Uxinzelelo olufihlakelekileyo lubizwa ngokuba lukhuni. Kuvela xa siqaphela ukuqonda iimvakalelo, esicinga ukuba zihlazo okanye zingalunganga. Kuboniswa ukuba iimvakalelo ezinjalo zicacile kwaye zinamandla, kwaye zide zithe gqithwa ngaphakathi, kunzima kakhulu iziphumo.
Khawucinge nje oko kwenzeka ntoni xa umlilo ubeka isifuba esinomthi ositywinwe kuyo. Kulula ukuqagela ukuba kuya kwenzeka kuye ngexesha. Ekubeni kwenzeka into efanayo nomphefumlo wethu: iimvakalelo zibilisa ezivela ngaphantsi, iimvakalelo zentlalo (iwayini, ukwesaba okanye ihlazo) zixinzelela phezulu. Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba yile mvakalelo eyona yingozi. Bonakalisa ukuba ngubani umntu. I-voltage, iqhutywe ngaphakathi, iyanda kwaye iqokelele. Ngenxa yoko, emva kwexesha elithile kuqhuma ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, nto leyo inokukhokelela kwintliziyo yengqondo okanye ukuxinezeleka okukhulu.
Ngelishwa, phambi kweempembelelo eziwonakalisayo zengcinezelo, zihlala zingenakunceda. Kwaye konke ngenxa yokuba ayikwazi ukuqonda oko kwenzekayo emphefumlweni wethu nento esiyifunayo ngokwenene. Le yimiba eqhelekileyo yezinto ezinokuthi zenzeke kuwo wonke umntu.
Isimo 1. "Usuku ngalunye ukuya ephantsi"
Mhlawumbi intombazana yayibanjwe ngebhasi yinkampani yamadoda enxila eyayingenangqondo kwaye yahlula. Emva kwendoda encinci iza kuza kusebenza kwiimeko ezingekho kakuhle. Uya kukhwankqiswa kwaye athukuthele, angayithobeli kwaye ahlambe. Ngenxa yoko, ezinye iinkathazo ziyakwenzeka ngenxa yokuphazamiseka. Ngokomzekelo, endleleni eya ekhaya, unokuguqula umlenze wakhe, angene kwi-kork and so on. Oku kuya kwandisa imeko ngakumbi. Ukufika ekhaya, yonke intlungu leyo iya kuhlawula kwiintsapho. Kuzo zonke iimbuzo "Yintoni eyenzekayo?", Akukho mbuzo okhoyo. Ngoko kuya kuqala ukuqokelela ukuxinezeleka okufutshane.
Isimo 2. "Kufunwa Kancane"
Nantsi omnye umzekelo wobomi. Eli bhinqa lineminyaka engama-33 ubudala, kodwa engatshatanga. Kodwa unomsebenzi onzima. Ngexesha elifanayo, i-barmy kwaye iyingqiqo, inamandla kwaye inenjongo. Uyayithanda kakhulu, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ubudlelwane obunzulu abukhulanga. Wayengabonakali ukubonakalisa iimpawu zamava, kodwa wayekhathazekile ngaphakathi: wayeziva ukuba kukho into ephosakeleyo kuye, ukuba wayexutyushwa emva kwakhe, ukuba wonke umntu wayehleka ngenxa yedwa. Kwaye, xa ekugqibeleni, indoda ibonakale ngasentla, yatsho nje isandla kuyo yonke into: ithi, kutheni ndifanele ndiyenze oku, kum na omnye akubi. Emva koko, le ntombazana yahamba yaya kwelinye iprojekthi yoshishino.
Isimo 3. "Ndidlala, ndidiniwe, ndiyeka!"
Ebomini, kukho ezininzi iimeko ezingathandekiyo. Nantsi enye yezo. Ukukhulelwa kokuqala kwentombazana kwaphela. Ekupheleni kwekota, ukukhulelwa kwaphazamiseka. Kwaye ngoko ke intombazana ayifuni nje ukuzama ukuva okwesibini. Uhlutywa ngoloyiko kunye nokungathandabuzeki, kwaye ngokukhawuleza konke kwenzeka kwakhona. Kwaye nanko kuhlaziyekile: "Ndiyindoda kwaye andinakuyithwala into ebaluleke kakhulu - inomntwana". Kule meko, uxinzelelo lweengqondo luya kuba luxinzelelo olukhulu.
Isimo 4. "Ukuxilongwa okungalunganga"
Kwiminyaka engama-40 ubudala oogqirha basolisa isifo se-ecological. Ngokungakhathali, bamxelela ngaye. Emva kokunika iimvavanyo eziphindaphindiweyo, loo ntokazi yaqonda ukuba ukuxilongwa akuqinisekanga. Kodwa ngoku kwincinci yakhe kuya kuhlala kucinga ukuba ngokugqithiseleyo oogqirha benza iphutha okwesibini. Eli qela laqala ukuva, lafuduka kubantu, laphuma kuye kwaye laqala nokuzibulala. Ingcinezelo enjalo yengqondo iyingozi kakhulu.
