Kubonakala ngathi ukuqhawula umcimbi wemihla ngemihla, oye waba yinto eqhelekileyo kuluntu lwangoku. Kodwa oku kuphela nje ngombuzo womtshato womnye, ongenakwenzakalisa, awuyi kuphuma ngaphakathi kwaye akakwenzi ukuba ukhale ebusuku ebusuku. Xa umtshato uqhekeza kwisiqingatha sentsapho yawo, kuza i-apocalypse kunye nokuphela kwehlabathi. Kuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba emva kokuqhawula umtshato kukho ubomi apho kukho indawo yokuvuya, uthando kunye nolonwabo lwentombi. Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zithi kukho. Ukongezelela koko, nokuba yimeko enokungahoywa yinto yokwahlukana ingaba neyona nto ilahlekelwe yintliziyo, kunye nolwalamano kunye nendoda yangaphambili-buzisa ubuhlobo, okanye ubuncinane abuyi kuba yimfazwe ngamaxhoba amaninzi. Ukulula ukusinda umtshato kuya kunceda iingcebiso ezilishumi ezilula, kodwa ezisebenzayo ezivela kubaphathi beengqondo:
I-Tip 1. Qaphela kwaye uyamkele umtshato. Emva kwexesha elide lobomi bentsapho kunzima kakhulu ukuthetha nangengcamango eli gama elithi "umtshato." Kodwa ukuba livuthiwe, kufuneka libonwe, livakalise kwaye lenze. Ukungabaza apha kubalulekile kuphela kwiimvavanyo zokuqala zokuhlaziya "ubudlelwane. Ukuba isigqibo senziwe, zijwayele ukuba yinto entsha, apho ukwahlukana kungenakuphepha, okuba yinyaniso. Icebiso 2. Vala zonke iingcango uze utshise onke amabhuloho ukuze uhambe. Musa ukukhohlisa ukuba ubudlelwane buya kuvuswa xa beqala ukukutshabalalisa. Thatha le nyathelo kwaye uzinikele kunye neqabane lakho ithuba lokonwaba olutsha ngomntu omtsha. Cima nayiphi na indlela yokubuyela kuyo ukuze ungenayo isilingo sokungena emlanjeni owodwa okwesibini.
IBhunga 3. Landela i-adage: "Amehlo ayiboni - intliziyo ayibi." Ukucaphuka, ukuthukuthela aze aphinde amthiye indoda yakhe kwinkqubo yokuqhawula umtshato kwaye emva kokuqala emva kwakhe. Kodwa kungcono ukwenza oku ngaphandle kokutshatyalaliswa nokutshatyalaliswa. Ukugcina ubudlelwane obuphucukileyo kwixesha elizayo, xa kunokwenzeka ukuba unciphise umnxibelelwano nomntu osekude naye. Iimvakalelo ezitshatileyo azize ziqike Xa umphefumlo ubuhlungu, kulula ukuthetha kwaye wenze oko unokuzisola ngayo yonke impilo yakho.
I-Tip 4. Nikela indlela eya kwiimvakalelo. Musa ukubamba intlungu kuwe. Makhe aphume ngaphandle: khala, khala, ubethe izitya. Makube ngcono ukuba ube yinkonzo yomtshato, kungekhona intloko yomyeni wakho. Lahla ithuba lokucinga ngomsindo wakho. Makhe siphume kwizinto ezimbi ekhitshini lomhlobo, kwiforum kwi-intanethi, kumama wam ehlombe, kwi-psychologist yokwamkela okanye kwimihlathi, apho kuphela imithi neentaka zivakalelwa ngumsindo wakho. Kwaye ke, ngentliziyo ebandayo kunye neengqondo ezicokisekileyo, xubusha nomyeni wakho imiba yemigaqo yokuqhawula umtshato. I-Tip 5. Layisha ngokwakho ngomsebenzi. Ugqirha ogqwesileyo awona nje ixesha, kodwa usebenza. Gcwalisa yonke iminithi yobomi bakho ngaphandle komyeni onomsebenzi onokukukhupha uze ufikelele, xa uvuyiswa kakhulu ukubona umlotha. Kwaye njalo, kude kube nombono wokuwa komntu ubuncinci injongo yesibini.
