminyaka engama-20 ubudala? Ngokuqinisekileyo, wena ngokwakho uyaqonda ukuba umtshato ongalingani unobungozi obuninzi. Ngoko ke, kungcono ngoku ukuba ulinganise "kunye" kunye "nokuchasene" kunokuba emva kokuzisola ngokubuhlungu ubomi obunzima.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umba wokungalingani kwemitshato unengxabano. Inomdla yamadoda avuthiweyo kumantombazana amancinci iyaqondakala: ngexesha elithile lonyaka ukuyeka ukuphefumlela. Ulungelelaniso oluhlukileyo, ngelixa elilandelayo-isidalwa esincinci esithokozelayo esinomphunga omtsha kunye nomfanekiso omangalisayo. Le ndoda ivakalelwa bhetele ngakumbi: ibona ulutsha lwesibini, luvela kumntu oqinileyo, umalume omdala ukuya kwindoda enesimo esihle esithempileni zokuqala.

Nangona kunjalo, eneneni, abaninzi abameli besondo esomeleleyo batshata intombi enyulu ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwabo. Oku kwenzeka xa umntu ezama ukufakazela ukuba usese-go-go! Kwaye banako ukufumana uthando kunye nentombi.

Kwakhona kwenzeka nangenye indlela. Indoda ifuna ukuba yintloko yentsapho, kodwa ngenxa yobume bakhe, uyesaba ukuba emtshatweni nomntu onamaqabane, uyakwazi ukuthatha inxaxheba yentsapho.

Kwiimeko ezinjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo sele ekhona namava-mhlawumbi ayenaye kuphela - kungekhona umtshato ophumelelayo kunye nomfazi oneminyaka yakhe. Emva koko uthatha intombazana encinci njengomfazi ukuba azive eyinkosi epheleleyo, eya kuthotyelwa kwaye ayiyikuphikiswa.

Amanye amantombazana afana namantombazana asele
Ngoku makhe sibone ukuba kutheni amantombazana amantombazana athatyathwa kubazalwana, abafanelekile ngoobawo. Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela ingxaki yengqondo yintombazana efuna umntu onokumnqula kwaye ngubani onokumnakekela. Ayikho imfihlelo yokuba ngaphezu kweminyaka, amadoda ahlala ehle kakhulu kwaye abe nekhangayo ngakumbi: uzinzo lwezimali, amava afika, umntu uyazi indlela yokubonisa amandla akhe ngokufanelekileyo kunye nokukhanya. Oku, kunokwenzeka, kunokutsala ubuhle obutsha. Ukongezelela, ukutshata nomntu oye wenzeke kunokuyichukumisa kunye neziganeko zentsapho. Ngokomzekelo, xa intombazana ihlukanisa, uyise uhlala eshiya ukunakekelwa okwaneleyo kuye. Kwaye ukungabi naluthando, uzama ubuncinane into enokuyihlawula. Intombazana izama ukufumana umntu onokumthabatha uyise, kwaye uyifumana ebusweni bakhe. Okanye, nithi, intombazana yedwa umntwana kwintsapho kwaye isengumzali kubazali, intombazana efuna ukukhuselwa kuzo zonke iindleko. Abazali bakhulisa intombazana kwiimeko zokunyusa. Ngenxa yoko, ukwesaba kwinqanaba elincinci lokulahlekelwa lo mgcini. Kwiimeko ezinzima, uyavuma ukuhamba phantsi kwephiko lomyeni wakhe. Kodwa akusiyo yonke inontanga eya kuba nakho ukunakekela kunye nokuthuthuzela okufanayo: indoda enokukwazi ukuthatha indawo yabazali bayo kufuneka ibe ubuncinane ubuneminyaka engama-20 ubudala. Yilapho i-intlanzi yenkqubela yexesha elizayo ikhona. Emva koko, indima "yentombi" ayikwazi ukuhlala ngonaphakade. Umfazi osemncinane uya kuphuma emva kwangoko okanye kamva. Umfazi omncinci uya kufuna ukuhamba phambili, ukukhula nokukhula, abe ngumlingani olinganayo kwintsapho yakhe, kwaye angayithobeli indoda yakhe ngaphandle kokuba nelungelo lokuvota.

Ulwaphulo lomdla
Intombazana ikhula, indoda ikhula, kwaye kunzima ukuba bahlangane. Ingxaki enkulu "yomtshato ongalingani" ngumlinganiselo ongeyena kwiminyaka, njengokuba kubonwayo, kwinkcubeko yokukhuliswa, ekuthandweni, kwimilinganiselo, ngokubhekiselele kubomi. Ngamanye amaxesha intombazana ifuna ukuya kwi-cinema, kwiqela elimnandi. Umyeni omdala olula ukuhlala ekhaya aze ahlale ethule okanye phambi kweTV, uqala ukuziphatheka njengomntwana: - "Oo, undenzele ukuba ndibone! Ewe, ndikhulile kakhulu kuwe. " Kwaye ndiyabuhlungu kuye, kwaye nam ngokwam ...

Ngoko ke, ukuba uya kutshata nendoda endala kunakho, kubalulekile ukuthetha ngezinto zonke kwangaphambili - ukuze ungayigxina ububi obungalunganga, kunye neqabane lakho. Ngaba nonke nithanda kwaye niyahlonela ngokuthandana kunye neminqweno yomnye nomnye?

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Unoyolo nokuba yintoni
Nangona kunjalo kukho imimiselo eyaneleyo yemitshato ephumelelayo phakathi kwabantu abanomlinganiselo omkhulu weminyaka. Ngaphezu koko, iyakwazi eyahlukileyo kwingcamango yentsapho. Ngamanye amaxesha abatshatileyo bayonwabile xa umfazi ejongene nokugcinwa kwendlu, ngumama kunye nomgcini wendlu. Okanye umtshato wabantu abanjengabantu abanjengobangela obufanayo. Kodwa nantoni na umtshato, ukuba kukho umda omkhulu kwiminyaka ekuthandeni umlingane, oku akunciphisi ubuncinci inani leengxaki, kodwa uyongeza.