Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngokukodwa ngokuzalwa kwabantwana, zonke ezi ngxenye zihamba ngasemva. Nabani na umfazi kufuneka akhumbule ukuba kungekudala xa umntu eqala ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kumthandi wakhe, uqala ukujonga abanye abafazi. Wena, njengommeli wesini obuthakathaka, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kuyona nto, inkcenkceshe yintloko yakho kwimpumelelo yakho ebomini bakho. Ukuba ubona ukuba umnqweno olwalamano lwakho alufani nelokuqala, thabatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ngokukhawuleza, mhlawumbi unobungozi ukuhlala kwisiqheno sokuzikhukhumeza, ukukhalaza kubahlobo bakho malunga nobomi bomntu obuthathaka, ushiye umyeni wakho omnye umfazi, injongo yakhe yokutshata. Ngokuqinisekileyo, emagxeni akho ubeka umthwalo wokuhlamba, ukupheka nokunyamekela umntwana wakho. Nangona kunjalo, umele ukhumbule ukuba awugcini nje ngumgcini wendawo, kodwa kunye nomfazi osondeleyo apho umyeni ufuna ukuba azive ekhululekile kuphela, kodwa nokuba ufuna ukuhlala ethanda nothando kunye nesondo.
Umfazi ofanelekileyo - odibanisa umama nomfazi kunye nenkosikazi, uhlala evuya kunye nentanda. Ukuba ukhumbule oku, awuyi kuthi xa ungahlangabezane neemeko apho umhlobo wakho ekukhohlisayo ekukhohlisile, wakuguqula. Nangona kunjalo, yintoni enokuyenza xa umthandayo efuna omnye? Ukumiswa? Nika ikhadibhodi yakho, okanye uzame ukulondoloza ulonwabo lwakho nangaluphi na uhlobo? Ukuba uxabisa ulonwabo lwakho, yilwa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umthandayo wayefanele aye kwelinye isizathu. Mhlawumbi isizathu siwe. Ukuba ngelinye ilanga uhlangabezana nemeko apho umntu obathandayo ethi uthe wagqiba ukutshata nomnye, akufanele ugijime kumakhohlisi, uhlabe amasimbali, njl. Zama ukuhlala etafileni yokuthetha, xubusha ukuba yintoni engakufanelanga. Mhlawumbi awukho mnqweno kumthandi wakho kwisimo sengqondo sesondo.
Ukuba indoda yakho ethandekayo yenza isondo kunye nawe uyeke ukuvuyisa, akudingeki uhlale uthula. Ncokola, kuba incoko ye "tete-a-tete" ekufuneka incedise ukulungisa ubuhlobo bakho, ngaphambi kokuba ihambe kakhulu. Umpikiswano wakho, oceba ukumthabatha umyeni wakho, kufuneka aqonde ukuba akukho mntu ulunge ngakumbi kwaye uyigugu kuwe kunomyeni wakho. Yiba intombi yintombi yomyeni wakho. Ukuba umyeni wakho uthe uya kutshata, shiya indlu kwaye urente indawo yokuhlala kunye nenkosikazi yakhe, mema ukuba ahlale nawe. Mkholise ukuba awuyi kucinga. Ngemfihlo evela kumyeni wakhe, nyamekela inkosikazi yakho. Ngethuba elingu-98% ukunakekelwa okunjalo kungekudala okanye emva koko kuya kuthukuthela kakhulu.
Ukuhlala uhlala nomyeni wakho, uya kukwazi ukuphinda ufumane ubuhlobo bakho obudala, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, ukuba wenza yonke imizamo. Musa ukuxinezeleka xa umyeni wakho ngokukhawuleza akuxelela ukuba akasithandi. Yintoni enye enokuyenza xa umntu obathandayo edibanisa ubomi kunye nomnye umfazi. Isitya esinye siyaqala ukuzala kunye nexesha. Zama isidlo esidala kunye ne-sauce entsha, uya kuziva uncedo olutsha. Ngokubhekiselele kubomi bentsapho, umgaqo ofanayo usebenza apha. Zama ukungafani, zinyamekele, zibandakanye umyeni wakho, ungamlahli kwi-caresses, kwaye ngoko kwenzeka ukuba umlingane wakho abe nomnye, uya kulahlwa ngokupheleleyo.