Iimvakalelo ezithintekayo
Uxinzelelo olufihlakeleyo, oluhlangene nolunye lwamalungu entsapho, luyakuchaphazela yonke imizi. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zabonisa ukuba abantu abasondeleyo bangaqala ukuphucula: uxinzelelo lwexinzelelo, iintloko, iintliziyo ezingavumelekanga, ukuhlaselwa kwe-vegety dystonia, ukungasebenzi kwemetabolism, njl. Kodwa kwintsapho, iingcinezelo ezifihliweyo kulula kakhulu kwaye zonyango. Indlela elula kukuba uvule phambi kwamalungu entsapho kwaye ubatshele yonke into eqokelelwe ngaphakathi kwakho.
Ulaka, kuba ibhola
Ngokuqhelekileyo sigula ngenxa yokuba sifihlile uxinzelelo. Ngokomzekelo, izifo ze-thyroid zenza umntu abe nomsindo, evelele kwaye enobudlova. Abasetyhini banokuba neengxaki ngesisu kunye nokungazinzi. Ngaphambili umntu uyazi ukuba uyagxininiswa, ngcono. Isizathu sinokupheliswa ngokukhawuleza, into eyona nto kukukuqonda. Kanye kunye ne-sostressom kwaye uhamba nomoya ongekho, ukucaphuka, ukunganeliseki. Ukubuyiselwa kunye nokuthula kwintsapho.
Ndinganceda njani?
Kunqabile kakhulu ukuba siye kwi-psychologist. Ngokuqhelekileyo, sinokuqiniseka ukuba sikwazi ukujamelana noxinzelelo kunye neengxaki eziqokelelweyo. Kodwa akusiyo yonke into eyenzekayo. Kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba akukhona wonke umntu owaziyo ukwenza.
- Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba kukho uxinzelelo. "Ewe, ndiphumayo yonke imihla ngenxa yezidenge ezichitha ibhasi kwibhasi yam"; "Ewe, ndiziva ndibi kwaye ndiphosakele, kuba andinandoda." Kunzima ukuza kule ngcamango. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukwenza oku, kungcono kuwe.
- Qondisisa oko ufuna ngokwenene kwaye kutheni ufuna. Mhlawumbi awudingi intsapho nonke, awuyi kudalwa kule nto. Kwaye konke-uvelwano kuphela ngenxa yokuba awuhlangani nongcamango lwentlalo: bathi, umfazi ungumgcini wendawo, akafanele abe yedwa, kufuneka afundise abantwana njalo njalo.
- Ukulahlekelwa kakuhle ngento yintoni eya kwenzeka xa imeko exinzelelekileyo yakho ifinyelela kwisigqibo sayo esifanelekileyo. Umzekelo, awufumananga umyeni. Yintoni eya kwenzeka ngokwenene ebomini bakho, yintoni eya kutshintsha kuyo? Yintoni ekwayikisayo kule meko? Emva koko ke emva kokuba ugqibe isigqibo sokuba ingaba umthombo ungowakho nje, njengoko kubonakala ekuqalekeni.
- Fumana indlela ephephile yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Variantovizbavitsya yengcinezelo yengqondo kakhulu. Unokwenza imidlalo, ungakhwaza ngomcamelo okanye uthetha nomntu othandekayo, unokulala nje okanye uhambe eholide. Wonke umntu unokufumana indlela yakhe, into ephambili kukuba uqale ukukhangela.
- Fundisa ukwabelana ngamava akho nabathandekayo. Akunandaba nabani, nokuba ngabazali okanye umyeni. Abantu abaninzi bajwayele ukuthetha ngeengxaki zabo ngokungafani nabasemzini, umzekelo, oogqirha, abathengisi okanye abasebenzisana nabo. Kodwa ngokuxinzeleleka okungapheliyo oku kufunekiyo. Aba bantu abayi kukwazi ukunika inkxaso enobungane, okuyimfuneko kakhulu kwiimeko ezinjalo. Kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuba wamkele indawo yokujonga eyahlukileyo, kwaye ngelo xesha uya kuphelelwa ngumzimba kunye nokuziphatha. Khumbula ukuba ukwahlukana kwabantu abavela ngaphandle kuya kuholele ekucindezelekeni.
- Ukuba ezi ndlela zingentla zingenakunceda, qha ga mshelana ne-psychotherapist ofanelekileyo. Akukho nto ihlazo ngale nto. Abantu abaninzi basebenzisa iinkonzo zakhe. Ngethuba lethu, kunzima kakhulu ukujamelana nomthwalo wengqondo. Ngoko ke, kwezinye iimeko, uncedo lwezodwa luyimfuneko.
Khumbula ukuba sonke siyahlukileyo kwaye ngoko ke, wonke umntu ufumana uxinzelelo ngendlela yabo. Abanye bayahamba kunye nabahlobo, abanye bazivale kwaye bahluke kwilizwe langaphandle, kwaye abanye bavele baphosa yonke into baze baqhubeke behlala. Yingakho ekunyangeni kwengcinezelo engapheliyo, kubalulekile ukukhetha indlela eya kumntu ngamnye.