Umfazi ususa njani inkosikazi: Isikhokelo esiSebenzayo

Ngoko weza ... imeko, malunga neyiphi ifilimu eyenziwa, bhala ama-anecdotes kwaye usasaze amahemuhemu. Uhluphekile, uhlwempu! Umyeni wakhe uhamba, kodwa uyazi! "- uva emva kwakho emva kwelizwi lenceba labamelwane abanesiqiniseko sokuba unobungcwele obungcwele obuyakhohlisa indoda. Kwaye akude ube "lula," kunye nenyaniso yokuba iqabane lakho linkosikazi, kuba awuyiyo imfihlo. Nangona, xa bekuyimfihlo, kwakulula. Into ongaziyo ayikho. Kodwa ngoku uyazi, kwaye, kuya kuvela, ukujamelana neengxaki "zokushiya okanye ukuhlala" kunzima kunokuba kuhlangane kunye nokuqonda ukuba indoda ethandekayo iyatshintshayo. Ngoko hamba okanye uhlale? Kwaye, mhlawumbi kunjalo, kukho indlela engenabuhlungu yokuba intsapho ilahle umfazi, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukusuka kwintlekele engenziyo?

Ubugcisa bemfazwe nenkosikazi yakho

Indlela elolo hlobo, uthi umviwa wesayensi yengqondo, umbonisi weTV, umbhali kunye nomfazi onobulumko uLarissa Renard. Wakhela isikhokelo sakhe esicwangcisekileyo sokuphelisa umlingani aze abuyisele umlingane kwisifuba sentsapho ngokuvumelana nokuzikhethela kwakhe. Iworkshop iye yavavanywa ngamawaka amabhinqa emhlabeni jikelele kwaye ineempendulo ezintle kunye nokubonga ngokunyanisekileyo ngokulondoloza intsapho. ULarissa akathembisi ukuba kuya kuba lula. Njengoko bethetha, to la guerre comme à la guerre. Kuthatha amandla amaninzi, umonde nobulumko. Nangona kunjalo, oku kulula kakhulu kunokuqokelela intliziyo ephukileyo kunye nokuzithemba.

  1. Ukukhululwa kwezikhalazo
Uyakhumbula umhla apho bahlanjululwa kwimfihlelo yendoda yakhe baza bathabatha indawo esemthethweni kwintandlululo - indoda, inkosikazi yakhe kunye nawe? Kakade, khumbula! Kwakungekho olunye usuku uya kulibala ukutshatyalaliswa, ukungqineka kwangaphakathi nokungavumelani nale meko yemiba. ULarissa Renard uchaza ukuba, ngokomthetho, le meko ihlala kwiintsuku ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-7, kwaye iyona yingozi kunazo zonke kule "mfazwe" yonke, njengoko inokulahleka ngaphandle kokuqala imfazwe. Iqhinga kufuneka libe ngolu hlobo:
  1. Thatha ixesha lokuhamba. Zama ukuhamba iintsuku ezimbalwa, phantsi kweengcamango ezicacileyo, ukusuka kwindawo eqhelekileyo kunye nomyeni wakho - kunyoko, umhlobo, kwi-dacha. Uzakufuna iintsuku ezimbalwa ukukhala ngokukhawuleza, uhlazeke, uzizisole ungonwabi kwaye uvumele i-psyche ukuba ikhulule ngokweenkathazo kunye nobugwenxa.
  2. Sebenzisa umsetyenzo osebenzayo we "Ukuhleka neenyembezi." Eminye ihafu yeyure:
    • iinyembezi ngokukhala okukhulu kunye nokumangalelwa;
    • ukungena ekuphumleni;
    • ukuhleka (iingoma, iingoma ezihlekisayo).
    Nokuba ukuhleka ngokunyanzela kuyakwazi ukukhulula kumnqweno wokutshabalalisa nokutshabalalisa.
  3. Yenza umsebenzo "Ukuxhamla kwintlungu." Qaphela iimpazamo ozenzileyo kubuhlobo, kodwa qaphela ukuba isizathu asikho nje. Njalo bobabini bayasoliswa. Indoda iya kwelinye kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uyisibi, uyisiyatha okanye ungenayo isondo. Iinjongo zihlala zinzulu. Makhe sibone. Okwangoku, buyela kwintsapho.

