Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi bayakhalaza ukuba abaqondisisani ngamadoda. Enyanisweni, oku kwenzeka njalo, kuba abaninzi abafazi abazi nje indlela yokubonisa iingcamango zabo ngokuchanekileyo kwaye bangayiphulaphuli kuphela, kodwa bakuve oko okuthethwa ngumfana.
Musa ukuphazamisa, ungaphazamisi
Ukuba uthetha nendoda, funda indlela yokuphazamisa ngayo. Khumbula ukuba imbambano okanye ingxoxo inokuzuza kuphela ukuba amacandelo amabini akwazi ukuthetha yonke into. Ngoko ke, ukuba unomfana osemnye uqala ukuthetha ngento enokukhathazayo, ungayinaki kwiintetho ezimbini kwaye ungaphenduli. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bayaqonda abantu ngendlela engafanelekanga, ngenxa yokuba abaphulaphuli. Ukuva inxalenye yokuqala yegama, abangayithandiyo, amantombazana aqala ukumemeza nokunyana, engafuni ukuphulaphula nayiphi na into. Nangona eqinisweni, kufuneka kulandelwe yintoni eyachaza loo mfana osele wayenyanzelekile ukuba atshintshe umsindo wakhe ngenceba. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna iingxoxo zakho kunye nomfana ukukhokelela kwimiphumo emihle, ungakhathazeki ngabapolitiki kwiingxoxo ezandulela ukhetho. Khumbula ukuba umsebenzi wakho kukuphulaphula iingxabano zomntu, kwaye ungenzi konke ukuthetha ngako kwaye unganiki umbono wakho.
Musa ukuyivula
Enye impazamo abafazi abasenzayo xa bethetha namadoda kukuguquka kwezinto. Utshela ukuba akazange amqonde, kodwa lona wesifazane sele esele amemeza esithi: "Hayi, kuhle, ulungile kuphela." Umntu uthi inwele entsha i-eyidet, kwaye sele sele isigqibo sokuba elidala liyesabekayo. Olu luhlu lunokuqhubeka ngonaphakade. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuba iingxoxo zakho zingabi nxamnye nokutshutshiswa kunye nokuhlambalaza, zama ukungafuneki ngentsingiselo ephindwe kabini kumagama oluntu kwaye ungafaki nantoni na kuwe. Amadoda, ukuba baya kwintetho eqhagamshelana ngqo, bathetha konke njengoko bacinga. Ukuba uthe uthe awuqondi, kuthetha ukuba awuyiqondi. Akaboni njengento elungileyo, kodwa ulungile. Uthetha nge nyaniso. Amadoda onke asebenzisa iinyaniso, abafazi baqala ukucinga isicatshulwa seendlela ezahlukeneyo kunye ne-hyperbole, zama ukugubungela yonke into. Kakade ke, abafazi bahlala befuna ukuzenza ixhoba emehlweni omntu ongekhohlakeleyo naziwayo owamcaphukisayo. Okokuziphatha okunjalo kuvela kwinto yokuba umntu uqala ukuqwalasela intombazana yakhe njengomntu ohlazileyo kwaye akayi kuthetha naye kanye kanye, ukwenjenjalo ukuba yena kuphela akayifumani into ephosakeleyo.
Ungayibhalisi
Abasetyhini baya kufuneka baqonde ukuba amadoda aqondanga amacebo, ingakumbi ngexesha leengxoxo okanye ingxoxo. Abafana banezinye iingqondo. Ukuba bafuna ukuyicombulula le ngxaki, ke bathetha ngokukodwa malunga nalo, kodwa ningacingi ukuba ungayichaphazela njani into yokuba umntu uyaqiqa. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukufezekisa ezinye iziphumo kumntu, khuluma ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo. Umele umxelele oko ungakuthandiyo kwaye ucebise izicwangciso. Ukuba uqala ukucoca, kwaye uya kwenza amahlazo ngenxa yokuba akayiqondi iziphakamiso zakho, ngoko umfana uya kuphinda aqiniseke ukuba uSwami akaphuculanga kuthetha ngeengxaki ezinzulu, kuba oku kukhokelela kuphela ekuhlakaleni kobudlelwane. Ewe, amaninzi amantombazana athi ukuziphatha okunjalo kubulala uthando. Kodwa uthando luhlukile. Uze undikholelwe, lo mfana uya kuba lula ukulungiselela oko ufuna, ukuba uya kuziqonda ngokukodwa ngeminqweno yakho kunye nezinto ozikhethayo. Kodwa xa umntu eqala ukuqagela kwaye acinga ukuba, uhlala "ekhanda umnwe wakhe esibhakabhakeni," uyazi ukuba wenza ntoni.
