Ngangaphi na unokubona umfanekiso xa indoda ene "grey grey" engenayo imbonakalo yembonakalo, ingqondo eqaqambileyo, okanye iitalente ezingaphezu kwemvelo zihamba ngokujikeleza, apho abafazi abaninzi banokuthi "badonsa". Wenza njani oku? Unokwenkqenkqeza ukuba ulobugqirha, kodwa ubuchule bemilingo abukwenzi nento. Ukuze ube yinto yokuncedisa umntu ofanelekileyo, njengoko izazi zengqondo zithi, nayiphi na inkazana inako. Phakathi kweendlela eziqinisekisiweyo, akukho zicwangciso zokulungisa ukubonakala, ukuzilungisa okanye indlela yokuphila enempilo. Ibhinqa elihle limele libe yinto yokuqala, kwaye ayikho ubuso obuhle, imilenze ende okanye isifuba esikhulu. Ngayo yonke imbonakalo, ngamnye umfazi ohloniphayo kufuneka abukele umzobo, abe ngumkhangeli, uhlambuluke kwaye ulungele kakuhle. Kuye ngeendlela eziza kukunceda ukuba zihle ukusuka ngaphakathi. Kwaye ubuhle obuya kubangela ukuba usebenze kwizithende zendoda engenakukhunjulwa.
I-Method 1. Yiba yinto engenakufikeleleka kwaye ingacaciseki
Emva kokuqhelana nomntu onomdla, kunzima ukumelana nomnqweno wokuzalisa ubomi bakhe bonke, mahlale uhlala kufuphi okanye ubuncinci kwindawo yokufikelela kwi-intanethi. Kodwa ukufikeleleka ngokupheleleyo ngenye yeeposiso eziphambili zabafazi othandweni. Ukuze onjalo ungaqhubeki. Akukho nto ingqiqo - zihamba. Yeka ukukhangela amadoda anjengawe, ngokukhawuleza ayiphendule imilayezo yakhe, umnxeba okanye ufowune kuqala kwaye kaninzi. Yakha isidingo somntu sokusombulula nokufezekisa. Yiya kumhla wokuqala, kwaye ukususela kwinqanaba leyesibini phantsi kweengcamango ezinzima. Ukuphazamiseka kwithuba elithile, uze ubonakale ngokukhawuleza uze umemele entlanganisweni, kodwa uyinqumle kwindawo enomdla kakhulu. Mxelele ukuba awunakulinganiseki kwaye akayi kuhlala ekhona xa ethanda.
Indlela 2: Yiba ngumntu
Amadoda agijimela kuphela abo bafazi abathi, ngaphandle kokubonakala, banokubakhokelwa ngamandla omntu kunye nehlabathi elithe tye. Zalisa ngezinto ezithandekayo, sebenza kwimikhwa yakho, imikhwa kunye nemvakalelo, thanda umsebenzi wakho kwaye wenze okuthandayo, ufunde ihlabathi elikujikelezayo kunye nehlabathi lakho, hlalutya, wabelane ngolwazi lwakho kwaye uphuhlise kwisikhokelo esikhethiweyo. Ngoko uba ngumntu onomdla ngaso sonke isikhathi, ufuna ukwazi ubunzulu bawo kwaye ufumane inyaniso kubo. Musa ukukhohliswa yingqina yokuba amadoda agijima kuphela ngenxa yobuhle. Ubuhle bupakishwa. Musa ukudukisa loo mntu kunye nomxholo, ube nomdla kuzo zonke iingqondo, umfazi, kwaye uya kufuna ukukutyhila ngokuphindaphindiweyo, njengesipho esilindele kakhulu.
Indlela 3: Ukuhlakulela nokuphuhlisa
Kufana nomtsalane ukhangela amadoda lawo mabhinqa abangazange ayeke ukuphuhliswa kwawo, anqobe iintlanzi ezintsha, aphule amaqhinga kwaye azi ukuba bafuna ntoni ebomini. Ukuba ucinga ukuba usuvele udale ubuntu kunye nomfazi ococekileyo-ogqwesileyo. Kodwa khumbula, ukuba umntu uyeka ukukhula, ngokukhawuleza uqala ukuhlaziya. Akukho ndawo ezinzile apha apha. Ukuba sele usuphumelele ukugqwesa ekusebenzeni kwakho, izinto ezithandwayo okanye nayiphi na enye indlela ekhoyo kuwe, khangela ezintsha. Kodwa ngaphaya kwemibono yokufezekisa akukho mfuneko yokuhamba. Unakekele ukwesaba kwakho, ubunzima, iimpawu ezimbi. Nantsi intsimi enkulu kunazo zonke ekuziphuculeni nasekuphuculeni iimpawu ezilungileyo. Kwaye ngokubanzi, yenza nantoni na oyifunayo, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, musa ukuhlakulela nokuzibona izakhono zakho, nokuba yintoni na.
