Yintoni ongayilindela kwixesha elizayo, ukuba uyaphupha malunga nendlela inyoyi ishukusa ngayo?
Ukuba ingqondo yakho uye watyelela iphupha apho uvakalelwa kukugqithisa kwezinyo okanye eziliqela ngokukhawuleza, ke lo mqondiso ungachazwa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Konke kuxhomekeke kubulili bakho, luhlobo luni lwezinyo, indlela ozive ngayo ngexesha elifanayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le mifanekiso yokulala ihlala ilumkisa malunga nokudakalisa kwezempilo, malunga noko kufuneke kwenziwe ingqalelo. Ukongezelela, emva kokuba iphupha likhona ingozi yokuba yiqela kwiDPT. Akukwacetyiswa kwakhona ukuba ungene emva kwevili, nokuba ngaba ungumqhubi onamava kwaye unethemba. Ukuba ephupheni onke amazinyo ayengaqinisekanga, ke ulindela iziganeko eziza kubangela ukwesaba nokungaqiniseki kwimpilo eqhekezayo ekholileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Mhlawumbi, isibonakaliso esinjalo sinokubonisa ukuba ubhekene nokukhetha okubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ungalindeli ukugqiba. Ngendlela, ukuba ephupheni umgca wecala eliphambili lugxininisekile, ngoko oku kungabonisa ukugula okukhawuleza kayihlo, ophantsi-uxanduva lomama. Ngendlela, ngokweencwadi zephupha likaFreud, ukugxotha i-incisors kungabonisa ukwesaba okulahlekelwa ngumntu osondeleyo.
Kubafazi, loo mfanekiso wobuthongo ungathetha ulwalamano oluzinzileyo nolusondeleyo kunye nolunyulo lwakhe. Ukuba iinyo ekugqibeleni yaphuma-ithetha ukuhlukana. Ukuba owesifazane okhulelweyo ephupheni unamazinyo avulekileyo, kuthetha ukuba umntwana uya kuba neurotic and restless.
Ukuziva intlungu ephupheni kuyisimboli sezinyembezi. Unokuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo, ekhohlisiwe okanye ecatshulwayo, nangayiphi na imeko, kungekudala emva kokulala, uya kulila kakhulu.
Yithini inyolo efikayo yamadoda ephuphayo? Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mfanekiso ufika ngexesha apho impumelelo yezoshishino iqala ukuhla. Kwakhona eli phupha lizaliswe ngokungabalulekanga, kodwa ukulahleka okungonakaliyo, umonakalo kwipropati. Kukho ukuphikisana namaqabane okanye abaphathi. Ibinzana elincinci linganakuphazamisa ngonaphakade umntu.
Iyintoni inyolo ephumayo enegazi eliphuphayo?
Ngokwalo, igazi ephupheni luphawu lokuhlangana kunye nosapho okanye abahlobo abalungileyo. Kodwa ekubeni ibali elidlulileyo longezelelwe kulo mqondiso, lowo uphuphayo uya kubakho tyelela isihlobo okanye umhlobo. Ukuba uneli thuba lokutshiza amazinyo akho ephupheni, uzive ukuba zihamba njani kwaye ziphaphaza igazi ngexesha elifanayo, lo luphawu loncedo kumntu othandekayo. Inokwenzeka ukuba, lo mntu uya kufuna inkxaso yezemali nokuziphatha ngenxa yokuphazamiseka okubukhali kwimpilo, isifo okanye intlekele.
Ukuchazwa kwamaphupha malunga nezinyo ezithintekayo kudla ngokuqhagamshelana nommandla wethu osondeleyo, kunye nempilo yethu. Ngako oko, icebo elinjalo licacisa umntu ukuba acinge ngale miba ebalulekileyo yobomi. Ungayihoyi lo mqondiso kwaye yonke into iya kulungiswa!