Gxotha ingcamango yomthi
Yonke incoko abafazi bathanda ukuguqula ibe ngumntu wonke. Bavela kude, bahobise ibali ngeenkcukacha zeenkcukacha, ngokuqhelekileyo ukuhamba kwesihloko. Ngomntu, oku akunakuqondakala kwaye akuvumelekanga. Ukuba uthetha naye kule ndlela, ngoko uya kudideka okanye afune ukuyeka ukuphulaphula. Ukuba uthetha ngengxaki, kufuneka uqale ingxoxo ngale ngxaki, kwaye kungekhona nendlela oya ekhaya evela kumzalwana wakho, wakhumbula ngokukhawuleza umhlobo U-Anya, isoka lakhe uSeryozha, ikati lakhe iTashi, ugogo wakhe ngokukhawuleza waqonda ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lufana nobudlelwane bamaqhawe oluhlu, owalubona ngexesha elineminyaka elishumi elinesine, kunye nezinye iimeko eziphosakeleyo. Umntu wakho akadingeki ukuba azi ukuba kutheni unqume oku, ngubani na owakhumbula kwaye uvela phi. Unomdla kwinkalo ethile. Amadoda athi, eneneni, uzama ukufumana iinkcukacha kwi-cat's mother Tase, akayikufumana, kwaye xa ufika kwizinto eziphambili, kwaye kwenzeke malunga neyeshumi elinesihlanu, umfana akayiqondi into eyenzekayo. Ufuna nje ukuchaza imeko, kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ngokunokwenzeka, mfutshane kunye ne-laconic. Ukuba wenza umfanekiso, kufuneka udibanise namadoda kunye neengcamango, kwaye ungayifundi yonke into yesissis.
Bezisterik
Khumbula ukuba xa unquma ukuthetha ngokuthe ngcembe nomntu malunga nantoni na, ukuba ingxabano okanye ingxoxo yavela phakathi kwakho, akufanele uqale ukukhala okanye ukukhala ngokukhawuleza. Nangona ulwaphukile, kufuneka uzame ukubeka iintlungu. Kwaye, ngendlela, iinyembezi ezimbalwa ezilahla esitrateni sakho zingaba sisizathu esihle sokuba umntu acinge ngamagama akho. Kodwa ukumemeza okukhulu, ukunyanzelwa kunye nokuhlaselwa kwezinto ezihlaselayo kuya kumkholisa ukuba ungumntu onobungozi, odala iingxaki kwindawo elinganayo. Ngako oko, ukuze kungenzeki, qhubeka ukhuluma ngokuzinzile kwaye ngokucacileyo, akudingeki uwele kulo mntu. Kufuneka uvelise ingcamango yakho kumntu, kwaye ungamvumeli ukuba avumelane ngoncedo lokumemeza kunye nabahlaziyi. Emva koko, ukuba wenza, akuthethi ukuba umntu uyaziqonda. Ngoko soloko uzama ukuzola kwaye ubandale. Ndikholelwe, xa abantu bezama ukucombulula nabanye abafazi imibuzo ethile, bayakwazi kakhulu ukuziphatha okunjalo.
Kufuneka ukuba uqwalasele ukuba imithetho yokunxibelelana nabameli bezesondo ezinamandla ayisebenzisi kuphela kubafana kunye namadoda, kodwa nakwabazalwana, abahlobo kunye nabanye abantu abadlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho. Khumbula ukuba ukuqonda kwendoda kunye nokuqonda kwendoda kuyahlukana no-ozhenskogo, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukufumana umphumo omuhle, kufuneka uqhagamshelane ukuze loo nto iqondwe kwaye ingqiqweni.