Icebo 6. Khangela izinto ezithandwayo. Ukwahlukana kukhulula ixesha elide, elinokuthi lifanele lisetyenziswe ukuphumeza iphupha elidala, elibonakala lingabalulekanga ngenxa yengqesho yentsapho. Bhalisela ukudansa, uye kwiiklasi zokupheka, ufunde ulwimi lwangaphandle, fumana ilayisenisi yokuqhuba okanye ube ngumqeqeshi wokuqhuba. Inzondo entsha, umdla, umdlalo uza kukunika inxalenye enkulu yovuyo, ukuphefumlelwa nokuzimelela, apho unokufumana amandla okusinda emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Iseluleko 7. Ncedisa umntu obi ngaphezu kwakho ngoku. Intlungu yakho iyinto yonke, kodwa yedwa kuwe. Ehlabathini elikujikelezayo kukho abantu, mhlawumbi, ngoku ngokuphindwe kabini ngaphezu kobubi ngaphezu kwakho. Fumana lo mntu uze unike uncedo olunokwenzeka. Kusuka entliziyweni, ngaphandle kokulindela ukubulela nokukhulula. Phunyezwa ngamava akhe, ndincede ndifumane indlela yokuphuma okanye ukuphulaphula nje. Yiyiphi into enokuthi ungayi kuba ngumnye umntu. Ukunceda abanye, uphilisa intlungu yakho.
I-Tip 8. Musa ukuvalela kwaye ungadakwa neentlungu. Ukubandezeleka kuvunyelwe kuphela ukuba ngaba banexesha. Xa ugqoka "ukulila" ixesha elide kunye nomnye umfazi oye waya kwelinye ubomi kunye nomnye umfazi, oku kuba yindlela yakho yobomi, ekhula ibe yinto evamile. Emva kokukhawuleza kwezinyembezi, uzixelele kwisiqwenga somhlobo osondeleyo waza wadla kwiindlovu zeendlovu, wabuya unentloni. Uphuma kunye nabahlobo bakho ekukhanyeni, hamba amakhowe, uhambe ukuloba, uhambo. Bonisa ihlabathi ngokwawo kwaye uzenzele ithuba lokuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha abangakuvuyisa. Iingcebiso 9. Ndiyaxolisa. Funda ukuxolela. Ukuxolela, unceda kuqala oko, ngenxa yokuba intukuthelo nenzondo iyonakalisa kuqala kuyo yonke into yayo. Ukuxolela uya kunceda uqonde ukuba wonke umntu oye wangena ebomini bakho, utitshala. Kwaye kunzima isifundo, kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Ndiyabulela umyeni wakho (nakuphi na ubudlelwane, kukho into yokubonga) kwaye uyeke ngoxolo, ungavumeli ukugxotha ukungaziwayo. Ukuba umlingani wakho ufanele uhlwaywe ngenxa yesenzo sakhe, umoni uya kuyifumana, kwaye esi sifundo sakhe, karma yakhe nentlungu yakhe.
IBhunga 10. Khokela iqela labafazi abalahliwe. Ukuba ulawula ukuthatha inxaxheba kunye nomyeni wakho lula, ngokukhawuleza ukunqoba yonke into ehambelana novavanyo loqhawulo-mtshato, yabelana ngolwazi oluxabisekileyo kunye nabasetyhini abafumana ubuhlungu bokuhlukana. Ingxaki yokulwa neengxaki zomtshato isondela kunye kwaye iyomelele, iqiniseke ngakumbi, ikhuphe. Zincede kwaye ubuhlungu buhlungu ukuwa kweentsapho zabasetyhini ukuqonda ukuba ubomi obonwabileyo emva kokuqhawula umtshato.