Ngenxa yoko, intanethi yezonxibelelwano, injongo yayo yayiyigama elithi "Fumana Ihlabathi Lakho", liya kuba yinyaniso kwiminyaka engama-2-3 yobukho bokuba iqela lezinto eziphambene neendlela ezichaseneyo kakhulu kunye nezobulili zesondo. Ngokuchanekileyo, inkampani yabantu abaqhelekileyo, incinci ihlanjululwe yiqela "abaqhubi" kwiindlela zesondo. Kodwa kaninzi kangakanani kwi-intanethi onokuyifumana yakho uthando?
Kunomdla, nangona kunjalo, uphando lwama-sociologists aseRussia luthi abantu baninzi bawela emgibeni, eziboniswe kwicandelo elithi "Injongo yokumazi" kungekhona "ukuthetha," kodwa "ngobudlelwane obunzulu." Oku kuyinyaniso, ngokukodwa.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ingcamango yokufumana umntu ogqityiweyo kwaye ukhula, ngoko yonke into ayibi kakhulu. Ngoku akusiwo wonke umntu owaziyo ukuba inani elikhulu labakhophiswano kwiintlalo. amanethiwekhi afuna iinjongo zamanomdla kunokuba afunde nabo kunye nabo ekilasini, ukusetyenziswa okanye iifoto ezivela eBurzhunet, ezingaphantsi kaninzi zabo, ezifakwe kwindawo efanelekileyo yenkqubo, eyayifumana isiteketiso "Photojazz".
Kuyaphawuleka ukuba uluvo lwamavoti abo bafumene isiqingatha sesibini ngokusebenzisa i-Web bathi "ukufumana" kufumaneke kuphela kwiiprojekthi ezinjenge "Odnoklassniki", kuneendawo ezikhethekileyo zokuthandana. Kule meko, iinqanaba zalabo abafisa "ukuthandana ngothando" kunye "nesondo ngaphandle kwemithwalo-mboleko" iya kuba ngumyalelo wokuncinci.
Illusions
Masiqaphele into yokuba iingqondo zengqondo zixoxa, kodwa ezingangcweliswa kakhulu ngabanini beeprojekthi kunye ne-ilk yabo. Ubume bethu bunjalo kukuba "umkhwa" ukuzalisa amacandelo angaziwa onxibelelwano kunye "nesigxina" esinokwenzeka ngeengcamango malunga nomntu onobuhle. Uninzi kuninzi, oku kuchaphazela amaxesha kK kwiintanethi zentlalo.
Ukuqhelana kwi-intanethi yaseRashiya kunye nomfana osemfazweni ongeyona mfanekiso ophakamileyo ophezulu kwiphepha lemibuzo yakhe, uqala ukucinga ukuba lo bunqunu bubonakala bubuhle obuhle. Ukubona isithombe esihle kunye nomfanekiso kunye nokuthetha naye ngokusebenzisa ingxoxo, mhlawumbi ucinga ukuba uthetha kunye nePavaroti, kwaye kwintlanganiso kuphela kunokuthi izandi ezikhutshwe ngu "mhle" zide nelizwi likaLucho.
Ngomlomo wesiNgesi. Ingaphezulu kweyesibini kwantathu yeentloko zeenkampani zaseBrithani zibhaliswe.
Nangona emva kokufumanisa onke amanqaku "angenangqiqo" yecala, awuyi kukwazi "ukubona" umntu njengoko uya kuba yinyani. Nangona kunjalo, akukho mntu ucinga ngale nto ngesizathu esithile, uthembela ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba kwixesha lesihlanu (elinamanci mabini, ikhulu, ...), lo mfana uya kuba yintoni into engamncedayo.
Elinye iphuzu elifanele liqwalaselwe xa lenza iprofayili yentombazana enhle kwaye izama ukumfumana ilungele kumbuzo-mibuzo abameli beesahluko esahlukileyo sesini. Kwinqanaba elithi "Injongo yokwazisa" kuya kuba ngcono ukuba ungathethi "ngobudlelwane obunzulu" -kule ntsimi iya kuba yintlanzi, ukuze ingabhubhisi "abalobi". Ngokufanayo, akudingeki ukuba uhlasele kuphela kumbuzo, abanikazi "abathembekileyo nabanyanisekileyo" baqaphele ukuba bakulungele apha, ngaphandle kwamanye amazwe okanye kwiintanethi zethu zentlalo "ukuba nabantwana" baze "batshatile."
Isango kwilizwe elihlukileyo
Ekunene kwi-Intanethi, ubuhlobo obunzulu buyingcali, inqanaba lokuthembela apho iKopperfield ngokwayo iza kuba nomona. Le nto iya kuba yimpendulo kumbuzo wendlela ehlala kwi-intanethi ongayifumana ngayo uthando lwakho. Awukwazi ukufezekisa iimvakalelo ezifanayo, ngelixa ungakhange ukhangele kwi "intsimbi" oyintandokazi kwaye ungayi kuthetha ngokuthe ngqo. Nangona kunjalo, abantu bakholelwa le ngcamango ngokugqithiseleyo ngenxa yezizathu ezithile kunokuba, umzekelo, kwiindlela zobuqhetseba abaziwayo.
Emva kokuba ufunde umhlathi owedlule, uninzi luya kuthetha ngokuthe ngqo: "I-delirium igcwele. Akukho mntu uphilile uya kukholelwa oku. " Ewe, makhe sibone umzekelo weminyaka emithathu edlulileyo. Ukulinganisela, ukugula ngengqondo, ukuma emsebenzini ngokuma kakuhle nokuba nolwazi oluhle kunye nabamelwane bakhe kunye nabaziwayo, ohlala eMissouri, uDrew Laurie ukhokela ngandlela-thile kwi-questionnaire ye-MySpace.
Kubonakala ngathi yonke into ilula. Iphephancwadi kuphela "kwindawo yam" ayichazi umama wentombazana eselula, kodwa insizwa. Into yokuba iiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambili, intombi yakhe yaxabana nommelwane wakhe uMegan Meyer kunye nabahlobo bakhe. "Unomama ononophelo" ngoncedo lwemibuzo ephindwe ngokukhawuleza nangobunkohlakalo: ukuzithobela iiveki ezimbalwa kunye noMeyer egameni le "online macho", wabhala kuye ukuba "kungcono ukuyingxenye", ukongeza ilizwi ngelizwi: "Ihlabathi liya kuba ngcono ngaphandle kwakho." Emva kokufunda lo myalezo kunye nokucinga, intombazana yaxhomeka ekamelweni layo. Iyona "enkulu" yebali ibali kukuba iNkundla ePhakamileyo yaseLos Angeles ayizange ifumane inqaku apho uDrew angaboshwa khona. Kwaba "ubuqhetseba" ngexesha elifutshane.
Ngendlela, le meko yeso sizathu sokunganeliseki ngamazwe aseMerika. amanethiwekhi. Phakathi kwabangenelisekanga, kungekhona nje abantu abaqhelekileyo. Ngoko, eUnited States sele sele iqulunqa intshukumo "yokhuseleko lwe-intanethi." Iphethwe nguMarali Hancock. Ethetha malunga nezonxibelelwano zentlalo, waqaphela ukuba ezi zilandelayo zineengozi ezininzi kunye nabantwana abanako ukufikelela kwi-Twitter, Facebook, MySpace kunye neenkonzo ezifanayo.