Uqala ukukhumbula ukuba ngokukhawuleza ulwalamano lwakho luphuhlisiwe, luhle kangakanani yonke into. Wakuhambisa ikhofi ebhedini, wanikela iintyatyambo ezininzi, wavuma uthando lwakhe. Awuzange ube nexesha lokujonga emva, njengoko wakuzisa kubazali bakhe. Konke oko kwenzeka ngokoqobo kwiinyanga ezintathu zakwazi. Nangu uzayo umtshato, ubona amehlo akhe onothando, unobumnandi obuhle. Kwaye uqala ukuqonda ukuba kukho uthando ebomini ekuqaleni kokubona.
Kwaye kuza umzuzwana ebomini xa ufika kwiintsholongwane emva kokuthandana ngokukhawuleza kwaye uqalise ukuqonda ukuba ubomi bentsapho obucinga ukuba uyavuya ngokukhawuleza phambi kwemehlo akho. Uqala ukubona kumntu wakho umntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo, funda malunga nokungcatsha kwaye ukuba, kuvela, uthanda ukusela. Kwaye ngoku ubuhlobo bakho, obuqalise ngokukhawuleza, buphela ngokuqhawula umtshato. Uhlala ngaphandle komyeni wakho othandekayo, kwaye ufunde kubahlobo ukuba uxelela wonke umntu kwikhonkco ukuba uyinyani.
Awazi ukuba wenzeni kwaye yintoni imbangela yokwahlukana kobudlelwane bakho? Nje-ke awukwazanga ukubona zonke iimpawu ezibonakalayo ezinokukuxelela ukuba le ndoda ayikho. Makhe sizame ukufumanisa iimpawu ezinhlanu zomntu ongalunganga, kwaye uziqwalasele ngokwahlukileyo.
Isibonakaliso sokuqala kukunyanzelisa ubudlelwane.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba emva kweveki ezimbini omaziyo, okhethiweyo wakho ufuna ukukuzisa kubazali bakhe, musa ukuvuya kakhulu. Oku akuthethi ukuba uthanda kakhulu kuwe. Indoda yakho ibambelela ubudlelwane kunye nomsebenzi wakhe kukuzalisa ngezipho kunye nokuvuma kwakhe uthando. Uzama ukukwenza ukuze ulwalamano lwakho luhambe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungekho ixesha lokujonga emva kwaye ubone kwi-minus yayo yonyulo. Ngohlobo olunjalo olukhawulezayo, kufuneka ufike kwiintsingiselo zakho kwaye ungalahlekelwa yintloko yakho, ngenxa yokuba umntu wakho kusondele ixesha elizayo unokukuzisa iintlungu ezininzi. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho uphuthukisa izinto, zama ukuthetha naye ngako. Yaye ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe zinyani, uya kuphuhlisa umlinganiselo, kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ke lo mkhuba, uthi into ephosakeleyo kulwalamano lwakho.
Isibini isibonakaliso sinobudlelwane bobudlelwane bezobuhlobo.
Sonke abafazi asifuni ngokwenene ukwazi ngexesha elidlulileyo lekhethiweyo. Siyakholelwa ukuba yonke into ayenaye phambi kwakho ayinandaba nawe. Kodwa oku kuphosakeleyo. Kukho amadoda amaninzi anamava amaninzi kunye nabasetyhini kunye nolwalamano lwabo luphelile rhoqo ngekhefu. Amadoda anjalo akafuni ukuhlala yedwa kwaye azama ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha kunokuba acinge malunga nesizathu sokuba kuphazamise ubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Kwaye akukho nantoni na isiqinisekiso sokuba, ukuba nawe ngoku, ulwalamano lwakho aluyi kuphelisa ngesithuba esifanayo. Kufuneka ufike kwiingqondo zakho ngexesha kwaye ucinge ukuba kutheni ukhethiweyo wakho wayedla. Hlala kunye nomthandayo kwaye uzame ukuthetha nentliziyo yakhe entliziyweni. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba ubuninzi obunjani ebomini bakhe ubuhlobo obunzulu kunye nantoni ebangela isithuba. Kufuneka ufumanise kuye ukuba uninzi kangakanani unecala ngokuphula ubuhlobo bakhe obudlulileyo kunye nendlela akhuluma ngayo ngala mabhinqa awabenabo ubudlelwane naye. Ukuba indoda yakho ityala abafazi ngekhefu kunye nokuphendula malunga nabo ngamazwi amnandi kakhulu, ithetha ukuba ungumqhubi we-serial. La madoda anengxaki yengqondo, kwaye awanako ukuqala ulwalamano olutsha, kwaye awazi ukuba ungalondoloza njani.
Uphawu lwesithathu ludlulileyo.
Udinga ukufumana ibali lakhe lobomi kunye nobulili obuhlukile, kwaye ufumanisa ngempilo yakhe yengqondo nokuba ngaba unesigqeba esedlulileyo. Ukuxela kwangaphambili ikamva lakho kunye nendoda kwangaphambili, kufuneka ufunde ngokucophelela ikhefu lakhe elidlulileyo. Ukuba umntu wakho unetyala lokuhlaselwa okanye ulwaphulo-mthetho, ngoko undikholelwe, umntu onjalo akayi kuba ngumyeni noyise. Kwaye ukuba wakha waphakamisa isandla kumfazi ebomini bakhe, akukho nto iqinisekisa ukuba akayi kuphakamisela kuwe.
Uphawu lwesine luphethini lweendlela zokuziphatha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abaninzi abafazi bacinga ukuba baya kukwazi ukulungisa umntu wabo. Bacinga ukuba uthando lunokutshintsha nawuphi na umntu. Ukuba uqaphela indoda yakho ekuziphatheni kwayo, ayitshintshi nantoni na yonke into oyenzayo, yonke into iyahlala yinto efanayo, kufuneka ucinge ukuba uyayidinga. Kuloo madoda, indlela yokuziphatha ezinzile kunye nohlobo olufanayo lwabantu alukwazi ukutshintshwa.
Uphawu lwesihlanu ngabafazi abakhethayo.
Kufuneka ufumane ukuba uluhlobo luni lwabafazi abakhethileyo ubudlelwane. Ukuba uthe waxelela ukuba abafazi bakhe bahlaziyekile, ngoko uthi ukhetha abafazi ngokuzithoba. Kwaye nangona awukho konke oko, uya kuzama ukukwenza umntu onomdla. Ngenxa yokuba uyabathanda abafazi, okungalawulwa lula. Akufanele umnike ithuba.
Siyathemba, sikuxelele indlela yokuchonga iimpawu ezinhlanu zomntu ongalunganga, kwaye walumkisa lakho ikamva malunga neephosiso oza kuba nazo kakhulu. Qaphela ngakumbi xa ukhetha iqabane lobomi bakho!