Kunzima kakhulu ukuba, xa ungeke uxolele, awukwazi ukubuyela, kwaye uyaqhubeka ukumthanda. Uyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukwenza njengoko akwenzayo. Mhlawumbi kuphazamisa umntu okanye wena ngenxa yeengxaki zentsapho, iingxaki kunye nokunye okuninzi. Uphinda njalo le nto njengemantra ukuxolela. Kwaye ke kufika ukuguquka, xa ukuqonda konke okwenzekayo kubandakanya i-shaft yesishiyagalolunye kwaye akunakukwazi ukuhlala nayo, kwaye ngaphandle kwayo kuyabuhlungu kwaye kungenanto. Uhlala ucinga ngokumxolela. Emva kwakho konke, awukwazi ukuthatha into efanayo ngesifo esisodwa, konke okulungileyo okukuko. Kodwa, ekubeni ungumntu onengqiqo, uyaqonda ukuba ukuba ubuya kuye, ukubandezeleka kuya kuqhubeka. Nangona, ngakolunye uhlangothi, xa lingekho, kubonakala ngathi unzima nakakhulu.
Enyanisweni, asiyiki ukulibala uthando. Sinoyika ukulibala zonke izinto ezincinci, zonke izinto ezizodwa ezibopha ndawonye. Kule minyaka, xa umntu esondele kuthi, siyanamathela kuye, simfunda. Siyazi ukuba uyayithanda, kwaye uyazizonda, siyazi indlela eya kuyenza ngayo kule nto okanye loo meko, siyazi ukuba kutheni engathuli kunye noko afuna ukukusho. Xa ulahlekelwa ngumntu onjalo, nokuba uya kuthanda, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuba buhlungu kuba umntu ngoku uya kukwazi, nokuba wena, okanye umntu oza kwenza okubi, kuba engazi. Nangona kunjalo, andifuni ukuqala kwakhona, ukuqala ukufunda nokuhlangabezana nazo zonke izihlandlo owake wazibona ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumtshato. Kodwa, eneneni, ngamanye amaxesha usadinga ukushiya ngasemva kwaye uqhubeke. Izikhumbuzo ezintle zihlala zihlala zethu. Akukho mntu unokuyithatha. Kwaye ukuba siqonda ukuba akusafanelekelanga ukuxolela, ngoko ke lo mntu akafanelekanga kwaye sifuna ukufumana enye. Nangona kubonakala ngathi kwesi siqingatha sesibini. Umntu ngamnye, izizathu zokwahlukana zingahluka. Omnye umntu uhlambalaza kwaye uyabetha, umntu uyamlahla, umntu uyaqonda ukuba akakwazi ukuhlala nomntu ongenathemba, kwaye uyaphawula ukuba intanda yakhe inzima kwaye ibhekane neentsapho zakhe kunye nabahlobo bakhe. Kwimeko nayiphi na, kwesi sizathu sizathu sokwahlukana. Unokuqiniseka njani ukuba konke kulungile? Enyanisweni, xa uxolela kwaye uyayiqonda ixesha elide, iingcinga ezinjalo azifihli ngokukhawuleza engqondweni. Ziyimiphumo yeembonakaliso ezide kunye namava. Ngoko ke, izigqibo ezinjalo zilinganiselwa kwaye zizilumko. Musa ukuzijezisa ngokwenza oko. Ewe, ngoku kunzima kuwe kwaye ukhumbule izinto ezintle ezenzekile phakathi kwakho, ukuqala kokuqala, iintlungu, ukuxhamla kunye namava. Ungazivumeli ukhulule kwaye udibanise kwimeko enjalo. Kwaye ukuba oko kwenzeka - kufuneka ukhumbule oko kwabangelwa ukuhlukana. Oku kwakungeyona into embi, kodwa izinto ezinzulu ongazikwazi ukuzidibanisa nazo, nangona ufuna. Ngoko ke, cinga ngabo ngokuqhelekileyo, nangona ezi zikhumbuzo zibangele umsindo. Kungcono ukuthukuthela nokuthuka umntu kunokuba umlilele ebusuku, ubambe ifowuni ezandleni zakho kwaye uzizonda ngokwenza oko kukhetha nokuphonsa umntu omhle. Kakade, ngokuqinisekileyo akubi, okanye kwakunjalo. Kodwa, okwangoku, ukuziphatha kwakhe kunene kakubi kwaye akumele ubekezele. Ngako oko, zihlala zihlala ezandleni, ungazivumeli ukubiza kunye nokubhalela kuye. Kufuneka ubambelele kwiinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala, kwaye yonke into iya kudlula. Ewe, ewe, kungekhona zonke kwaye kungekhona ngokukhawuleza, kodwa kuya kuba lula. Emva kwexesha, unokuba ngabahlobo, ukuba, ngokwenene, uyayifuna. Emva koko, kwenzeka ukuba umntu akahambisani nawe njengesiqingatha sesibini, kodwa, ngelo xesha, ungumhlobo omhle kakhulu, owamthanda ngokusesikweni. Ngoko ke, musa ukulahla ngokupheleleyo abantu xa uthando ludlulayo. Kodwa ukuhlaziya ubudlelwane obunothando, naye, alufanelekanga. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba ukuba ukwahlukana kwenzekile, kwaye kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ngokuphathelele umnqweno wakho nangemva kokucamngca ixesha elide, kuthetha kuphela ukuba konke kwenziwe ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuba ubuya kumfana, uza kuphinda aqale ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo kwaye imeko iya kuphinda. Kwaye uya kuphinda ubuhlungu, uza kuphinda uhlupheke kwakhona, uhlukane nalo. Ngako oko, le ntlungu ikulungele ukuhlala kunye, kwaye ayiyi kudla rhoqo. Qiniseka kwiinqununu zakho kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba umfana uya kutshintsha. Ewe, kukho iimeko ezinjalo, kodwa zodwa. Ngokwenene, umntu uzama nje ukuzenza ukuba utshintshile ukuze abuyisele umntu. Ukuba uyayenza okokuqala, udlala indima, kodwa ke yonke into iya kubuya ejwayelekile. Kuthatha ixesha elide ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntu ushintshile. Ngoko ke, nokuba unqumle ukubuyela, uya kufuneka ulinde ixesha elide kakhulu. Kodwa akuyiyo into yokuba kuya kwenzeka. Ngoko ke, musa ukuzimela ithemba, ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba yonke into iya kuvela njengoko ufuna. Vumela ukuba uphile, uqhube phambili uze wenze abantu abaqhelana nabantu. Ukuba umntu oshiye ngasemva ngumphefumlo wakho, kuya kutshintshwa kwaye ubomi buya kuzisa ndawonye. Kodwa, ukuba uthe wahlangana nje ukuze ube namava athile, ngoko akufanele unamathele ngezandla nangeenyawo zakho. Funda ukuba ungayeki iinqununu zakho, nokuba zibuhlungu kwaye zibuhlungu. Ubomi abuhlali kusinikela izipho, kodwa iimvavanyo azinikezwa nje. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uqaphele ukuba umntu akafanelanga uthando lwethu aze amvumele ahambe. Qiniseka ukuba nangona ngoku ukhathazeke ngenxa yesigqibo sakho, ngexesha uya kukwazi ukuba yintoni eyona nto ichanekileyo, kwaye xa ichithwa, yonke into yayiya kuba yimbi kakhulu.