Sonke safuneka sive ukuhlambalaza kwidilesi yethu kwaye simangaliswe asizange sazi indlela yokusabela ngayo ngokuchanekileyo. Qalisa ukuba ungenangqondo okanye ukukhala ngenxa yokuphosa. Iingcali zethu zengqondo zinika iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nendlela yokuphendula ngenyameko kumntu owenze umgwenxa. Inika umzekelo wemibandela eya kukunceda ukuba uphume kwiimeko ezingamnandi.
Indlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukuhlambalaza
Okokuqala, makhe sithethe ngeentlobo ezininzi zokuphendula ngokuchanekileyo.
Ukuthobeka
Musa ukuthobela eli qhinga, kuba, njengokuba uyayazi, umoni lowo uhlala eyaneliseka xa ebona ukuba into yakhe yokulahleka okanye ukubandakanyeka kwimpikiswano. Bonisa umonakalo ongenakuchaphazeleka ngombono wakhe kwaye uyamangalisa nje ngokunyaniseka kwakhe. Ukuba uhleli ekhompyutheni okanye wenza umsebenzi wenyama ngaphandle kokujonga phezulu, cela: "Ngaba unenkinga?" okanye "Uthetha nam?" Ukuphendula okunjalo kwiimeko ezininzi kuncitshisa ukushisa komoni, kuba amazwi akhe awazange alethe iziphumo ezilindelekileyo. Ngaphezulu, yonke into: uza kufumana igama lomntu onobuqili, ozolile kwaye othembekileyo. Ukuphendula ngokuzithoba ngokuhlambalaza kuthetha ukuba ungayi kumgangatho we-boor.
Aikido
Asinakulisi ukulungiselela ukulwa nokubandakanyeka ekuhlaselweni. I-Aikido - indlela yokusebenza kwengqondo yokuguqulela ukungabikho komfaki we-interlocutor kuye. Kukho amaxesha apho ibhola lingagqithwanga kwibinzana elinye okanye phambi kobambiswano olupheleleyo lihlazisa wena, kwimeko enjalo ayiphendulwa nto - ayiphutha. Kufuneka ukhuse imbeko kunye nesidima sakho, akunjalo? Sebenzisa ubuchule be-Aikido, oko kukuthi, mbulela umdibaniselwano ixesha elichithwe libonisa ukusilela kwakho. Mxelele ukuba awuyi kuyenza into enjalo kuye, kuba awukhathaleli. Qinisekisa ukuba iimpendulo zakho aziyikratshi, kufuneka ubonise inzululwazi efanayo, esathetha ngayo kumhlathi odlulileyo. Ukuphelisa intetho ngombhalo oza kucinga ukuba uphazamisekile apha namhlanje kwaye uzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuzilungisa. Njengomthetho, ukuphendula okunjalo kukuphazamisa i-boor, kwaye onke amangqina omzabalazo aya kwamkeleka ngaphandle kwakho!
Zanudlivost
Ukuba ungobuchule obuphezulu kunokuba umxhaphazi wakho (kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka), ungangena kwiindlela eziphathekayo zobunzima. Ngokomzekelo, i-boor ikutshela: "Unayo imfucuza etafileni, njengokungathi uguqukile kwihagu ...", phendula le ngcikivo ngalokhu: ngezobugcisa, iDarwin yabonisa ukuba iihagu azingekho kwi-Homo Sapiens emva kwekhulu leshumi elinesithoba. Ndiyakunika incwadi malunga nayo ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka nokufumana idatha efanelekileyo. "Vumelani, le mpendulo iphakamisa amanqaku omphulaphuli aze ambeke kwindawo engafanelekiyo!
Ukungayithobeli
Akuyena wonke umntu onokunyamekela ukuhlaselwa, kwaye akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ukugxekwa kukuncinci kangangokuthi ufuna nje ukugubha, bathi, yintoni umntu osisidenge nombi lowo mntu ngokwenene. Musa ukuzibamba! Ukubonakalisa, ekuphenduleni ukunyaniseka kwesimo esifanelekileyo, bonisa ukuba awuchukumiswanga ngamazwi amnandi, ngaphezu koko, awuthathi ngokubaluleka. Musa nje ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza, ungayithuki ngokubuyisela, yiloo nto ibhegi elindele kuwe.
Into ongayidingiyo, phendula umxhaphazi:
- ukuphendula ngokunyaniseka ngokunyaniseka
- ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho kumnxibelelwano
- bonisa ubuthathaka, ukhale
Ukuba kude kube ngoku ungacingi malunga nokuziphatha kwakho kwiimeko ezixinzeleleyo, ungadinga ixesha lokuqeqesha. Buza umntu osondele kuwe ukuba afane neemeko ezininzi zeempikiswano kwaye uzame kuwo amaqhinga okuphendula ukunyaniseka esikunike yona.
Indlela yokuzikhusela kwaye ungayi kulila, funda apha .
Indlela yokuphendula ngokuhlambalaza ngokuchanekileyo, ngobuqili kunye nobuhle
Kwaye ngoku kukho amagama athile anokukunceda ukuphendula ukuhlambalaza ngobuqili, ngokuhle kwaye ngokuhlekisa:
"Ndixolele, ngaba bonke?"
"Ndibe nombono ongcono kuwe"
"Ukunyaniseka akuhambelani kakhulu"
"Ngaba ulindele impendulo entle okanye inyaniso?"
"Kutheni uzama ukubheka ngakumbi kunokuba unguye?"
"Njengawo wonke umntu, ndineentsuku ezimbi." "Musa ukucaphukisa, yonke into iya kulungeleka"
"Ewe, ke, gqithisa. Makungabikho inhlanhla ecaleni lakho" (xa umntu ekhwela ngaphandle komgca)
"Kubonakala ukuba le nxaxheba ayihambisani nawe." Ufuna ntoni ngempela? "
"Ndiyabonga ngokubonisa umdla kum umntu wam"
Ngaba ufuna ukucaphukisa? Yintoni na?
"Ukunyaniseka akuyimfuneko."
Ngoku uyazi indlela yokuphendula ngokuzithobayo, ngokucokisekileyo nangengqiqo ukuhlambalaza. Ngokuthobeka sinqwenela ukudibana nekhondo lokuphila!