  1. Ukunyamezela okuqinisekileyo
Kwaye akunjalo ngomzekeliso. Ukugcina imeko engathandekiyo yomfazi onomdla kunye nomninimzi kunye nokuqonda kwimeko, kuya kuthatha iimbilini zensimbi kunye neenyanga ezili-2-3 zexesha. Ngeli thuba, ungabaleki ukwenza izigqibo ezinobunzima. Musa ukwehla kwi-spyware kwaye ungayi kubeka iliso ifowuni nomyeni wakho. Zinike ngeli xesha ukuvuselela: uzinzo-ntlupheko endlwini, ukunambitha kwiitya, ubuhle ngokwalo. Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba ukuba imeko ibuhlungu kwaye umyeni wakho uya ku "mbulela" ukugxekwa kwakho. Phendule oku kungabi ngenyameko, kodwa ngqalelo. Yenza amehlo neendlebe. Zonke "iingxaki" zakho zithetha isidima somdlali wakho. Ngoku uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kutheni usebenza kumphathikazi wakhe. Hlaziya, khumbula kwaye ufikelele kwizigqibo, kodwa ungenzi ngokwakho. Zama ukungakhethi. "Kuthiwani xa ehamba?" - unomdla. Ngaphandle. Amadoda awanqunywanga njengoko ucinga. Indlu ehlelwe kakuhle, ipropati, abantwana, idumela lihlala liqinile. Into ephambili kweli xesha ayiyikukwenza amahlazo kwaye angamqumbisi ukuba aqoke izinto kwiimvakalelo. Musa ukujika indlu ibe yimfazwe. Kulula kakhulu ukushiya amanxuwa kwaye ufumane indawo efanelekileyo yobumbaleki. Kungcono unike ingqondo yakho "ukutya" ngesihloko: ngaba uyayifuna loo myeni? Mhlawumbi lixesha lokuba uqale umthandi, okanye umyeni ongcono? Ukuba akunjalo, qhubeka uhlupheka, kwaye uthembele inqubo eqinisekisiweyo.

  1. Utshintsho
Faka phakathi kwakho intombazana enomdla, owawunjalo kwinqanaba lexesha le-candy-bouquet kunye nomyeni wakho:
  1. Ukumkelwa. Kuyamkela ngokunyanisekileyo. Nabani na, nokuba ngumntu ongenakufanelekanga, unamakhono kunye nezakhono onokumthanda. Fumana.
  2. Nceda nceda. Musa ukususa kumyeni wesiko ukuba ulungele: ii-shirts, ikhefu okanye umbono ohlangeneyo weHockey. Qhubeka uqaphela iimfuno zakhe.
  3. U mbulelo. Yibulela umyeni wakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ikamva lakho liye laphuhliswa njani, unesidluli esidlulileyo, ibali lakho, apho kwakukho uvuyo olukhulu. Yibulele kwaye uyabulela yonke into yokuba, nangona uthando olutsha, luqhubeka luyenzela intsapho yakho.

  1. Mfundisi
Abaxakeli bonke babizwa ngokuba yizilwanyana. Azingenakulinganiswa, ngobuqili, eziphathekayo, ezingavaliyo, eziphathekayo kunye nezithandekayo. Mhlawumbi ugcine le bhar ixesha elide kwiintlalontle zentsapho, kodwa umkhwa owaziwayo uphazamisekile, kwaye uthando luye lwadla ubomi. Kufuneka ubuyele kwimvelaphi. Yiba kwakhona inkosikazi yomyeni wakhe. Ukwandisa iziqinisekiso zakho zothando nokubamba. Funda ubugcisa bezesondo, ukupompa izihlunu ezisondeleyo, bonisa ubuchule. I-sex skills iyona-anchor enamandla kakhulu egcina abantu. Ngaphezu koko, ungayisebenzisa ukubonakalisa umlingani owenene "inkosikazi" yile ndoda: shiya ngexesha lesondo emva komyeni wakho "uphawu" ngendlela yemirhubhe. Tshela umyeni wakhe ukuba kwenzeke ngengozi, kuba wayemkhulu!

  1. Nkosikazi
Wenza konke okuxhomekeke kuwe. Ngoku, thabatha indawo yokulinda ubukhosi kwaye umkhulule ngengqondo umyeni wakho. Ungumuntu okhululekileyo, kodwa uyazixabisa kunye nenkululeko yakho. Ukuba umyeni uyaqhubeka nokugijima "ngakwesobunxele", ke lixesha lokulibeka phambi kokukhetha: yena okanye mna (abantwana, indlu, ishishini, njl.). Kwi-95% yamatyala, amadoda ahlala kwintsapho kunye nomfazi ohlaziyiweyo. Ukuba umyeni wakho akahlali, mkhulule ngoxolo kwaye uzenzele ithuba lokudibana naloo mntu uya kukwazi ukonwabile.