Indlela 4. Phila ubomi obupheleleyo
Amadoda ayeke ukugijima emva kokuba abasetyhini babenze intsingiselo yobomi babo bonke. Indoda iyaxhalaba, ukuba umfazi uvala yonke into enomdla kuye, uchithe kuyo kwaye aphenduke isithunzi sakhe. Umthunzi womntu sele unayo, udinga ibhinqa elifuna ukudibanisa, elibeka ibha ephezulu kwaye lithanda yena ebomini bakhe. Akunyanzelwanga nangona kwindoda enomdla kakhulu ukuhlukana ngokukhawuleza ubudlelwane kunye nabahlobo, ukukhawuleza ukunxibelelana kunye nezihlobo okanye ukuzincama umsebenzi ozithandayo. Le ndoda ayinakuyixabisa loo mnikelo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyakuzonda yona. Hlela izinto eziphambili ebomini bakho. Nika umntu wakho indawo ebalulekileyo, kodwa kungeyona into ephambili. Ungavumeli ukuba lube luleke ngakumbi kuwe kunakho. Amadoda ayinakuyithanda kwaye agijime abo bafazi abazishiya ngokwabo kunye nobomi babo.
Indlela yo-5: Yiba mfana
Amandla ebhinqa kwizesini zakhe. Esi sikhokelo siphuhliswa kakhulu kumntu, kwaye kuya kuba budenge ukungayisebenzisi, ukufuna ingqalelo epheleleyo yendoda ayithandayo. Ukulala ngesondo akuthethi ukuba ngumfazi omhle onamafomu amahle kakhulu, kwaye akuchazi ukuba utshintsho lwearrhebhe yeengubo ezingaphezulu zeenkonkco. Ubundlobongela besifazane kwamehlo akhe, intambo yentamo yakhe, uvuyo lokugubungela iinqumlo zakhe, nokuba uthe wagqoke isambatho sesigodlo kunye nesigqubuthelo ebusweni bakhe. Lo ngumandla okhethekileyo! Ukuphuhlisa ubulili ngokusebenzisa ulwazi lobufazi bakho, ukuya kwiiklasi zokudansa zentlalo, ukuya kwii-training ezityhila ubulili besini, yenza i-yoga, zifumanise amathuba omzimba wakho onomdla, uyayithanda kwaye uyayinyamekela impilo kunye nobuhle bayo. Akukho mntu unokumelana nomfazi oqondayo kwaye uyazi indlela yokusebenzisa amandla obulili bakhe.
Indlela 6: Funda ubugcisa bokudlala ngothando
Ubuchule bokudlala ngothando buyakwazi ukuguqula nayiphi na indoda kumntu ongenamdla kwi "predator", elandela umkhondo. Ukhohlakali, kodwa ukunyanzeliswa kwemvelo kudala umntu ukuba athathe inyathelo, ukubiza, ukujonga iintlanganiso, ukwenza izigqibo. Nangona kunjalo, akunakwenzeka ukufunda ulwabelana ngothando ngokufundisa okanye kwincwadi. Ibhinqa ngalinye lineendlela zakhe zokulingwa. Mamela ubunjani bakho, vumela ukukulawula xa uxhulumana nomntu. Intuition ikuxelela ukuba ungaphila ukunika amanqaku omnxeba, apho ufuna "ukutshiza" ngokucacileyo ngamehlo akho, kwaye apho ulungisa khona iinwele zakho ngezandla okanye "ngengozi" thintela intendeni yomntu. Kithi, bafazi, ezi nkqubo zokukhohlisa zinikwa ekuzalweni, kwaye ukuba asifundanga ukuzisebenzisa ngokufanelekileyo, ngoko kubantu kuza kwenzeka okwenzeka kwiimmoth.