Umtshato womtshato, ekuqondeni i-Wikipedia, umanyano womtshato obhalisiweyo kwaye ubhaliswe kwiibutho zamandla ezichaphazelekayo karhulumente, kunye noluntu (incoko) yonke indlela, ulwalamano olungabhalwanga lubizwa ngokuba ngumtshato womtshato. Ukususa abantu emanzini acocekileyo, siza kuthetha ngomtshato womtshato njengento engafanelekanga, "angagxininisi" ubudlelwane.
Yintoni umtshato womtshato kumntu?
Kwiimeko zeengqondo zethu, kwiimeko ezininzi, umtshato womtshato uba ngumgangatho wabasetyhini abanokuzithoba kunye namadoda angakhathazeki ngokuxanduva olukhulu. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo ngokwezengqondo? Ibhinqa elithatha iimeko zomtshato womtshato, i-priori iyavuma ukuba yanelisekile encinci. Kwaye ukuba akavumelani, kufuneka afune okanye, ubuncinane, achaze loo mfuno. Indoda iyaqonda ukuba lo ngumbono wakhe wentsapho, kwaye uyabahlonela isikhundla sithandekayo aze atshate, okanye aphule ubuhlobo. Ukuba umfazi ubekezela kwaye ulinde, xa umntu ehamba ukummema kwisithsaba, ngoko, ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yiyo kwaye ungakulungeli ukulahla. Kuba amadoda abakhetha ukuhlala ngokukhululekile, kodwa ngaphandle kwembopheleleko, oku kuwuphawu lokuba umntu akanako ukuxina, kwaye uya kuhamba xa ibhinqa livumela ukuba lenze oku.- Ibhinqa ivumelana naye ukuba iphile ngokwemimiselo yakhe.
- Uluntu linciphise imilinganiselo yokuziphatha kwaye luthembekile kumtshato engabhalwanga.
- Ubundlobongela, ukutya, iingubo ezicocekileyo kunye nekhaya elihle lihamba kunye nebhonasi enomdla rhoqo.
- Ukungabikho kwezibophelelo ezisemthethweni kunye nenkululeko iyahlala ilungile ngokomthetho, ukuba kukho into ehambileyo okanye iyakhathazeka.
Abantu bacinga njani ngamava omtshato womtshato?
U-Eugene, oneminyaka engama-21, umfundi, amava omtshato womtshato iminyaka emine.Iingcamango zengqondo: Kwiyindoda eselula, kuyimvelo ukufumana amava kwaye ufunde ngowebuhlobo, funda ukwabelana ngesithuba kwaye uhloniphe iimfuno zomnye. Lo mkhuba wobomi bentsapho awusixabisi, kodwa ke uninzi lweentsapho zentlalo "yoluntu" luthiwa ngamava obuhlungu.IPavel, oneminyaka engama-25 ubudala, umprogram, amava omtshato womtshato iminyaka emi-5.
Iingcamango zengqondo: Inkululeko yinto ebalulekileyo kunayo indoda. Kodwa ukuba uyamthanda ngokwenene umfazi, uyesaba ukulahlekelwa kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ngelixa ezama, umntu ocebileyo uya kumfumana aze atshate, ngoko akukho, nokuba nomoya onamandla kakhulu ngaphandle, akanako ukummisa.USergei, 40, umatshini womoto, utshatile.
Iingcamango zengqondo: Ngokuqinisekileyo, isitampu kwipasipoti ayiniki naziphi na iziqinisekiso zokuziphatha, kodwa zilula izinto ezithile zomthetho. Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba kukho ukubonisa, abantu abanomdla kwixesha elide lobudlelwane balahlekelwa ngumdla kwintsapho engaqhelekanga ukuba ukubhaliswa komtshato akuqhubekanga kwiminyaka engama-2-3.
Izigqibo
Zonke izizathu eziqhelekileyo ezinokuthi zilungele umtshato womtshato ziyakunzima:- Kubalulekile ukuhlola ukuhambelana (ngocansi, ubomi, ukuthembeka). Kwaye abantu abahambelanayo kuzo zonke iinkalo banenkqubela. Ngaphandle kwabo, akunakwenzeka ukwakha intsapho eqinile.
- Simele kuqala "simi", uze utshate. Izibalo zibonakalisa ukuba ubudlelwane bosapho bubonelela ngesiseko esomeleleyo (inkxaso, ukuthatha inxaxheba, ukunceda, ukukhuthaza) ukuphumelela, kunokuba uphumelele kwedwa.
- Isitampu kwipasipoti yindibano. Mhlawumbi, kodwa ngaphezu kobudlelwane obuvulekile, luyalela kwaye lufundisa uxanduva. Kwaye kumantombazana amaninzi, isitampu isona kuphela indlela eyamkelekileyo yokwenza intsapho.
- Izihlobo azivumeli ukhetho. Iimbono zentsapho zihlala zibalulekile, kodwa ukuba umntu akanako ukukhusela uthando lwakhe, ngaba unokulindela ukuba uya kukwazi ukukhusela intsapho yakhe phambi kwezinye iingxaki?
- Umtshato uphathisa uthando. Amadoda athile acinga ukuba emva komtshato, i-princess iya kuba "irenkco", kuba injongo ifezekile, iyanconywa kwaye iyathandwa ngoku ayikho imfuneko. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba i-Tsarevich ayikho i-Fool, emva kwayo inkosazana iya kufuna ukuba yinkosikazi.